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A personal trainer on how to get a "slender" look

October 19, 2014

I feel that so many articles are about how to look trim and buff as a woman, while the desire for a "slender" (and very feminine) look is ignored.

This article is written about that, and I think it is very good!

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Title A personal trainer on how to get a "slender" look
Author Lilia42
Upvotes 37
Comments 18
Date October 19, 2014 6:16 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
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[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well, this just reminds me that I must keep going. Since I started going to university 4 years ago I gained the "freshman 20" in a period of 2 years when I understood that something has to be changed. Honestly, weight problems cannot be solved until you solve the emotional reasons of what makes you eat a lot - for me it was stress and uncertainty about future. Now I've decluttered our home, we're slowly redecorating, he's starting his career and I feel like it's ME who is controlling my life. Right now I've lost around 10 pounds of that excess weight and I'll keep on going until I'm EU size 38 in pants / skirts again (I'm currently EU 40 around butt). Going 5 days a week gluten-free (for health reasons, I have endometriosis) really helps lose weight as it makes you choose healthier food options. Using stevia sweetener instead of sugar works magic as well.

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[–]MrMagwitch3 points [recovered] (7 children) | Copy Link


[–]eatplaycrushEndorsed Contributor -1 points0 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

The females who compete in bikini, figure, etc often do fall into fatal eating habits which is why he speaks about it as so. They completely wreck their metabolism's, develop eating disorders ranging from anorexia to rejecting a food because they truly believe eating it will make them explode into fat or how about when they chew up food then spit it out so they can just taste it, but without all the added calories? There is so many issues related to food in the fitness industry, especially in that area which I believe is Bret's main area of training female clients, so his points are absolutely valid. It's bigger then most people are let on to believe, actually.

[–]MrMagwitch4 points [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link


[–]eatplaycrushEndorsed Contributor 3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

No offense, but what I said has nothing to do with you being a man and living in such a harsh and dangerous world. Really? Grow some balls because for realistic women life is still not all roses and sunshine despite any easier advantages we have unfortunately gotten. Once again, really, no offense, but what am I supposed to take away from this? Even men have this problem, but let me tell you I've met 90% more females that have an issue with food then I have men because we are not wired the same physically or mentally.

I never said obesity issues shouldn't be spoked about more often then not, but I work in this industry and there are literally thousands of people who have some type of issue with eating whether it be actual anorexia or not. Those are still valid issues that the fitness industry faces on an extreme level day to day. Those are issues that coaches and trainers are fighting every day with clients whose goals are aesthetic OR strength based.

Again, obesity is a very large and prevalent issue outside of the fitness industry which is WHY in this article he focused much more on what goes on INSIDE of our industry. I suppose I should have worded it better for you to understand my point that this is WHY the article focused on eating disorders over obesity, and that obesity isn't something to take lightly either.

[–]MrMagwitch3 points [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link


[–]eatplaycrushEndorsed Contributor -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

My SO does speak to me like that. He tells me when I'm being weak, when I need to be strong, when I need to "woman up" literally. Out of what I just said it is very sad that is all you took out of it because I explained my reasonings so they would be clearer on WHY this article spoke a certain way.

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[–]eatplaycrushEndorsed Contributor -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No argument here. I was just trying to explain why this article was written as it was.

[–]eatplaycrushEndorsed Contributor 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

we as an industry need to understand and accept that it’s okay for a woman to desire a slender physique that isn’t overly ripped and muscular. We can’t be prioritizing our values over those of our clients.

Yes. As someone in the industry this happens a lot, I admit I've done this as well. Our train of thoughts are hard to break, but it is about accepting all bodies are focusing on progressive betterment mentally and physically overall. This is why a lot of people tend to coach in a specific atmosphere that they enjoy/want/understand/etc so they don't have to deal with this. Harsh, but true.

And women who love strength training, love getting stronger, and don’t mind increases in muscle mass, tend to have a hard time relating to women who don’t share the same values and goals.

Again, exactly. See what I said above.

I agree that all woman should strength train as it's stated in this article and then do it differently after so long so they can do it aligning to their own goals. This article was well written (go figure. He is a great source!) and it definitely reminded me that sometimes maybe I need to be aware more of this OUTSIDE of my immediate gym/clients.

[–]TheToastTotEndorsed Contributor 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great article! Thanks for sharing.

[–]anaislefleur 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This post was so timely. Squats are starting to make me bulk

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Really enjoyed this article. Strength training is certainly important and something I would have never considered until my SO brought it up. Now I can't do without it. An excellent tool.

[–]ALadyLikeMe 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

What can I do to make arms and shoulders less muscly? I am at an ideal weight (5'6" 115) have a naturally slim body, flat stomach and a nice round booty, but my upper torso is at risk of bulking up. I was on the swim team in high school which transformed my back and shoulders and the results seem to have stuck with me even if I don't workout. I surf but usually only in when conditions are favorable which is not very frequent in my area, and only in the summer or on vacation. Other than that all I do is about 20 mins of yoga 5 days a week. Overall I'm grateful that my genetics keep me looking fit with minimal effort but with my thin frame and tiny tits, upper body muscles start to give me man shoulders.

[–]everest8612 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

That's a fantastic article! I do have one slightly weird question though. I am slim but have an hourglass frame and protruding ribs.. so with my relatively small waist and wide shoulders, hips, and ribcage, I can look very boxy. Since I can't change my bone structure, do any of you ladies have any tips on dressing, standing, and the like to make a body more flattering?

[–]blondie_brownie1 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

You should wear things that emphasize your small waist. Dresses: 1, 2, 3. Pants and shirts: 1, 2, 3. There are tons of guides online that help with dressing for your shape.

[–]everest8612 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks for the response! I loved that first dress and the grey sweater. I can't do high waisted pants though because they make my ribcage more obvious.. I'll definitely look around online for more inspiration

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