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Will soon be quitting my job and becoming a full-time housewife. I (26f) want to impress my husband (31m) with how well I take on the role, so what advice do you have?

August 3, 2018

Husband (of one year) has recently got a promotion, and he thinks it's now possible for me to quit my job and keep the house. This was the plan originally when we married, but financial issues made us delay it.

Currently we work similar hours, I do all the cooking and laundry, he does the dishes and we split general cleaning. We have two dogs, but no kids yet (although once I'm settled into a homemaker life we plan on having children).

I really want to appear the perfect housewife for him, so that he can see it was the right decision, so would love any advice on how to do so! I already plan on doing fairly elaborate meals each day, as well as putting a lot of effort into keeping the house spotless.

Also I'd be interested to hear any challenges/problems you think I may come across.


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Title Will soon be quitting my job and becoming a full-time housewife. I (26f) want to impress my husband (31m) with how well I take on the role, so what advice do you have?
Author mrshousespouse
Upvotes 25
Comments 5
Date August 3, 2018 10:54 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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[–]Anoulie 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

My goal is for things to run as smoothly as possible. I try to be very observant and proactive so my husband never has to point anything out to me that needs to be done. So if we're running low on toothpaste, I buy another two tubes, store them in the bottom shelf of the bathroom cabinet and once the tube is empty, I throw it away and put a new one on the sink.

Same with laundry, dishes, groceries, cleaning... if my husband has to ask me to buy more coffee creamer because he's run out (I don't drink coffee), that's a whoopsie on my part. Note that my husband doesn't get mad or disappointed at all if anything like that happens, it's just a goal I set for myself.

I would try to figure out your household's rhythm: How often do you have to go to which stores, run which errands? How frequently do you have to do laundry/vaccuum/order new dog food?

Note on the dogs: As part of your housewife duties, consider taking on the less-fun parts of dog ownership like refilling water bowls.

Also, I would try to do most, if not all of my housewife stuff during the day, when he's at work, so you'll have time to hang out with him when he gets home. But give him space if he needs it, obviously.

[–]mrshousespouse[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yes, I really want to make sure I'm doing everything without him having to remind me. And I think you're right about doing things while he's at work. That'll be a bit of a switch up from now, where I'm doing the cleaning/laundry/etc. in the evening. Do you find it relatively easy as a housewife getting everything done before 5/6PM?

Also, do you get much chance to sleep in in the mornings? Currently I'm getting up at 6AM for work, so I'm looking forward to having more relaxed mornings.

[–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hey great, congrats! I offer the following random tips:

1) Get into the holidays. One of my favorite parts about becoming a housewife was decorating the house for Christmas, planning gingerbread houses, all of the holiday baking distributed to the neighbors, sending Christmas cards...all of the stuff I never had time to do when working. So, this means other things like planning New Years Eve to be special, Fourth of July BBQs, decorating the front yard for Halloween, making a romantic dinner at home or sending him to work with cupcakes for Valentine's Day, etc. Make his holiday breaks as special as possible.

2) Since you don't have kids you may have spare time even after the cleaning and cooking. Use that time to improve your appearance. If you didn't do hair and makeup every day because you were too busy with work, then do it now. Also, slate some time to go to the gym if possible. Still make an effort to look good even if you're home all day.

3) You might get a little stir crazy being at home all day with reduced company. Resist the urge to yak his ear off when he walks through the door. Give him a big hug and say how happy you are to have him home, but then let him decompress for as long as he needs. Set the tone of the home as a sanctuary by keeping things quiet.

Edit for No. 4, which should arguably be above 3...

4) While cleaning or cooking, listen to podcasts or audiobooks. Done every day, you'll be better informed and more educated than your career counterparts who unfortunately don't get the opportunity to learn much sitting in their cubicles.

[–]timeforstretchpants30s | married | housewife13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Talk to Husband. Make sure you understand what he expects. Are there any tasks he wants to keep doing? Who will be responsible for paying bills, walking dogs, car maintenance, etc?

Housewife =/= homebound. Get out and interact with other humans during the day. A class, the gym, lunch with friends. Something fun and simulating, with the bonus that it will provide you something to talk about later. Cooking and cleaning aren't interesting discussion topics.

Becoming a housewife should create a low-stress environment. Relax but be observant of ways you can improve your home life.

[–]BlueButterfly777 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A basic flexible household cleaning/laundry/errand schedule, tweaked as needed. A running grocery list. And, meal planning if that helps you. A place for everything and a routine to keep it there. Also, a little fun built in just for you! Best wishes 😊

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