Hi RPW - this is a separate account from my main as I have my husband on my other reddit - not to hide things from him, but to get feedback and not bother him with this.
We have been together for six years, since I was 19 and he was 24. We met through his mother: I moved to a brand new city for college at age 17, and his mother helped me get settled into a church there. We got married two years ago. We met each other one year before we got together, and we fell for each other slowly but surely.
About six months into our marriage, his workplace laid off a large number of workers and he was among them. I decided to start picking up more hours at my job to sort of compensate for the financial blow (we had also just then purchased a new car with cash). He would be searching for another job, but unfortunately he hasn't had much luck.
My husband is also red pilled, and we have both decided that it is my job to do the housekeeping. While I am able to keep the house clean after work, I am often tired and do not have the energy to be there for him as emotional support. We also have not had sex in a month. I understand that he is going through a lot right now and I want to find a way to be there for him more.
We are not in a financial place where we can see the doctor or afford therapy. Has anyone been through a similar period? How have you overcame it? Would love to hear what you all have to say :)
Edit: Thank you to everyone who commented. I apologize for the late replies, as I have been at work. It is not easy to come back and say this, but because so many of you took time out of your days to respond, it is only fair you are made aware of the situation. I decided to ask him if it was possible for him to do some of the housework, but he has refused. We had an argument, where, as many of you suspected, he feels upset that he no longer feels like the captain of this household. It got heated, and a few hurtful things were said. I have decided that perhaps it is best I take, first of all, a week off work. We have discussed that it is best if I do not be present in the house for that week. I am going to my dad's house while he sorts through his thoughts before we can decide what kind of action we would like to take going forward.
Edit 2: Hello everyone, it has been two weeks since I made this post, and many things have changed. I have left him. We are separated and I am in the process of initiating a divorce. I have also began therapy and reduced my hours. I am still living with my dad, and he's been a great support at this time, insisting I get rest and reevaluate my state of mind. Thank you for your perspectives, and to my sisters, despite not sharing the same views, on other subreddits who have also offered some words.
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