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A few ways to enhance your looks & femininity

February 5, 2019

Hi everyone! A little background on how I started working on making the most of my looks. I’m pretty average looking in general but my face isn’t the prettiest and I’m not in great shape so I really started feeling down on myself a few months ago when I started reading about TRP and discovering how important looks are to men.

Since then I’ve started making just small improvements here and there, and I’m already feeling WAY better and I’ve been getting more attention/compliments too! I thought I might as well share about what’s worked for me, so here it is:

*Please note that I’m super low maintenance, I barely wear makeup or do much to my hair and I am not someone who can consistently go get her nails done every two weeks. I needed to find ideas that didn’t involve too much fuss, and would look natural without much daily effort.

1) gym. I am super inconsistent with exercise, but I realized a while ago that I have just enough time on my lunch break to go quickly to the small gym at work. I lift dumbbells and do short (10 minute) HIIT sessions which have been really helping me to tone up and lose fat. I only work out about 20-30 minutes, but doing that 3-4 times a week when it’s already built in to my day (lunch hour) has really begun to make a difference. It also helps a lot with my mood!

2) eyelash serum. There are a bunch of these you can buy online. I got RapidLash and it works great. Takes a few weeks of consistent use but my eyelashes are now WAY longer and thicker and people ask me if I have eyelash extensions when I wear mascara. You can also use it to fill in the hair growth in your brows!

3) high end shampoo/conditioner. I really did not want to do this one because I’m generally pretty frugal and will buy the cheapest ones on sale at the drug store. But I went to get highlights a few weeks ago and the colourist told me that I needed to start using good quality (sulfate free/silicone free) stuff so I saved up and bought some Davines brand. It has actually worked wonders and my hair is way healthier/shinier.

4) SKIN CARE!! I don’t wear much makeup so I realized it’s really important for me to have good skin. I started a consistent routine with a benzoyl peroxide face wash, aha/bha exfoliant, retinol, rose hip oil and weleda skin food moisturizer. My skin has honestly never looked better and I almost think I reversed some signs of aging if that’s possible?

5) silk pillowcase. Hair is not as tangled and doesn’t feel so dry/breaky in the morning anymore. Helps a ton with frizz and shininess.

6) press on nails. They have some really cute neutral ones for $15 at the drug store. You can cut them and shape them like real nails, and mine stay on for at least week at a time. There are some good videos on YouTube for how to make them last longer. Way more cost efficient than getting shellac or gel nails, and they don't chip so I don't have to redo them every other day like polish.

8) hair bows/scarves. I started experimenting with hair scarves and bows. There are a ton of different simple ways to wear them on Pinterest that are really classy and feminine and don’t look tacky or overdone.

9) “tan-touring”. This is basically contouring your face using a self tanning lotion and a makeup sponge. That way it stays for days even when you’re not wearing makeup and it looks really natural. Some great tutorials on YouTube!

I think that’s it!! If I think of anything else I will come back. Feel free to add your own tips!

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Title A few ways to enhance your looks & femininity
Author SmallArugula
Upvotes 106
Comments 63
Date February 5, 2019 12:31 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 27 points28 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

I just got my eyebrows microbladed and they look amazing! Waking up with perfect brows is awesome, highly recommend it.

Skincare is so important. I used to have hormonal acne on my cheeks and chin. I got a series of chemical peels, which helped clear up my skin. Now I'm on the ScA subreddit and I'm building a skincare routine. Most days all I wear now is an illuminating lotion (Loreal True Match Lumi Lotion) and mascara. That's it!

Use an eyelash curler! It's so simple and it opens up my eyes.

I whiten my teeth once a month with Crest Whitestrips and get regular dental cleanings. I drink a lot of coffee so I need it.

Related to skincare, don't EVER, EVER sleep with your makeup on. Ever! And don't forget to wash your makeup brushes regularly.

