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Boyfriend told me he loves how feminine I am 🥰

July 11, 2022
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That’s it lol. I’ve NEVER been described as feminine by anyone. Before my current partner and this sub, I always embraced my masculine traits and saw my feminine traits as weaknesses. I’ve been changing my perspective and practicing embracing my femininity and this definitely feels like a small win 🥰❤️

UPDATE: Today he also told me that something he loves about me is that I know what a man needs and how to treat a man 😭🥲 I know I owe most of that to resources from this sub so thank you RPW ❤️

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[–]riceweight 24 points25 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

I struggle with girly femininity, but I remember when my boyfriend commented on how feminine I was for the first time. I froze. I’m a t shirt and jeans lady. I’m a “never wears makeup” because I found it fussy — lady. I said, there are so many other feminine women out there at our school. I always thought I was rather masculine in comparison. He replied, “yeah, there are a lot of girls who dress well and are hot, but idk… they’re a little combative and I feel like I’m their competition. Your motherliness and the way you care for me is very feminine.”

I felt very… safe. And appreciated. And like I had a safe place to express my femininity. He’s never taken advantage of my care for him, and always reciprocated with the masculine counterparts.

This subreddit has helped a lot. For every cringe inducing, I would never stay in that situation advice post, I have seen 2 examples of women who trust their partners and want to be great wives and girlfriends. It’s given me determination and hope to find a man that I need, and to provide what he needs.

[–]Glad-Discount-4761 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He replied, “yeah, there are a lot of girls who dress well and are hot, but idk… they’re a little combative and I feel like I’m their competition. Your motherliness and the way you care for me is very feminine.”

That's really sweet compliment.

[–]warm201 points [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link

I’m a “never wears makeup” because I found it fussy — lady

that's actually so attractive you have no idea, to me it's healthy to see a woman not lying about her face on a daily basis, but that's just me

natural beauty is great and so underrated since marketing and society has pushed it as such a culture norm that people have lost simplicity sake

[–]mysterygurl_ 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

There’s nothing wrong with wearing makeup or not wearing any. There are ways to uplift women who like to embrace their natural faces without putting down women who wear makeup.

[–]warm20 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

apologies on sounding harsh, i'm pretty much talking about the obsession of make up culture where they made end up with mental issues over it which isn't healthy, sorry if i may sound out of context and attacking perhaps this subreddit may give you an idea, what i'm actually pointing at

some people even makeup/doll up their 5 year old it's pretty scary tbh and unhealthy longterm for her/him, they get into a weird state of obsession you can imagine they can't live without it just screams unhealthy imo..

https://www.reddit.com/r/MakeupRehab/comments/a9po4f/mental_health_and_makeup/

https://www.reddit.com/r/MakeupRehab/comments/sz57j8/one_year_free_of_makeup_prison/

https://www.reddit.com/r/MakeupRehab/comments/dtx661/im_finally_realizing_how_annoying_and_unnecessary/

bless you

[–]mysterygurl_ 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s ok, I agree with you now that you’ve clarified🙏🏻

[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Do not pet the unicorns.

[–]warm20 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Do not pet the unicorns.

yes mam

[–]faceperfect4radio 7 points8 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Please share examples

[–]Exstntial-strawberry[S] 41 points42 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

  • Dressing more feminine — skirts, dresses, soft makeup + hair, low heels or sandals instead of sneakers. Just putting more effort overall and being proud of it. I used to think it was embarrassing to care about appearance 😂🤦🏻‍♀️
  • not always shouting my opinion or being aggressive in conversation — during conversations my main intent is to listen to listen and learn, not listen to respond. This is the most impactful one I think.
  • small things like picking up his dishes, serving him first, cleaning the dishes, making his bed, making him meals
  • just showing him support, love and tenderness and being vulnerable
  • not trying to be his match or one up him with anything
  • not being sarcastic or jokingly critical
  • accepting his offers to do little things for me and always saying thank you and expressing how grateful I am

There’s more little things I think but these are the ones that come to mind at the moment!

[–]Fishliketrish1 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link

“not being sarcastic” YAWN what is this, build a bitch? Some of these make sense but if you think he has nothing to learn from you, you should value yourself more growth and learning should always go both ways

[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Removed. No feminism

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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