I used to have a problem with being too out spoken. I've taken it back quite a bit, however now I fear I've become a little too timid. I don't mean in my relationship so much as day to day interactions. I fear I teeter on being a doormat, I know I apologize too much and I come off as timid. I'm not sure where it comes from. I want to be able to hold an unapologetic conversation where I can maintain some frame and be respectful without coming off as a shrew. I've always been a little shy so I'm looking into joining a public speaking group to work on being better with words but I don't want to become some loud mouth soap boxer.

So how do you ladies do it? Am I over thinking this aspect of my life? I want to be strong but dignified, powerful but pleasant. Articles? Books? Personal anecdotes?