[–]countrylemon 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Teeth are huge. My teeth are a bit crooked (can't be fixed without cracking my palette in half, so I'm okay with them being crooked for now), but just ensuring they're white and flossed has made such a difference.

the compliments about your smile feel contagious

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Mine are a little crooked too. I plan on getting my wisdom teeth removed and start Invisalign next year, but until then I can keep them clean and white :)

[–]periwinklepeonies 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy Link

Which chemical peel did you do?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

First I did a zinc and peptide peel. That one was stronger. Then I did two lactic acid peels. I would ask your aestician what would be best for you.

[–]itsabits3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Alright, as an esthetician, I gotta ask. What peel did you use? Peptides and zinc will not make you peel. The use of high amounts of zinc may dry out your skin and cause flaking over an extended time but certainly not a "peel". Typically zinc is formulated in an soothing/emollient base so my interest is piqued.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm pretty sure this is what she used. It was very strong! She left it on my face for 8 minutes (the minimum), took it off, and put on a soothing mask. I peeled a lot after two days. Personally I felt like it was too much for me so I went with a gentler peel after that.

[–]masterofthebarkarts1 Star23 points24 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Also, advice number 0: whatever you do, actually, like, DO IT. Skin care products don't work if you don't use them regularly. Gym memberships don't help you get in shape if you don't go to the gym and work out hard while you're there. Diets only work if you follow them.

This sounds so dumb and obvious but it's honestly the advice that I NEED more than anything haha. I am the queen of beautiful plans, great intentions, and throwing it all out in favour of being a lazy bum :)

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is 100% true. They key to all of these things coming together has really been my consistency with them.

[–]i_have_a_semicolon0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

So how did you finally stop being lazy??? :(

[–]masterofthebarkarts1 Star1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I still struggle with it!! Mostly I just try to remind myself what my biggest priorities are, how little time they really take to achieve and to get back up every time I fall off the wagon.

[–]255928360 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I read something in IG that hit me hard a couple days ago, it saids, “The pain of discipline is nothing compared to the pain of regrets and disappointments”.

I can believe the penny only finally dropped now that I’m well into my 40s... it’s so comfortable to be lazy, but every I am lazy I actually feel like I’m getting more annoyed with myself...

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Agree with mewster completely. Diet is probably the best thing that you can do for your beauty regimen combined with adequate sleep. Plenty of fresh or frozen fruits, that are just whole or sliced real fruit, no gimmicky packages. Lots of good veggies, but here is a hint. Only eat dark leafy greens. That iceberg lettuce really has no real value, and eating a whole salad of that is ridiculous. Also, eat steel cut oats, but get an instant variety that is not flavored. add your own real flavors, like pure honey or some fruit, and a milk substitute coconut milk is very tasty. I use Coach's oats, which I get at Costco.

Also, this is a huge point. Adjust your attitude, decrease stress and toss toxic people and situations completely out of your life. Except if they are your immediate family and you have no choice.

If you can't do this, then get the best pair of headphones you can, and simply tune out when around negative people or situations. Decreasing your stress takes years off of your looks, believe me.

Also, listen to relaxing music, limit the time you watch, read or listen to the news, as that can make you nervous or stressed. And that is the biggest beauty zapper of all.

If you take good care of your mental health, and eat good foods like fish, fruits, whole grains and vegetables, and cut out all sugar, fat and salt that you can, get a good nights rest, and have good hygiene, you do not even have to lose one ounce and men will flock to you. Just put on a bright happy smile, and be genuinely happy and interested in life. Have something to say, and be a friendly person. Be positive in your words to all people. You never know when some handsome guy is listening and overhears your great positive words, and then sees your happy positive smile and trust me he WILL gravitate to you if he is available.

Also, for dieting, remember to not do any fad diets they do not work. Be prepared to realistically lose between three and five pounds and actually keep it off per month when really exercising hard. One of the problems with all exercise is plateauing, which will require you to take breaks, and that's when your eating habits and everything else mustn't change. During peak plateaus, change what you do for exercise.

If you were running, then start swimming and vice versa. Free weights? Then try some machine exercises. do heavy workouts every other day.

