Hey all! Last night was my Husband's friend's birthday party(I'll call my husband N and his friend J) He has known J for years and years as they went to the same school, they aren't super close but we see him every week when we stop by to watch some tv in a small group of friends. He seemed like a fun guy and I was excited to be making a new friend, and I was absolutely appalled when J pulled me aside to tell me this:

"Hey I just wanted to say im so glad you started coming over and hanging out with the group. Its really great to have you around you are a really nice and interesting person!"

I was so happy! Especially because I feel i'm pretty socially awkward and wanting to make friends. Then the conversation went sour and he continued;

"at first I was happy you were coming because I thought "Another nice ass to stare at!" but you are really cool too. I mean I like N but I can't believe HE landed a hot girl in (town I am from) I might have to go there too haha! Anyways Ive known N forever but to be honest, if anything were to happen, I would choose you over him. Like i'd want you to still come hang out."

He said all of this happily, and super drunk by the way, like it was a great compliment to me instead of very creepy while also saying he didn't give a shit about his friendship with my husband. And like my husband is just some guy I know and not someone i've been with for 6 years. I cannot believe the nerve and can't believe this guy just turned 30 and not 16.

Im still cringing from this conversation, I just sort of awkwardly laughed the whole time he said it (I wish I would have called him out for being an ass) but I was so shocked I didn't say anything, and then we left the party and I immediately told my husband who wasn't that surprised, apparently this friend is super bad with women and a total dick. Im definitely not coming to the next hangout J is having because i'm seriously so uncomfortable, but I do like the other friends in the group. Yikes....had to share!