I've been thinking about this question for the last couple days. I'll start by saying that I'm very much in favor of marriage as a rule... but a woman I know ended her most recent relationships because the guys were not into marriage, which is of course, what we generally advise around here.
But it got me wondering.
- We recognize that divorce is terrible for men and marriage success rates are lower than ideal.
- We know that some men aren't marrying and some are removing themselves from the dating pool all together, meaning decreasing options for women.
- High Value Men have options because we all want a man that we deem to be high value.
- The wall is a thing, and while it's not impossible to find a good man as we get older, our options naturally decrease.
Is there a point where it becomes more prudent to chose the man over the marriage? Is marriage the only path for an RPW (I don't think it is)? Could you accept the man you are with absent the option to be married? What would have to occur for you to stay in a permanent LTR? Are we missing out on great men by advising women to vet for marriage first and foremost? Other questions that I have not thought of?
I'm curious to hear your thoughts.
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