For nails I suggest gels. They can handle any weather conditions, and work just like real nails and require just a fill and can last an extraordinary amount of time. Also remember to get a pedicure and match your nail polishes and lipstick if possible. If you have pale skin use a pale shade. If you are getting tanned then go with a little darker shades and also try to wear bright colors. It is mood uplifting.

Yoga is very good for centering yourself and your thoughts and calming yourself.

Another good suggestion is to not think of improving your looks because of a man. Do it for yourself. Getting admiring looks is nice, but remember that this is good for you and your overall health throughout your lifetime, and should not just be something that you do while guy hunting. YOU need to come first.

A man that has a woman who thinks of herself, her health, her body, and her mind is really what a quality man is looking for.

Also, do not act dumb, or lessor, or ditzy, or helpless to get a man to notice you. You are too intelligent for that. A modern, sophisticated woman does not need to play those silly games these days. Men admire accomplished women, who know how to use their talents and have ambition. A woman should have passions, and interests outside of a relationship with another person. This makes you a whole and well rounded person. you do not need to have a phd or be a brain surgeon, but you should have a general well rounded education, and be able to converse on the subject matters of the day.

Believe it or not, men really do like women who have a mind, and are intelligent, and they are attracted to that.

So, step by step, slowly incorporate this routine into your daily life and you will never lack for wonderful male company, or that handsome husband.

[–]ZegiknieEndorsed Contributor5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

"Also, do not act dumb, or lessor, or ditzy, or helpless to get a man to notice you. You are too intelligent for that."

I am smart/well educated, but the ditziness is just part of me. I'm off the market so it's not an issue, but I think you can be both.

[–]i_have_a_semicolon2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Don't think she was really going for that in her comment. You can't help it if you're actually just naturally ditzy or silly.

[–]ZegiknieEndorsed Contributor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You could fake it, but you don't need to, was my point :-)

[–]robslawbox12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I like all of these a lot. I'm going to have to look into press on nails; fancy nails always look gorgeous when I see other women who have them, but I've never made the effort because they look so impractical. It'd be fun to try them out.

The biggest improvement I've made recently in this area is with my clothing; I've started picking out my outfits the night before rather than relying on the morning version of me to make the effort. Like you I am low maintenance; I don't like investing lots of time into my appearance, and it tends to fall very far down my list of priorities, even though I know I feel better when I look good. When I used to get up in the morning, I was tending to throw on whatever was clean and comfortable, and eoften ended up looking and feeling frumpy. Now I look a lot more put together and am more likely to have my hair and makeup in a reasonable state as I have a little more time to spend on them.

[–]Mewster18181 Star26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Another couple really simple things that anyone can do:

-Eat a well rounded diet, maybe track your nutrients on an app like chronometer, when you balance everything internally it'll naturally boost your hair, skin and nail health. Supplement or add in nutrients your normal diet is low in.

- Get enough sleep, your body needs downtime to repair itself. Try not to run yourself ragged if you can help it!

Not only will it help you continue looking your best, but you'll feel better too!

[–]OkJicama10 points11 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

My tip: Moisturize your skin all over, especially during the winter time!

I started using lotion all over my body after I shower every time (every 1.5 to 3 days during the winter), and it has made a huge difference in the softness and smoothness of my skin. I don't use anything fancy; just Aveeno Daily Moisturizing Lotion or Aveeno Skin Relief 24hr Moisturizing Lotion. Wow, has it helped my skin! I feel more feminine with the softness it adds to my skin.

I've also been keeping a nice quality, naturally scented lotion on hand, too. I add a little of that on my neck, arms, and torso after my regular lotion dries, to give myself a nice scent that's more mild than a perfume.

It's amazing how big of a difference the little things can make :)

[–]redwatch951 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Omg I’ve been using this coconut oil cleanser that’s super hydrating in the shower. Game changer!!

[–]OkJicama0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

What's it called?

[–]redwatch951 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Oops I’m not sure I bought it at Ross. Will check and let you know.

[–]OkJicama0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

haha okay.

