OK, I am posting this as a field report, but also for discussion, because it's something people have many different opinions on, I know, and i'm sure it's not the same for everyone.

So, on Saturday we went to a wedding, and it was a family wedding which i wanted to look really nice for, but i'm slightly odd proportions since having a baby so off the rack dresses don't tend to fit well. My bust really changed from a B/ small C to finally an E even after losing baby weight, so I had to go to the dressmakers in town and get a new dress. I may have stressed a bit here about that process (sorry!), but it all worked out :)

We went to the wedding and had great fun, we danced for about 2 hours and my daughter was angelic, so everything was great. On the drive back hubs said something like "you looked gorgeous, I really liked your dress, and you didn't look like you were going clubbing." Later he said that it I looked like a wife, not a girlfriend.

I guess i got the image right for my husband, quite a lot of the ladies had gone for little mini dresses for the evening and I think he felt that would have been wrong for a wife and mother and the contrast was what he noticed. But maybe on a young woman that is fine?

So, anyway, I think that dressing appropriately is part of unspoken communication which men really pick up on and it would be good to hear other ladies ideas on this.