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March 11, 2018

Some easy ways I have found to quickly make my sweetheart happy:

  • Don't have time to clean: Do the "good babysitter's cleaning job" which consists of neatening items, straightening piles, etc. It's not invasive or intensive, but it replaces randomness with intentionality. Use essential oils to clean a place aromatically. Spritz a little lavender on the bed sheets, put sage oil in the doorways, lemon-eucalyptus in the entryway/bathroom/kitchen. It's an immediate & total refresh on the energy of the space if you don't have time to do a full clean.

  • Lacking sex/romance or stuck in a rut: Again, use smell / muscle memory. Put an outfit together with perfume that conjures memories of an awesome romantic day together. Take a walk outside or dance to your favorite music to brew up joy within yourself. Wear something sexy that doesn't "require" sex as a response (not spendy lingerie, but maybe nice sweatpants + a crop top or a silky robe + panties). When he does give you that good dxck, tell him how good he was & give him the pets he likes immediately afterward. Train him how to treat you.

  • You are not communicating well or have "nothing to talk about": Do something new on your own. Listen to your old favorite album. Put on something sexy just for yourself while you do self-care. When you are with him next, tell him a story about how you are/were feeling: What does the weather smell like? What does the fabric of your dress remind you of?

  • Sweetie had a bad day, or you have fallen down on your duties: Thank & compliment. Thank sweetie for patience & giving you space while you are not doing your best. Thank him for how hard he works. Compliment him on how sweet he is during your hard times. Compliment him on how impressive he is at what he does.

  • Dude is pissed: Don't defend; if you defend, you are attacked. Listen, apologize, keep an open stance - physically & mentally. Stand your ground by vocalizing your wants & needs. Don't voice what you want as a solution ("I want more time with you"), voice your problem ("I'm feeling lonely, I want to feel connected").

  • If you feel like a raisin: STOP GIVING OR DOING TOO MUCH. If you aren't feeling juicy, stop putting yourself there. Yes, it's great to be caring & supportive & provide comfort - but you can't authentically do this if you don't already feel juicy in yourself. Work yourself back up into a juicy state, & then you can go back to being a love-bug. You don't have to be mean, but there can be a storm over your waters - without you blaming it on anyone else - so buckle down, protect your resources, & be a weather reporter about the conditions on your island if asked.

Also, never do this shxt for someone who is not a Good Man. Don't do this unless you feel amazing whether he is with you or apart from you.

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Title Cheat codes
Author aftertheafter-party
Upvotes 102
Comments 16
Date March 11, 2018 7:47 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
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[–]TankVet6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love this list. It encourages genuine, meaningful expressions of love and affection. You also maintain that this should only be done for someone worthy of such effort. Great work.

[–]LuckyLittleStarModerator | Lil'Star[M] 6 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Great Post! +1 Star

[–]aftertheafter-party2 Star[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Thank you <3

[–]ShotgunTRP1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Please figure out how to get this message out to a wider audience than trpw.

Start a website “return of queens” where you alt-right feminism with classical femininity.

[–]aftertheafter-party2 Star[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Sounds interesting! & it would feel good to be alt-omni; & rather than "queens," we are goddesses: we serve & inspire loyal, worthy Kings, but we create the world. This is where being heart-open & describing & pointing out the incredible wonderment of the world comes in: we with "pull" energy build the environment & ask the questions, while "push" energy suggests answers or solutions. This is an intricate, romantic dance that naturally creates tension, which results in passion & innovation

[–]SEnutshell0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I love you T_T

[–]aftertheafter-party2 Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]oceanicallyunbounded 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link

I love your suggestion about nice sweatpants and a crop top- I've recently gotten feedback that lingerie creates pressure, so I'm looking for great low-key ways to create excitement without forcing it. Thanks! Anything more you've got on the topic would be definitely appreciated!

[–]aftertheafter-party2 Star[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I also love long dresses w/o a bra. It's very modest - while being totally revealing - & is a very comfy at-home look.

Edit: I thought of a couple more... Cute aprons w/ a pair of panties while I cook is comfortable & attractive, but I'm not obviously bidding for sex, as I am busy cooking (but ofc I don't mind taking a break if something else comes up...). & my husband has bought a couple of short cotton + lace nighties for me that he calls "house dresses." I expressed a desire for "house dresses," & these are what he chose, so I wear them around the same way I would wear sweats - just casually.

[–]LateralThinker133 Stars3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Try wearing things that need assistance in putting on. Dresses with zippers in the back, lace-up boots, aprons... anything that he can help you to put on - or take off.

[–]oceanicallyunbounded 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Ooh I like that. Nonsexual but still prompting closeness.

[–]LateralThinker133 Stars0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's the idea. It can go either way, but doesn't pressure him or set the stage for sexpectations. It just gives him the option to take action - or not. Either way, it gets you closer and interacting. It's a win-win and really can't go wrong.

[–]wtf_is_taken4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow...this is awesome. I'd be happy as fuck.

[–]Lovemesometoasts2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

thanks for the list, saving your post for the next time when I need some guidance :)

[–]WhySoOverHeated0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I love how your formulated this, it was interesting and fun to read! And thanks for the advice, will surely do something on my own these next days, to have something nice to tell him about, that isn't school or work :)

[–]aftertheafter-party2 Star[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks, beauty! That was exactly my goal -- to inspire a little bit of new juice

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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