I live rural. Women here are drink beer with the guys, curse, yell, hunt types. I have absolutely no care to be like that. I also have no care to tell these types how to be. I'm kind of a "to each their own" type of person. If it makes you happy and is healthy then I don't care. Personally I am into makeup, hair, dress, cleaning, cooking, nurturing, planning. Traditional things, and I won't be sorry for it. Something I find alot of joy in, something that makes me feel good every morning. Not out of insecurity, but I find these activities calming and peaceful. They are not chores to me. I feel like every day I can make my face and outfit a piece of art, and that makes the creative part of me smile! I'll give you some examples of the stupid little comments that are just others making fun of me for keeping up my appearance.
The backhanded compliments from other moms, "you always look so nice, I don't care that much so I wear sweats, no one to impress here!" Ok, Barb, I'm not sitting there making comments about your attire to make you feel dumb for dressing up. I don't judge you.
"You were just hired because you were the prettiest." - former co worker. Whether or not true, I was well qualified. I was good at my job and enjoy being well kept. I don't see how that diminishes my education or experience. It even made me second guess myself, and cut off all my hair. I regret. I loved my hair.
Also at old job, "Ms. Company I used to work for" Alluding to the fact that I was dressed up and wore makeup everyday. I was called this often, framed as a joke, but co workers seemed to act like I was some insane vain woman who couldn't function without makeup.
I just don't get it. There's more. Why am I not allowed to look nice in today's society without catching hell. My boyfriends loves how I am, says I am one of the classiest people he's ever met my age. I love it. I just wish people could give me the same courtesy and let me be my girly self.
[–]PrincessTeex154 points155 points156 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]DelightfulDanni37 points38 points39 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]EosMermaidGoddess10 points11 points12 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]30StarStellar1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]covfefeismydrug41 points42 points43 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]ChuckYouFarleigh[S] 10 points11 points12 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]healthyelegant14 points15 points16 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Banincoming34 points35 points36 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]powerpuffgirl35 points6 points7 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]melitele351 points52 points53 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]hopefulalbatross28 points29 points30 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]pennynotrcutt17 points18 points19 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]powerpuffgirl36 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]FlyingSexistPig24 points25 points26 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]i-am-the-prize25 points26 points27 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]jessica_311219 points20 points21 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]giza_rohi18 points19 points20 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]AnnaAerials1 Star2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 26 points27 points28 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]pet_every_dog6 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 11 points12 points13 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]icanbingsu6 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]StrawberryCake881 Star4 points5 points6 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Sobinia5 points6 points7 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]TheBunk_TB4 points5 points6 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ZegiknieEndorsed Contributor3 points4 points5 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]FreeToBeTired2 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]ChuckYouFarleigh[S] 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]LateralThinker134 Stars2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Neuroentropic_Force2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]WildernessGirl2472 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]ChuckYouFarleigh[S] 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]vintagegirlgame1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] (2 children) | Copy Link
[removed]
[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M] 2 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]riskitit2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]nevomintoarce1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]powerpuffgirl30 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]cmj870 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] (2 children) | Copy Link
[deleted]
[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Eugenius6660 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ShawtySayWhaaat0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link