I’m 42.5 and been married for 20 years next year. Marriage is great and our only daughter is grown and will be getting married herself to a lovely young man very soon.
My mother died 11 years ago and I don’t really have anyone to talk to about losing my looks and effectively turning into an old lady at this point lol. I could really use her words and wisdom right now but obviously I cannot summon those but I need some advice unfiltered on hitting the wall if you will.
I had a facelift when I was 39 and just had a breast lift this summer and my goodness my breasts are absolutely stunning and I’m so happy with the results. But I can’t help but notice my face is changing. Just taking on that overall tired matronly look and my eyes are a little baggy and I just don’t look like myself anymore.
In all honesty I look forward to getting older and I enjoy every aspect of my life, marriage, family life, financial standing, good health (knock on wood) and running our business has been great. I feel like there are some real benefits to getting older that I can appreciate more than other stage in my life.
But watching my beauty being ripped away from me has been psychologically painful. As a young woman it was part of my identity for so long and now it’s slipping away. It’s been bittersweet because now I like being an average woman but it’s like watching yourself “die” and you’re seeing your own mortality staring you in the face.
How have you/do you deal with hitting the wall? Do you have the support of your older friends? Do you keep having plastic surgery to stave it off? Does it matter to you and/or do you refuse to give in? Or do you just let nature take its course and understand this is a natural part of womanhood for better or for worse?
Thanks for reading and I look forward to any advice you can offer.