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Apparently knowing how to cook and sew is odd to my Coworkers

April 21, 2019

I work as a CNA for a company that provides 24 hour care to the intellectually disabled within their own homes, which includes things like making meals and doing laundry and other services.

Today I noticed a hole in a client’s fitted sheet while making her bed, so I remarked to my coworker that I would have to bring in my sewing kit tomorrow and stitch it up. My coworker (female) was completely astounded that I knew how to sew, and proceeded to make a few snarky comments over the course of our shift about me being a “50’s housewife”. I also made a pot roast and a cake, since tomorrow is Easter and I want my clients to have a treat, and both of these simple tasks were met with similar disbelief.

Are these things so uncommon in modern society now? I work with several women (only women work at this particular house) who brag about not being able to cook or clean, which even beyond a RPW standpoint is ridiculous to me, since we work a job where both of those things are required.

I don’t see why knowing basic skills like how to sew a rip in cloth or cook a meal make me something from the 50’s, or why people who can’t do basic domestic tasks act proud of that fact. It’s not attractive, in a partner, or a friend, or a coworker even to act like you being incompetent/childish is funny and quirky.

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Title Apparently knowing how to cook and sew is odd to my Coworkers
Author taurusbaker
Upvotes 144
Comments 39
Date April 21, 2019 12:29 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–]LuckyPeaceful40 points41 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Unfortunately, they do seem to be really uncommon now. I'm 23 and have only just started learning how to sew (having been inspired by a vaguely RPW YouTuber) and I'm very aware of the fact that the women around me don't know how to sew either. I very much agree that it's ridiculous not to be able to cook or clean... they're just basic adult life skills. But I also think your coworkers are not just surprised by your skills, but by the fact you use them to go out of your way to care for others. Most people wouldn't care about the tear in the sheet or providing a treat for your clients, but you did. That kind of pro-active, caring attitude is rare, but I'm sure your clients appreciate it and that it improves their quality of life, even if your coworkers don't get it.

[–]NeedzMoarCoffee12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I want to also thank you for the care that you give. Like the comment above, you are going above and beyond and it makes me glad that there are people like you in this world helping others like this. Do not give these other women another thought. You are something to aspire to.

[–]taurusbaker[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you! I love my clients and getting to spend my day with them makes me truly happy, working this job has actually inspired me to go back to school and get a nursing degree!

[–]taurusbaker[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you! The sheets are sheets that this client seems to like (they have little elephants on them) and I feel like she would be sad if they ripped to the point of being unusable!

[–][deleted] 25 points26 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Are these things so uncommon in modern society now?

Yes, they really are. The craziest part is, we have faster knowledge sharing than we have ever had in history. If a person didn't know how to bake a cake, they could search it on YouTube and find hundreds of how-to videos within seconds. Despite that, people are still so willfully ignorant that they would rather brag about not knowing something and spend hundreds more per month on restaurant food than learn a basic skill that hundreds of millions of people in history relied on for survival.

[–]topsul6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love to cook. I have never cooked a turkey breast until today. I googled it. Turned out perfect. It amazes me people wouldn’t want a home cooked meal. I’m replying to agree with you and tell you I appreciate your comment.

[–]okayestwifey27 points28 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

A lot of people are proud of their shortcomings now. It's why the term "adulting" happened.

[–]taurusbaker[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I hate the term “adulting” so much! Like “teehee I did laundry I adulted today time for some wine” it’s not a special or funny thing that you did a basic adult task!

[–]stay_rad2325 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I feel like this attitude is a defense mechanism. I just turned 24 a few weeks ago. I cook meals from scratch regularly and can sew. My sewing skills could use some improvement.I can patch things, sew a button on, and I've even made a basic summer dress. Today I'm doing Easter dinner for my fiance and my future in-laws. I don't feel suppressed by the patriarchy. I feel so proud of myself. I have coworkers that have their mom bring them lunch, or eat take out leftovers every single day. These are the same people that proudly say they can't cook anything. I think some people substitute pride for shame so they don't have to admit a flaw. If they're proud then they're in control of what makes them self conscious.

[–]artemis28618 points19 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I legitimately love cooking. I have a few recipes I've created myself, and make several other very labor intensive meals. I say that my kitchen is my zen place, and all I think about when I'm cooking is being right there in the present. It's highly meditative for me! I enjoy baking as all, and bake bread frequently, and have even tried my hand at sourdough a few times.

