My fiance just left to help his dad do some stuff around his parents home. Before leaving he got mushy and told me how much he appreciates me and how he's the luckiest guy ever. So many cuddles and hugs. I think this was simply because I've been all smiles since he woke up and made him a nice breakfast before he left. Who would have thought!
This might sound silly to someone who was brought up with RP values. I was brought up by a mom who claims to be feminist but is actually quite sexist. I was not taught to cook simply because your man is hungry. I was not taught to be 'girly' or feminine. If anything, I was taught that "your man can cook his own damn meal" and "you are so much more than your looks and femininity". I was not taught to be neat and tidy or take PRIDE in doing so.
Since discovering this sub and you lovely ladies, I've also been reading/listening to LD, FW and lurking around the manosphere.
I've really been stepping up my game on all aspects: my looks, building him up, making sure he's fed and satisfied and the house is clean and tidy. I've been trying to (gently) also get him to understand that he doesn't need to worry about my pleasure every time we have sex. That it's also my responsibility to get myself off. The sex has been crazy, spontaneous and hot 😂🥂 Cheers to that, ladies.
I cannot even put in words the change in his attitude towards me since I REALLY studied the information provided here. The first paragraph is literally just one of many many examples. Another one is yesterday: I got my mensies and was in pain, uncomfortable and feeling crappy. He barely let me lift a finger all day and yelled at me when I tried to sweep the kitchen. I responded with girlishness and told him I have to do it it's driving me crazy and he basically melted. I have never felt more cherished in a relationship than I do now. I think I'm going to start that little booklet that FW mentions.
I realize now, sadly a little late, that feminism has nothing to offer me in this day and age. In my lifetime, it has done more harm than good. Men are so much more simpler than women. Look good, be neat and tidy, feed him, build him up and satisfy him and you will have the kind of relationship that feminists won't admit they want.
I never thought I would do such a 180 but I am truly thankful that you ladies exist, you are such a breath of fresh air. ❤️ I am genuinely scared to think of the state my relationship would be in if I hadn't discovered this sub when I did.