Ross is great! What TJ Maxx used to be. I miss those days!

[–]thatsmooddude0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

you never said what it is? :(

[–]redwatch950 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hydra Mar refresh coconut cleansing oil!

Sorry I forget before

[–]ragnarockette5 Stars10 points11 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

A couple of very easy ones:

  • take your hair tie off your wrist!
  • lint roller before you leave the house
  • perfume
  • earrings instantly make your face look more feminine

[–]moonchildcountrygirl2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Why the hair tie?

[–]ZegiknieEndorsed Contributor5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Doesn't look put together. Wear a bracelet instead and hide your hairtie in a pocket or purse :-)

[–]freyalifestyle 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy Link

good tip on the earrings! Do you prefer dangly or otherwise?

[–]okayestwifey5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Not the OP of this comment but I like posts because I've seen too many older ladies with suuuuuuper stretched out ear holes from heavy dangly earrings.

[–]Dancersep387 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

These are all great! Just a note about the shampoo and conditioner. These do not have to be expensive! I do what's called the curly girl method (there's a sub for it.) I use VO5 and tresemme cheapo products (there are several sulfate and silicone free drugstore products.) The shampoo I use once a month to clarify. I wash my hair twice a week with conditioner. Even for straight hair I'm pretty sure this works. My hair is way better than when I used expensive products.

[–]NeitherFlower8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Instead of buying an eyelashes serum,I suggest getting an empty old mascara bottle and filling it with a mix of castor oil,aloe vera gel and vitamin e oil. It's natural,effective and cheap

[–]wegvisir7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I plan on learning to braid my own hair. (I am clumsy) One thing I love is how silk scarves can be used to make someone look regal and feminine at the same time.

[–]freyalifestyle 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

I also really reccomend not washing your hair every 2 days. Of course, wear a shower cap & still wash your body everyday.

Also, reccomend a chlorine filter for your shower and drinking water for hair and enamel protection.

Lastly, satin pillow case and keeping your hair up when you sleep will prevent both hair and skin damage. I read that a derm said other than sun damage, many wrinkles can be attribited to the harshness of sleeping on your side on cotton pillowcase??

[–]ZegiknieEndorsed Contributor2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Am 33, can confirm.

[–]aussiedollface24 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great points! I totally agree about the consistency of exercise. I used to do it sporadically but it’s much better when you just set a schedule and stick to it.

This sounds random but also I occasionally look at old photos of myself. Obvs I will never look 19 again, and this isn’t for the faint hearted, but it’s to remind myself how much effort I used to put into my appearance and to inspire me to keep up that effort. I find that some ladies stop making as much effort after marriage and I don’t want to be like that.


[–]snow___white4 points5 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

I’m super interested in what you said about eyelash serum. Though someone said they changed the active ingredient in Rapidlash so it doesn’t work anymore. Have you seen a change & do you buy it on amazon or their website for 2x more? Thanks!

[–]W0zzynix7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I've used RapidLash in the past and had great results, the only downside is when I stopped using it I had a lot of fall out! And they were seemingly thinner and more sparse than before. I used cold pressed castor oil now (much cheaper) and the best part is my eyelashes dont fall out if I forget for a few days.

[–]snow___white3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Does it have the same level of growth effect? And where do you buy yours? Thanks so much for the help!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I bought it on amazon! I never used it before, only started a few months ago but it’s worked great for me!

[–]snow___white2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

There are a few fakes on amazon, if you could, would you link me to the one you got so I can avoid fakes? Thank you so much!!

[–]classylassy283 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Just get cold pressed castor oil works miracles you can put it on your eyebrows and eyelashes even do treatments on your scalp help your hair grow and be healthy.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I'm seeing lots of recommendations for castor oil! I have actually used it in the past but the growth just did not compare to what I saw with the eyelash serum. My eyelashes are literally double their old length now. Castor oil did make them look a bit fuller and definitely healthier/shinier, but didn't really have the lengthening effect that the rapidlash has. Just my two cents! Glad it works for you (wish it worked for me bc it's way less expensive ugh!) :)

[–]freyalifestyle 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

did you ever stop using rapidlash & get fall out?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I did stop using it for three weeks when I went on a trip, and I did notice some fallout but honestly nothing worse than usual. :)

[–]ZegiknieEndorsed Contributor4 points5 points  (18 children) | Copy Link

Seriously on the eyelash serum? I always thought that was just marketing and couldn't possibly work.

