We all have things that we want to improve and that we want to get done. I often read here about women who have amazing to do lists, XL sheets, organizers and things to help them meet their goals. I also read fairly often about women who have anxiety here (I haven't connected the dots. I don't know if they're the same women).

I'm not an anxious person by nature, but I can tell you there are days where I wake up and feel completely overwhelmed by what I have to get done that day on my to-do list. That knowledge can make me completely shut down, hop on the internet and kill so much time that I get very little done. That is so counterintuitive but I allow the pressure to get the better of me.

I'm a housewife so a day might be:

dishes, laundry, vacuum, clean bathrooms, grocery shop, pick up, dust, etc ad infinitum

These were things I needed to do on top of regular daily routines. Make breakfast for the kids, decide on and make dinner, get the kids through school. Often days I'd get through school and shut down because I was overwhelmed.

My husband found this program by Tony Robbins (don't stop reading now. I thought the same thing. It's stupid and a waste of time. It wasn't a waster, AT ALL and if you can get your hands on it at the library, purchase it, borrow it, whatever, give it a try. It is so much more in-depth than I go to here and really good), and he asked me to give it a go.

What you are to do is change your focus. You come up with a handful of general goals. We all have to-do lists with every little things on it that we have to accomplish and you still need to do this. At the very least it dumps our brain on to a piece of paper so we don't have to think about what needs to be done any more. But these are not what we focus on. Take a look at my list above. These all fall under a general category. I will be a domestic goddess and make my home a soft place to land for my husband and family!

Yeah, it's cheesy, but it feels good. Your goals should feel good. Because the better they feel the more you're going to want to meet them. And here's the thing with this. Say I get three things done on my list above, but not the others. I haven't failed. I worked toward my goal! I made significant progress toward making my home beautiful. I don't need to look at what I didn't accomplish, just the fact that that day I did 3 things to make my home comfortable is something to be happy about. The other things I can do tomorrow, or the next day. You will be shocked by how much more you do get done, because your mind doesn't become overwhelmed when you think to yourself, "Today I'm going to make my home a soft place to land!" instead of thinking, "today I need to do X, Y, Z and also, L, M, N, O, and P." Your focus is on 1 thing! The other things are just details.

So write out 4-5 goals. Make them fun! Make sure that there is something in there for you alone! Then that to-do list, that is secondary. Put those little details underneath your big fun goal as just things to help you along, but what you want to accomplish is

  1. I will be a domestic goddess and make my home a soft place to land for my family.

  2. I will learn about out beauty so I can be a sexy MILF for my husband.

  3. I will read about X as it is something I need in my life!

  4. Be the wife my husband dreams about in his deepest dreams and can't keep away from!

I don't know, I'm terrible at the fun goal making part but make it something that feels really good. Because the better it feels, the more you will be able to focus on what it really important, because at the end of the day that pile of clothes in your hamper is insignificant compared to what you can make of yourself and your life if you focus is in the right place.

Ask questions, because I have only touched on a very little part of this here. But give it a try!