Even within my conservative religious circle, these skills are dying. I come from a religion the replaces a high priority on marriage and family, but of course many are still raised in the world so to speak and affected by the culture. So women are getting married without a clue on how to cook a thing, or sew, and without basic household management skills. And as a result, as a generation we eat out and convience foods more than any other generation, and are paying for it with our health, not just our bank accounts.

I find that young men are similar affected with traditionally "masculine" household tasks. How many young men do you know that know how to change a tire, fix a bike, or fix anything for that matter haha! I was very blessed with a husband that served a religious mission in a forigen country, on top of parents who taught him basic household tasks. He recently assembled and fixed my bike for me so I could ride it now that it's spring! He changes my headlights and tires on my car too, and has some basic carpentry skills. And we are in our early 20s!

It's really pushed us to a more highly consumer culture. We buy cheap things and replace them when they break, many don't have a clue on how to grow their own food, or how to even make much food themselves. It's made us more reliant on consumption, rather than home production. It's not a pretty picture totally outside of traditional relationship values! We hope to change that with our children. We plan to loosely follow a Montessori approach, and I plan to homeschool, and actually teach my children practical skills at young ages, and have them help in a large garden and potential homestead in the future!

[–]taurusbaker[S] 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I totally agree with the masculine skills thing! I have known men who have been unable to do any sort of handyman work or change a tire, and it’s strange to me that those skills, which again, are basic life skills, are not taught. I even know how to change a tire, because I like the concept that a lady should know how to change a tire but should not have to!

Personally I feel like men should be able to cook and sew a button back on a shirt, because what if they need those skills as a bachelor? And again, I just think those are basic life skills that everyone should know!

[–]est-la-lune6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think basic car skills are necessary (the same way basic sewing, cooking, and cleaning skills are).

I changed my headlight yesterday. It took 5-10 minutes and cost me $17. If I took my car to a mechanic I could've been charged upwards of $100 and probably would be scammed to buy something else.

It's absolutely incredible to me that this knowledge is easily accessible and yet people choose not to learn. Unless you need specialized equipment to do something, you should probably learn how to do it!

[–]artemis2864 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I couldn't agree more! While my husband was on a religious mission he had to iron his clothes, cook for himself, maintain the apartment with his roommates, and even had to wash his clothes by hand because it was a developing country. I do most of that now, but when I've been unable because of pregnancy issues, he's been able to take care of us and even make us dinner just fine.

We feel that the push for more and more academics have been a contributing factor. Kids are going to coding camps, dance and music lessons, and after school care, but don't know how to cook a thing and all of their laundry is done for them. Obviously that's not ever family by any means, but we've certainly see that as a growing trend. And then these kids get to college and can't even boil an egg! We are all for encouraging learning, but we want to aim for more well-rounded learning in our home, including practical life skills!

[–]MoDuReddit1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Personally I feel like men should be able to cook and sew a button back on a shirt, because what if they need those skills as a bachelor?

Nice catch. Because you know who doesn't learn how to cook or sew? 30 year olds who live with their mother (red flag).

For the record, I can't sew but the kitchen is mine. Last time I let a woman near my kitchen she scrapped my non-stick pans with metal spatulas. Never again.

[–]Kara__El4 Stars64 points65 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

I work in an extremely liberal environment. Several of my coworkers don't shave anything and regularly make comments against the patriarchy. One even said my husband doesn't cry because of his "toxic masculinity." It's exhausting, considering my bachelor's degree is literally in home-ec.

Just be glad that this is your competition. You look more put together and more competent (and apparently better at your job), next to the feminazis.

[–]Tyrant50510 points11 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

What are they envisioning is the future for females? It’s like I imagine aliens, tall and not able to do basic tasks, just talking telepathicly. No cooking and sewing but also no woodworking or mechanical work? I’m so confused..

[–]Kara__El4 Stars13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

They just buy fast food and prepackaged meals and cheap clothes off Amazon and then complain about climate change and the evils of capitalism, while showing off their new Apple Watch.

[–]MoDuReddit1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]GandMeChattri10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

That's why there's real money to be made in trades. Leftists will never learn the skills as they think it's beneath them.

[–]iliketreesndcats4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Heh heh, i see the point you're trying to make but i think you should aim that at centrists because my mop'n'bucket and all of my comrade's tradie tools beg to differ.

