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All time favorite RPW book

January 18, 2017

Which books have you read, and which book is your all time favorite?

Edit: I'm interested in more in depth discussions about the books. Which ones didn't you like? Did you have any critiques? Why did you pick your all time favorite over the others?

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Title All time favorite RPW book
Author vanBeethovenLudwig
Upvotes 12
Comments 13
Date January 18, 2017 10:09 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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[–]videlachkadua7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

So far I am reading my first RPW book which is called Romancing Your Husband. It's religious but it teaches you how to become a lover wife, not a mother wife

[–]vanBeethovenLudwigEndorsed Contributor[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This sounds interesting! I'll check it out.

[–]videlachkadua1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah. So far the book helped me and it deals with long lasting relationships. It tells you to control nagging and have an ideal relationship. I will probably read those books everyday because I need to work on my relationship by staying as loyal as possible.

[–]Jayms5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

The Surrendered Wife was the first book I read. Then I got the PDF of Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood. I really liked that because it gives actual tasks to do to improve the relationship, gave lots of examples, and played out a woman's story and showed how what she did worked and improved her relationship.

I'm currently reading First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors and it is really good as well. So I can recommend all three of those.

[–]vanBeethovenLudwigEndorsed Contributor[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Can you compare Kill All the Marriage Counselors with Surrendered Wife and Fascinating Womanhood?

[–]Jayms6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sure, I'd say Surrendered Wife is like RPW 101. It starts with a quiz to find out how intimate your marriage is. Then it talks about respecting your husband and giving up control. It also advises to "keep surrendering a secret" since a lot of women want to share that they discovered this amazing new thing with their husband, but that doesn't help. I found this to be great advice because I was so excited to discover RPW and blab about it to everyone, including my husband.

Then it goes into the different chapters and outlines the principles and gives lots of great examples. It also touches on children as well.

In First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors, she outlines the Six Intimacy Skills which seems to be something she has developed around her relationship coaching. The chapters are built around this and she does give some examples from real women she has worked with. I feel like this book is more commercial though as she frequently advises women to go to her website and work with a relationship coach.

I found The Surrendered Wife to be much meatier and have more in-depth topics and examples which were later simplified or categorized into the Six Intimacy Skills in FKATMC.

As for Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood, it is quite old-fashioned and also has some religious flavor to it. At first I skimmed it because it gave examples of so many women and their different stories and it seemed cheesy because it was obvious they were picking women with different situation to illustrate different points.

However, when I got going into it, I really liked that it was broken down by chapter and each chapter ended with a specific, actionable step to take to improve your relationship. I also liked how it focused on one woman who had recently separated from her husband and then she started applying the techniques and doing the homework and their relationship started to improve.

If you can look beyond the cheesy factor, Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood is a great read. I'd say that and The Surrendered Wife are the two best and are ones I'll be going back to over and over.

[–]vanBeethovenLudwigEndorsed Contributor[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I've read the following:

Surrendered Wife Surrendered Single Getting to I Do Why Men Love Bitches Fascinating Womanhood

I think I like Fascinating Womanhood overall the best. It's Christian based and although I'm not religious, I feel that femininity has a spirituality that ties into it. I think the way Mrs. Andelin describes the Angelic and the Human qualities of being a feminine woman is right on. There's a great section on understanding and appreciating men to remind you of why you should respect yours.

Why Men Love Bitches is pretty straightforward but my only critique is the language can be too straightforward and aggressive. I actually felt more aggressive after reading it whereas after Fascinating Womanhood I felt the serenity that she preaches.

Getting to I Do has a wonderful section on feminine and masculine essence and how to embody that for each side of the relationship, and how the two energies work together to complement each other. There's also a great description on the relationship phases that lead to marriage, which help you decide whether it's worth it to invest in a relationship.

[–]Galadriel261 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I didn't like the meal section in Bitches. Was she serious or joking? About serving a three-course dinner consisting of popcorn and sausages.. She explained the idea behind it but I pride myself in cooking good food for all guests (if I have time) so that just felt awkward. (post edited for non-native speaker vocabulary mistake, lol)

[–]vanBeethovenLudwigEndorsed Contributor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I also thought it was strange. That's why I didn't like the tone of the book - even though there a lot of concepts I agreed with, like having boundaries. But it didn't inspire me the same way FW did.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I too am in need of recommendations so I'm loving seeing what everyone else has posted :) but I'm gonna have to second Fascinating Womanhood. Like others have mentioned it does have a Christian flavor (though I'm Christian so I find that extra beneficial for me personally) and some major major cheesiness. But if you can look past that, let me tell you, Seriously, I was blown away, and I'm single, can't speak for those married or in LTRs but I've gotta imagine it works great there too, after all that was the intended audience.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I really liked The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, I think it does a good job of showing common pitfalls and attitudes of wives today without using such trigger words as "submissive".

[–]loneliness-incEndorsed Contributor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The surrendered wife is probably the most often recommended book around here.

[–]NittanyLioness840 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't have a favorite yet, but so far I am favoring Surrendered Wife and How to Win Friends and Influence Others.

I am currently listening to The Fatherless Daughter Project.

I think it is RPW related because it recognizes the negative consequences of what happens when a woman loses/never has a father and how they affect her relationships with men. Very important, as far as self improvement.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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