Anyone else notice that people (men and women) are nicer to you when you dress feminine?

melissasue22477 · 2021-03-18T19:21:49+00:00

Yes! I work in a factory and how im treated when I'm out running errands after work vs when I have a day off and can dress feminine, is like night and day difference. I love it! I think people see feminine women as more innocent and in need of protection. I think it brings out peoples desire to help, even unknowingly.

CauliflowerBlossom · 2021-03-18T20:00:08+00:00

Women who show femininity bring out people's instinct to support/protect. For example, most of the questions asked on r/socialskills only get 2-3 answers. But there was one girl who wanted to get advice on how to act less "soft". She got 11 answers.

Lilviscious · 2021-03-18T19:25:16+00:00

When I wear a dress with heels I notice men are much more thoughtful: holding doors open, asking if I need asisstance with anything. At first I thought I looked uncomfortable and was actually looking distressed because it's not often that I wear dresses or heels, but after several similar situations, I came to the conclusion that men (mostly older men) become more attentive to me. Not so much women.

For the men I think it's because it appeals to them in general and it reminds them 'oh yes, this is a lady, let's hold the door a bit longer so she doesn't have to push it'. Which is fine, I can do it myself, but I appreciate someone wanting to undo me of this 'burden', haha.

MilesDoodling · 2021-03-18T19:42:08+00:00

I am a man so this is going to be from my perspective.

If a women dresses feminine the chances of her being compative , rude and man hating is drastically lower usually none.

We feel more comfortable around feminine women who do not hate men and are not going to take everything we say in a wrong way.

Feminine women are approachable and usually when she is not interested she is not going to embarrass a man infront of bunch of people. They usually turn you down in a nice and polite way so you know that the risk of being hugly embarrassed infront large amount of people is way lower compared to your average modern women.

About holding the door or helping out i only usually do it for older women or feminine women. Because in my experience when i have done it for modern women they tend to get offended and say stuff like the following : You think i can't open the door for myself or some comment about do you think women are weak.

It's unfortunate but it is what it is

So yeah overall women who dress feminine are usually polite , nice and not man hating.

But this is largely based on mine and my friends experience.

2021-03-18T19:06:16+00:00

YES!

2021-03-19T01:40:31+00:00

I have also noticed people being nicer to me, men and women alike.

For my part, I think it's because I'm in my mid-twenties and have lived in two college towns (cities) in my adult life. Most of the women in my generation have two settings when they get dressed: slutty as hell or I-woke-up-20min-before-class-and-I-don't-care-at-all.

The latter style is in literally every clothing store now: loose crop tops, boyfriend jeans, leggings, sweats, just a bunch of unattractive baggy clothes that don't fit. You know the look I'm talking about.

So when a young woman walks around in a floral A-line dress or jeans + a classy sweater that both fit.....yeah, no wonder I stand out to people.

aussiedollface2 · 2021-03-18T21:12:39+00:00

100% yes! Society respects a well-put together woman and I def notice men opening doors etc more.

JadedByEntropy · 2021-03-18T19:34:44+00:00

No. Women get really cruel when I dress up. Men aren't any nicer than usual.

SamathaStevens · 2021-03-19T01:54:54+00:00

Yes, 100% nicer! I always wear heels and a dress anywhere I go and I get so many compliments.I also always wear a headscarf but more of a 40's snood sytle rather than a bandana or hijab. People are just so much more open and enjoy talking with you. If I am trying to pick up a big bag of dog food or need help loading something ,I don't have to ask someone always offers. I have heard the argument that people are nicer because of the sexual element to femininity and that men are chasing women even if they can't have them. I don't think that is the case for me, I am still madly in live with my husband of over 25 years and I am certainly not flirting or trying to get attention. I just think people feel more comfortable around feminine women.

Severe-Ad5200 · 2021-03-18T19:21:56+00:00

It's because men are competitive with other men and also because of modern day practices and the like.

Newkker · 2021-03-19T12:26:52+00:00

I believe it has to do with conformity.
You're conforming to a traditional role which causes others to treat you in the way they were taught to treat people in that role. Its adaptive and prosocial, one of the reasons gender roles exist in the first place. Your style of dress implies something about who you are and what you believe, it can convey certain group signifiers. It can make it easier for the general public to view you as part of their in-group and thus be friendly. Most people are still fairly traditional with respect to gender roles and there are soft benefits to being in that in group.

flounceymagoo · 2021-03-18T23:33:12+00:00

Yes. I notice when you have make up on, hair nice, and clothes looking good you get a lot better responses from people in public.

NicoleInBlue · 2021-03-19T06:33:32+00:00

Men are nicer. Women (except for those over 60) aren't.

CH705-807 · 2021-03-18T20:22:28+00:00

Men too. When i dress more feminine i get instant looks and people are nicer

RP_Bear9 · 2021-03-18T19:36:17+00:00

This makes perfect sense. And thank you for bringing some more beauty and kindness to this world!

cast-away-ramadi06 · 2021-03-18T23:28:19+00:00

FWIW, I get a lot more deferential treatment when I'm wearing my work clothes (well tailored suit, shined shoes, etc) than I do when I'm just bumming around the city.

mamabearbug · 2021-03-18T20:30:48+00:00

Always!!

softshadesofcream · 2021-03-21T20:57:58+00:00

Yes! folks are more polite to me, especially when I'm in a high-end store or upper class place. I always dress casual like jeans, but I make sure my clothes and makeup match with one another. I like to wear flats and quilted purses.

ArthurGayFrog · 2021-04-11T15:23:08+00:00

I used to dress feminine. Women felt like i was trying too hard, men were neutral. Nothing changed

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