Hey everyone!
So my friend and I were discussing relationships and fantasizing about the ideal man. Then we realized how vividly we knew how the ideal man would make us feel, but had absolutely no idea how men want to feel in presence of their ideal woman. I write "feel" because all of the desired traits in a partner basically result in a positive feeling (warmth, comfort, passion etc.)
So women want to feel protected, small, coddled, adored in the presence of a man. The man is basically an ideal version of a father. So what feeling does an ideal woman inspire in a man?
The same feeling you get when you are petting your purring cat. Or dog. Or whatever animal that adores you and can express that affection in a way, that you can pick up and identify.
This is the perfect analogy for me and here's why:
After a long day, I come home and I honestly don't want to talk for the first 10 minutes. I lie down on my sofa, and a cat jumps on my lap and lies down. It purrs. It's warm. It's so cute. It's affectionate. It asks no questions. No "Can you do this for me?", "What do you want for dinner?", not even "How was your day?" I tell you, I don't even want to hear or answer considerate and caring questions right then. ALL I want in those first 10 minutes is to zone out.
Now the cat analogy applies for other moments as well. During depressing and hopeless times, I personally don't feel the need to TALK about it, and I don't think men do either. I even want to avoid talking about it, because there is nothing to say, and it hurts thinking about it. What I want is to FEEL affection and support from my loved ones. And that is expressed through touch, through vibes. The cat would just hug me, and not say a word. It would purr. And I'd be in a healing trance.
So when you try to emulate the ideal woman, and try to engineer an atmosphere that is most pleasing to your man, be the cat.
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