I have a girlfriend who's a bit older than me, almost 50, married to a German man about 55 years old. They have two children together. A few weeks ago I had an interesting conversation with her husband (her not in the vicinity) about relationships.

The husband had worked all over Asia for over a decade (China, Thailand, Taiwan, Singapore, Malaysia) and was telling me about his adventures before he married. He started talking about all the women he met, and we got onto a topic of how in Asia there's a lot of women who fit either in the "trashy" or "classy" category, and especially with the abundance of Asian prostitution, you have to be careful with how you present yourself in those countries.

He then told me how he had definitely had his share of "trashy women," however:

"They're just for play. Most women you have as a young man are for play. It's in a man's nature to see what kind of women and how many you're able to get. But to bring back to my family? No way in hell. I'd be shamed and disgraced for bringing that kind of woman back home. I knew I was going to marry [my friend /his wife] because she's honest, hardworking, humble and elegant."

(Also adding to that my friend still keeps in shape - she's a size 2 petite in her late forties, hasn't cut off her hair, has exquisite taste in clothes that are sensual but demure.)

Anyways, just a bit of random RP theory/field report regarding the truth of "plate material" and "wife material"!