Trade unions are usually leftist, but like actually leftist... like working class liberation leftist.

[–]selfMaintenance1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

death They want incompetence so they can opress all of us because they resent us

[–]sassy_cuddles2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Totally off topic, but what kind of degree in home ec do you have? I just started college and I'm doing general ed right now. I'm still trying to decide on my career path, and this part of your comment really interested me. I'd love to know more, please let me know if I could get your email (privately, of course) so I could ask you a few questions?

[–]Kara__El4 Stars0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

It's in family and consumer science education. I wanted to teach it. There were no jobs available, when I graduated, and no one takes it seriously when there are. I ended up getting my MLIS and I'm a librarian now. I wouldn't recommend a similar undergraduate program. There are very few jobs available.

[–]sassy_cuddles0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you so much for a reply! It's helpful to hear such information from someone who's actually done a program like that.

[–]selfMaintenance0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I feel so bad for all of the men and women who suffer because of this brainwashing

[–]jkgal10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I would say basic sewing and cooking skills are just adulting. Are you going to throw out a shirt when it looses a button? And are you going to always order food? That sound really wasteful...

[–]organicsunshine9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I don't understand it either. These things do not require talent or special knowledge. Just takes doing.

[–]Umsandly132 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Takes effort. Our culture is one that doesn’t see the Value in hard work

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

both men and women should be able to cook and have basic sewing skills

[–]taurusbaker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I completely agree, I think those are literally just basic components of being an adult, like knowing how to do your laundry correctly or how to change a lightbulb.

[–]allmycatsaregay7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I made my husband a shirt a couple years ago. Every time he wears it and mentions that his wife made it people act like he said his wife is a literal wizard.

[–]littlepearlisland2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My boyfriend is very rough on his 'play clothes' so I am always mending and patching them. His friends are amazed because they can't tell they have been worked on unless they are right up next to it.

[–]pennynotrcutt5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Quite frankly men and women should know how to prepare at least one decent meal, and sew on a button. We learned this is Home Ec in junior high.

[–]AtDaLastMinute4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

It's not you. It's an inferiority complex. Think about how the straight A kid gets made fun of for being smart and useful.

[–]selfMaintenance1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Is it the media that made America so backwards??

[–]AtDaLastMinute0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It could be. Nerdy types are usually the outcasts or bullied in Hollywood material.

[–]Hannelore0101 Star2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Parents, 4-h is a great resource for both your daughters and sons to learn these skills (and compete for recognition!) I’m not a great sewer, and making all our own clothes would be too expensive, but I know the basics because I had 4 years of sewing (and you model your clothes after judging, too, which is a good experience). I can crochet, knit, embroidery, weave, and quilt also because I had an elementary art teacher who taught me all those skills

I agree with the commenter who said in general the current age 20s-30s generation (including myself) uses WAY more takeout and convenience food than our parents did. I remember getting McDonald’ s or going out to eat maybe once a year, if that, in the 80s. In grad school in the mid 00s I was made fun of (in good humor—I wasn’t offended) for having people over for dinner, like an old lady :)

[–]MrsMisery1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I personally don't know much about sewing but could stand to learn, so I can't say anything about that. However...shouldn't everyone know at least basic cooking? Eating out for every meal adds up no matter what your income may be.

I have so much fun experimenting with new recipes, and feeding the people I love brings me so much joy. My now-fiance lived with me for a month before I had my daughter (long story, not relevant to topic at hand) and I made sure to cook for him as much as I could. Think a nice hot breakfast every morning, if we didn't have work that day I also would make him lunch and dinner (if we did, our boss covered food at the end of the day). To this day he looks back on that time extremely fondly specifically because until I came along no one had ever taken the time to make him nice meals like I did (and still do whenever possible). But...I'm 25 years old with a toddler. I need to know how to make more than just ramen and it's discouraging to me that so few people my age have basic life skills like feeding themselves a home-cooked meal.

[–]LateralThinker133 Stars0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Home Ec isn't taught anymore, and with two-income houses and single mothers, the wifely skills have mostly fallen by the wayside. After all, who is there to teach them? Mom's at work, extended families aren't respected so grandparents aren't there to teach them, dad's at work or kept away by divorce, society only loves the pretty, new, and shiny, not the frugal, practical, and thrifty... more and more people don't even change their own oil or fix a flat - and often don't even know how.

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