(I love posts like these, I just smacked into the wall... with my first people were annoying because they mistook me for a teen mom. I wish they were still annoying me with that now lol - and be warned about the sidesleeping, my squashed cheeks now left permanent vertical lines on the side of my nose OH NOOOO)

[–]Dancersep381 point2 points  (14 children) | Copy Link

I laugh/cry every time one of these convos starts stressing the importance of sleep as I read this in a rocking chair at dawn with the baby. I've noticeably aged this year (worth it) but I'm definitely not going to be mistaken for a teenager either!

[–]wegvisir6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Your amazing, woman - body gave birth to a new human!!! Be kind and gentle to yourself and ask for help. You need a good nights sleep every now and then!!!

[–]ZegiknieEndorsed Contributor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

When I read this, I was like meh, if I skip nightfeeds I get mastitis, nobody can really help while I nurse... But a little later on my husband asked if I wanted to hire someone to come help clean so I can focus more on the kids and rest. Yes! Thank you for this comment.

[–]ZegiknieEndorsed Contributor4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Too tired to see straight, that blurs the fine lines in the mirror nicely ;-)

[–]freyalifestyle 1 points [recovered]  (10 children) | Copy Link

Look into derma rollers at .5 needles :) Builds collagen like no other at home device

[–]ZegiknieEndorsed Contributor0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy Link

Do you have a link to a good one?

[–]freyalifestyle 1 points [recovered]  (5 children) | Copy Link

I'm sorry I don't because mine was discontinued but I can reccomend to you that you make sure the needles are titanium. Gin Amber sells titanium but I havent used hers. And the oil i use afterwards to soothe is food grade grapeseed oil because it's very hydrating. You might want to buy an numbing agent if you are very sensitive but ive never know anyone to not handle it.

If you are looking for more intensive skincare one brand has a redlight with it for added benefits. Havent tried it though. But really, it got rid of my dark circles, my 11s, forehead line & darkness around mouth!!

[–]ZegiknieEndorsed Contributor1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks for the info anyway!

[–]FreedomRebel 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

Wow I didn't think derma rollers work. And I'm surprised to hear that they work on dark circles too. Btw, Were you using any other skin care products or treatments while you were using a derma roller?

[–]freyalifestyle 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

p.s. I used .25mm but .5mm for places i wasnt targeting ( just for moisture absorption)

[–]ZegiknieEndorsed Contributor1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks again. I'll try and create some anonymous before and afters when I get around to buying one and update :-)

[–]freyalifestyle 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

yes, there is a pillow on youtube marketed by a 40+ womant that forces back sleeping

[–]ZegiknieEndorsed Contributor0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Might salvage what is left of my squashed face!

[–]TheBunk_TB1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Question about #8: Any specific videos?

[–]freyalifestyle 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

There really aren't any good ones but if you learn from wayne goss on how to contour different noses and desired cheek bone looks you will be good to go. Also, I reccomend senegence for it instead of a self tanner.

You can use their bronzer, foundation, eyeshadow or whatever- as long that it is at least 1-3 shades darker than you. Just stay away from reddish hues

[–]TheBunk_TB1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you. I will pass this along.

[–]ApartPersonality0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Press-on nails and "tan-touring" can get really trashy-looking really quickly, and they're no substitute for better hygiene. If your nails are brittle, a fortifying nail polish is a way better long term solution.

As for "tan-touring"... ew. Just no. Sorry not sorry. Do some real skin care instead- gentle cleanser, toner, moisturizer, sunscreen. If your skin looks great, it will improve your whole look and you'll find that you need much less makeup.

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