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A conversation with my friend's husband

January 3, 2017

I have a girlfriend who's a bit older than me, almost 50, married to a German man about 55 years old. They have two children together. A few weeks ago I had an interesting conversation with her husband (her not in the vicinity) about relationships.

The husband had worked all over Asia for over a decade (China, Thailand, Taiwan, Singapore, Malaysia) and was telling me about his adventures before he married. He started talking about all the women he met, and we got onto a topic of how in Asia there's a lot of women who fit either in the "trashy" or "classy" category, and especially with the abundance of Asian prostitution, you have to be careful with how you present yourself in those countries.

He then told me how he had definitely had his share of "trashy women," however:

"They're just for play. Most women you have as a young man are for play. It's in a man's nature to see what kind of women and how many you're able to get. But to bring back to my family? No way in hell. I'd be shamed and disgraced for bringing that kind of woman back home. I knew I was going to marry [my friend /his wife] because she's honest, hardworking, humble and elegant."

(Also adding to that my friend still keeps in shape - she's a size 2 petite in her late forties, hasn't cut off her hair, has exquisite taste in clothes that are sensual but demure.)

Anyways, just a bit of random RP theory/field report regarding the truth of "plate material" and "wife material"!

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Title A conversation with my friend's husband
Author vanBeethovenLudwig
Upvotes 38
Comments 19
Date January 3, 2017 8:56 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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[–]Nyquil-Junkie13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

As the great sage Rick James said of the superfreak.... "She's a very kinky girl, the kind you don't take home to mother"

[–]ragnarockette4 Stars5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

But as Usher said "We want a lady in the street, but a freak in the bed."

[–]Nyquil-Junkie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Also, the holy prophet Frank Sinatra said... "A lady doesn't wander all over the room, and blow on some other guys dice"

[–]Willow-girl7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's interesting. As a young man, one of my ex-husbands was in the Army and stationed in Korea. (This was many years before we met.) He told me quite a bit about how women live over there, specifically the prostitutes, bar girls and the kind of "prostitute-lites" who make a living by shacking up with soldiers such as himself. He had a "kept woman" and it seemed he enjoyed her services, but when I asked if he had ever considered bringing her back to the States and marrying her, he recoiled in horror, lol.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think this is generally very true. My fiance was 30 when I met him, never married and no kids, but he sure had his fun. Me? I'd been divorced a few years, but had no children, had only been with the one person, and had a masters degree and worked two jobs. I certainly wasn't the girl who went into back rooms at parties... and now I have a ring. It's a pretty simple concept, yet there are still women scratching their heads while they watch Netflix alone.

[–]PrettyChilly12 points13 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

Does anyone else find this mentality disgusting? How does this man's wife feel about being sloppy seconds? He had fun with "trashy" women and then settled with a "pure woman". Apart from possibly impregnating women whom he considers to be trashy, he could have definitely caught STD's that he'd then pass on to the pure woman who never slutted it up. I strongly believe men and women should have the same standards in this case and strive to only sleep with potential life-mates.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree with you. I don't think anyone should be sleeping around, it's one of the problems that has contributed to our societal decay over the last 50 years.

Women can vet sexual promiscuity out in a relationship, same as men though. If a woman doesn't approve of a man's other count she can next him.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you, goodness. I was starting to think I was the only woman who felt this way.

[–]vanBeethovenLudwigEndorsed Contributor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I also agree with you, but who's to say this when our own RPW reading list has a book that's called "Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough"?

"Sloppy seconds" also implies that maybe the husband actually wanted to marry a "trashy woman" but couldn't, so he "settled" for a classy one. Which in this case is different than just sleeping around with no intentions and marrying a woman who is worth it.

For example, I know this Russian man whose first wife was a beautiful Korean pianist. They had a child together. But she ended up having an affair with his colleague, so they divorced and the Russian man found a second wife who was still beautiful but not to the same "sexiness" as the Korean woman. I feel like this situation is more of a "sloppy seconds" for the second wife.

[–]DupreeMcJones points points [recovered] | Copy Link

Interesting, what do you ladies think about men who refuse to date women with high n-counts?

[–]PrettyChilly0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think that's totally rational on the man's part. I also believe this is a case of R vs K selection preferences.

[–]GrowlingBears0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Good luck with that. Try living with the male sex drive and then get back to us.

[–]PrettyChilly1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women have sex drives as well, and some are stronger than most men's, otherwise sluts wouldn't be a thing. It's simply what we prefer, and we prefer men who abstain in the face of desire for a greater good.

[–]NittanyLioness848 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

One man's trash is another man's treasure. shrugs

[–]lacygnus18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Agreed. A woman can be "plate material” to a high quality man but easily lock down a beta.

[–]lelease points points [recovered] | Copy Link

Most women you have as a young man are for play ... I knew I was going to marry [my friend /his wife] because she's honest, hardworking, humble and elegant."

Are RPW not bothered by this?

[–]NittanyLioness8411 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No point being bothered. We can only control our own behavior. Guys will spin plates because women will let them.

[–]lacygnus8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bothered by the traits he looked for in his wife or the fact that young men have women for play?

[–]Banincoming3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Stone those slatterns and put a scarlet letter on their chest!

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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