Embracing your natural feminine side is healthy and liberating but hard in current society

TheBunk_TB · 2021-12-02T12:14:53+00:00

It is a rarity that someone could help a stranger learn and grow.

Your story is a start in the right direction

AccomplishedJicama66 · 2021-12-02T14:58:06+00:00

Thank you for this. I went through the same thing but thankfully met a man who helped me rebel against my parents and do what I desired. If not for him, I would’ve ended up 35, unmarried with no children, a doctor that I didn’t want to be and 500k in debt. Your story is more common than most would like to admit.

Scoobyginger25 · 2021-12-02T23:59:31+00:00

I think some feminists forget that feminism is about women having CHOICE.

You want to be a high powered career woman? Great

You want to settle down early and have children?? If you’re reasonably stable and find the right man then that’s great!

Vallerie_d · 2021-12-02T16:04:45+00:00

I'm with you. Never wanted to be a career woman but that's what I have to do to survive. Can't wait for this phase in my life to be over and to live a quiet life with a good husband.

TheTwincessMaker · 2021-12-02T20:57:55+00:00

I, too, wish that someone had floated being a stay-at-home mother as a legitimate option. I've had a professional career for 10 years and spent the four or five prior to that getting my degree. After two rounds of Pandemic IVF, though, all I want is to be home with my twin girls. I literally cried telling my dad that I quit my job, because I'd felt so much pressure to be the strong working woman and I just didn't have it in me.

My stepmom told me she was worried I'd be unfulfilled, but honestly, my job hadn't been fulfilling since before Covid-19. Now that I'm home, I feel like I'm actually doing something that matters, changing dirty diapers and soothing tantrums and running errands and doing chores so that my husband and I can enjoy the evenings and weekends. The more I consider it, the more I start to wonder if the push for dual-income families isn't directly related to the rising divorce rate. I literally don't know how people do this when both parents work. I'm struggling to catch up from just the two months that we did it and I know that, unless we financially have to, I won't be returning to full time work for twenty years. This is where I want to be and where I need to be, right now.

I don't necessarily wish I'd done things differently. I loved my job. I have a lot of money saved up and I needed that to have children (age was not a factor in our infertility). It's more that I wish it hadn't been so hard to accept that my vision of my life, of who I am, was wrong.

boofthegirl · 2021-12-02T23:44:41+00:00

I was raised by a very not-feminine woman. I wouldn’t say she was masculine but did a lot of masculine jobs (roustabouting, shearing, etc) and she always had short-cropped hair. She wore makeup and things but usually eyeliner and lipstick and she is naturally very pretty. She only wanted to have boys and was very disappointed when I popped out wanting only pink and frills lmao.

I had to learn how to be a “girl” all on my own.

I have never felt pressured to be less feminine (except by myself in my own pick-me phase) but now I’m teaching my 56yo mother how to curl her hair because she’s learned that femininity is powerful.

I think I was lucky to learn as a teen that femininity is empowering and we need to show girls that they can be whatever they want and femininity and traditionalism are not “less than” their counterparts who feel fulfilled being more career focused.

LateralThinker13 · 2021-12-02T15:42:18+00:00

This is the tragedy of our modern age.

Sea_Bookkeeper_1533 · 2021-12-02T17:30:14+00:00

Hey girl, I totally, 100000% feel you. I don't have much to add because it's fucking depressing but feel free to DM me.

3xcusm3 · 2021-12-02T14:40:00+00:00

Hey, it's never too late. Always trust your gut. Look at it from the bright side - you are now mature, experienced and are financially stable to start a family - something that a lot of young couples are struggling with right now. You deserve love and it will come to you!

highvibrationsmile · 2021-12-22T13:58:31+00:00

I mean, you could totally go for a makeover and be the beautiful woman you've always wanted to be. Some aesthetic clinics, lasers, fitness, dieting etc since you can afford it and BAM your life changes.

On top of that, you've got a successful career ongoing.

What's not to like? I'd say go for it!

WonderfullyCommon · 2021-12-02T15:51:16+00:00

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ProfessionalLoose868 · 2021-12-03T20:48:36+00:00

Emm you are very young. You have 5 or even 10 years to do all that.

donaldcargill · 2021-12-13T01:23:45+00:00

People are called losers today for wanting to be homemakers and have tons of children but most kids are raised by the state so who are the real losers?

Title	Embracing your natural feminine side is healthy and liberating but hard in current society
Author	nobodysbusiness33
Upvotes	128
Comments	27
Date	December 2, 2021 11:22 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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