Wise Words

[deleted] · 2016-05-21T00:59:26+00:00

Don't compare your behind the scenes with other people's highlight reel. (I heard this about facebook)

eliza_schuyler · 2016-05-21T07:32:11+00:00

I’ll kick this off with:

“Worry about your own story “(A CS Lewis quote, I believe) was something my mother used to quote at as continually as children when we were more concerned with our siblings’ misbehavior than our own…
Clean up after yourself as you cook a meal. Don't leave everything to after dinner- you won't feel like it then!
Listen to old people. Like sit down and really listen and try to understand where they are coming from, how their life experiences have led to their unique perspective. People just keep getting better with age. This particular lead-by-example behaviour has changed my life. Thanks, mum!

[deleted] · 2016-05-21T01:35:09+00:00

There is no substitute for hard work.

I have heard variations of this, and it certainly isn't earth-shattering advice...but I continually see articles, products, and books all promising faster solutions, with superior results, for far less effort. Which never works (even if if it does in the short term, it won't in the long run).

guilietta · 2016-05-23T21:54:02+00:00

When my aunt got married 35 years ago, her grandmother (born early 1900s) hugged her at the reception and whispered "keep his belly full and his pecker empty."

SleepingBeautyWokeUp · 2016-05-21T07:30:20+00:00

My mother used to always say that women with short hair who wore button up shirts and businessy pants looked like lesbians and as such would only attract lesbians, does that count? LOL! She had a very feminine aesthetic, and was not shy about pointing out to me when she saw a woman "dressed like a man" or "with a man's hair cut." Weirdly, she had no problem with women being gay, she even had several gay women who lives on our street and would hang out with her who would join in on this talk with her! She just thought women dressing like that were on the wrong path to attracting and keeping a man. She would say it's very easy to get the man you want if you look like a woman, can feed them well, and "treat them well" but there was always a tone applied to "treat them well" that made it clear she meant sex.

jade_cat · 2016-05-21T22:45:45+00:00

My grandmothers were the ones who gave me valuable life lessons and advice.

Favourite quotes

"Last call for lunch!!" : My paternal grandmother was a French speaker, but she would say that in English. Everyone would come running to the kitchen to eat her delicious food.
"Shoo! Men have no place in the kitchen!" : That same grandmother would say that when the boys (and men) would chill and talk to each other in the kitchen while my grandmother was trying to prepare dinner. She was very attached to traditional gender roles, and for her, the kitchen was the work room of women, not men. Also, she was a very small woman, but when she was in the kitchen with her dress and apron and her rolling pin in hand, nobody wanted to contradict her. :)

A piece of good life advice

Do not be a "free lunch": My paternal grandmother had brothers, and when they were in their early 20's they would talk about how they knew Miss So-And-So was a "free lunch" (said in English). My grandmother was horrified by how they were talking about these women and she would tell herself she would never be a "free lunch". She passed down the advice to me.
Trust Providence and Always see the positive in every situation: Both my grandmothers' lives were filled with many obstacles, yet they were extremely resilient. They accepted challenges as they came and knew that they would resolve themselves eventually, and that no matter how dire a situation was, there was always a positive side to it, such as taking it as a life lesson.

VintageVee · 2016-05-21T09:18:12+00:00

1) never let him forget he's a MAN (for me this is never more at the forefront of my mind than when I feel like having a little nag or moan - I will stop and think, he's a MAN. There isnt going to be a nice little debate over how this gets done. He isn't a friend. Let him be and shush. )

2) "least said soonest mended" (you don't need to air your every viewpoint. )

3) I grew up very close to my family - my Nan would visibly disagree with an action of my grandad, and stop herself before saying it. Still does. They still hold hands at 80 and are very happy.

Title	Wise Words
Author	eliza_schuyler
Upvotes	14
Comments	21
Date	May 21, 2016 12:45 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWives
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4kbc8l/wise_words/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/RedPillWives/wise-words.209971 https://theredarchive.com/post/209971