What are you working on, or what should you start working on, in your relationship/pursuit of a relationship?

51cab · 2018-09-14T13:32:39+00:00

Biggest thing for me right now is being direct. Making sure I'm clear with my husband about what I want from him. In the past, when I thought I was clear, I wasn't. I can't just say, "I'm hungry," because he sees it as an observation. I have to say, "I'm hungry. Let's get something to eat now." I've stated what I want and when. I can't just say, "I'm tired." Again, it's an observation. I have to say, "I'm tired. Will you please watch the boys for an hour while I rest?" It gives a specific request and a time. I've been married 15 years, and I'm still working on this aspect.

jack_hammarred · 2018-09-14T13:12:33+00:00

I'm having a few minor surgeries to address several chronic issues that impact my quality of life. Because I can't work out and lift weights while I recover, I'm using this opportunity to do a cut to get to get my bodyfat down a tad bit more. I'll also be using the down time to read a stack of books I'm picking up from the library today.

Hopefully, once I'm fully recovered in a few weeks, I won't have nearly as much chronic pain (I hope, at least).

teaandtalk · 2018-09-14T20:55:57+00:00

I'm getting some great ideas from this thread! My husband and I are about to embark on an LDR for a year or two (only 5 hours from each other but that's enough) so we are firming up some plans/guidelines/etc. In the meantime, I'm thinking about my goals for what is almost a period of 'nun mode'. Will comment later!

jack_hammarred · 2018-09-14T10:53:22+00:00

In lieu of the four archetypes, I’m trying to embrace a goal in all areas!

COURTESAN I’d like to keep our calendar filled with exciting, fun activities that he won’t have to plan or know about. Whenever we have a free evening I’d like us to get in the car and give him the GPS and just enjoy stimulating new experiences!

MADONNA I’m doing my 12 week NT read through and hoping to be able to support him in his faith with the things I learn as well as becoming a woman with more religious knowledge and confidence.

QUEEN I’m rolling out our plan to eat more healthily and lose some body fat! I’ll be doing meal planning, buying a bulk food store membership, cooking twice a day and freezing left overs, and finding a WiFi scale for us to track progress. So excited to finally dig in HARD to this!

NURTURER As always, I’m working toward being more receptive and truly hearing what he needs even if he doesn’t say it with words, and really acting in accordance with what I hear. It’s an ongoing challenge for me that I’ll likely always be inclined to struggle with, but always keeping it in the forefront of my mind seems to be positive.

Title	What are you working on, or what should you start working on, in your relationship/pursuit of a relationship?
Author	jack_hammarred
Upvotes	9
Comments	19
Date	September 14, 2018 10:47 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWives
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