I saw a link to this letter on TRP, and decided to make a few appropriate changes so that it is instead directed at women.

Here is the original letter. If there is anything you would add or change, please let me know.

Dear Jaded Straight Men Women,

I know many women have failed you. I know your heart has endured a lot of stomping, your pride has been shattered, your trust has been compromised and your spirit has been abused. But, you’re not alone — in fact, many women have been in your shoes.

It’s so easy to get frustrated, to call all women whores players then chug a beer and stumble out the door for a night of debauchery. That’ll show them, right? Nope, that’s not going to prove anything except that you’re too drunk and too obnoxious to be in public.

You must understand that women do not exist solely for sex and to treat you like a princess. By only worrying about why he won’t sleep with and then commit to you, you’re missing the point entirely — just because a man got dressed and went out to a bar does not mean that he is out for sex and a relationship. It’s shameful for you to believe that men go out with the intention of going home committing to you after sleeping with you. Stop immediately and adjust your mentality.

Men Women, I know you don’t all think and act this way, but when you partake in conversations with friends who do think this way, you must stop excusing their ideas. What happened to simply getting to know someone? Are we so deeply immersed in hookup culture that we no longer feel the need to have conversations? When was the last time you took a girl man on a date and courted her Him? When was the last time you made a real effort with a woman, and insisted on picking up the tab? When was the last time you proved yourself to be a catch? When was the last time you took a hard look at what you have to offer a man that makes you worth being in a relationship with? Stop assuming that you are perfect, and blaming all men for being flawed and clueless for not tying themselves to you.

So what if you’ve been hurt in the past? It’s rare to find someone who has never been scorned in a relationship. Stop projecting your past onto your present and future. Just because there was a woman who violated your trust does not mean the random man sitting next to you will do the same thing. That guy you foolishly gave up pursuing for no reason may not be around when you finally open your eyes and heart after sleepingwalking your life away with random people. If you want a good man, prove your worth as a good woman. Be considerate and kind, know your boundaries and don't sleep around.

Stop letting your teenage girlboyfriend dictate your inability to take a chance on anyone in your present. Stop letting your college girlboyfriend who cheated on you handicap your romantic future. Relationships aren’t easy, but when they’re right, they’re worth it.

Life is too short to spend so much time playing games. The more games you play, the more you cheat yourself from the potential of true happiness. As long as you fail to be honest with yourself, you will continue to run into problems with potential partners.

If you miss him, call him and let him know. If you want to get to know him better, ask him out. Ask him to spend time with you during the day — you know, like when the sun is still out and you’re sober. If that man at the bar is someone you’re interested in dating, ask for his number. Take him home if there is a mutual interest. But Remember that he is a human being who has likely been hurt and had his heart stomped on — just like you. Treat him honorably. Be honest.

Sincerely,

A Woman Good Men Everywhere