I live rural. Women here are drink beer with the guys, curse, yell, hunt types. I have absolutely no care to be like that. I also have no care to tell these types how to be. I'm kind of a "to each their own" type of person. If it makes you happy and is healthy then I don't care. Personally I am into makeup, hair, dress, cleaning, cooking, nurturing, planning. Traditional things, and I won't be sorry for it. Something I find alot of joy in, something that makes me feel good every morning. Not out of insecurity, but I find these activities calming and peaceful. They are not chores to me. I feel like every day I can make my face and outfit a piece of art, and that makes the creative part of me smile! I'll give you some examples of the stupid little comments that are just others making fun of me for keeping up my appearance.
The backhanded compliments from other moms, "you always look so nice, I don't care that much so I wear sweats, no one to impress here!" Ok, Barb, I'm not sitting there making comments about your attire to make you feel dumb for dressing up. I don't judge you.
"You were just hired because you were the prettiest." - former co worker. Whether or not true, I was well qualified. I was good at my job and enjoy being well kept. I don't see how that diminishes my education or experience. It even made me second guess myself, and cut off all my hair. I regret. I loved my hair.
Also at old job, "Ms. Company I used to work for" Alluding to the fact that I was dressed up and wore makeup everyday. I was called this often, framed as a joke, but co workers seemed to act like I was some insane vain woman who couldn't function without makeup.
I just don't get it. There's more. Why am I not allowed to look nice in today's society without catching hell. My boyfriends loves how I am, says I am one of the classiest people he's ever met my age. I love it. I just wish people could give me the same courtesy and let me be my girly self.