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Embracing your natural feminine side is healthy and liberating but hard in current society

December 2, 2021

(F30) I was raised by a feminist mom who shamed me for wanting to be beautiful and feminine. I wanted to marry early and be a good mother,but was mocked for it and was too scared to go against my parents. I felt that the only way to be happy was to be who my parents wanted me to be, so I started focusing on a career I didn't want. I was extremely successful and spent my money on materialistic things. I now realize the only happiness was what I wanted when I was young, to be beautiful and to be loved by a man I love, be a parent and make a career in raising great kids. I really wish there was someone who could stop me from listening to my parents and guide me on the right path. It pains me that we can't even talk about this in any forum because it's instantly taken down. There's probably other young women out there who want to do this and don't have anyone to guide them on the right path.

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Title Embracing your natural feminine side is healthy and liberating but hard in current society
Author nobodysbusiness33
Upvotes 128
Comments 27
Date December 2, 2021 11:22 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]TheBunk_TB 25 points26 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It is a rarity that someone could help a stranger learn and grow.

Your story is a start in the right direction

[–]nobodysbusiness33[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]AccomplishedJicama66 23 points24 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thank you for this. I went through the same thing but thankfully met a man who helped me rebel against my parents and do what I desired. If not for him, I would’ve ended up 35, unmarried with no children, a doctor that I didn’t want to be and 500k in debt. Your story is more common than most would like to admit.

[–]Scoobyginger25 17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think some feminists forget that feminism is about women having CHOICE.

You want to be a high powered career woman? Great

You want to settle down early and have children?? If you’re reasonably stable and find the right man then that’s great!

[–]Vallerie_d 17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm with you. Never wanted to be a career woman but that's what I have to do to survive. Can't wait for this phase in my life to be over and to live a quiet life with a good husband.

[–]TheTwincessMakerEndorsed Contributor 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I, too, wish that someone had floated being a stay-at-home mother as a legitimate option. I've had a professional career for 10 years and spent the four or five prior to that getting my degree. After two rounds of Pandemic IVF, though, all I want is to be home with my twin girls. I literally cried telling my dad that I quit my job, because I'd felt so much pressure to be the strong working woman and I just didn't have it in me.

My stepmom told me she was worried I'd be unfulfilled, but honestly, my job hadn't been fulfilling since before Covid-19. Now that I'm home, I feel like I'm actually doing something that matters, changing dirty diapers and soothing tantrums and running errands and doing chores so that my husband and I can enjoy the evenings and weekends. The more I consider it, the more I start to wonder if the push for dual-income families isn't directly related to the rising divorce rate. I literally don't know how people do this when both parents work. I'm struggling to catch up from just the two months that we did it and I know that, unless we financially have to, I won't be returning to full time work for twenty years. This is where I want to be and where I need to be, right now.

I don't necessarily wish I'd done things differently. I loved my job. I have a lot of money saved up and I needed that to have children (age was not a factor in our infertility). It's more that I wish it hadn't been so hard to accept that my vision of my life, of who I am, was wrong.

[–]boofthegirl 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was raised by a very not-feminine woman. I wouldn’t say she was masculine but did a lot of masculine jobs (roustabouting, shearing, etc) and she always had short-cropped hair. She wore makeup and things but usually eyeliner and lipstick and she is naturally very pretty. She only wanted to have boys and was very disappointed when I popped out wanting only pink and frills lmao.

I had to learn how to be a “girl” all on my own.

I have never felt pressured to be less feminine (except by myself in my own pick-me phase) but now I’m teaching my 56yo mother how to curl her hair because she’s learned that femininity is powerful.

I think I was lucky to learn as a teen that femininity is empowering and we need to show girls that they can be whatever they want and femininity and traditionalism are not “less than” their counterparts who feel fulfilled being more career focused.

[–]LateralThinker134 Stars 18 points19 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

This is the tragedy of our modern age.

[–]thepretendchristian 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

More and more woman are coming to the epiphany that marriage and parenthood is what life really is all about. Unfortunately, I don’t see a significant shift in our culture that will prioritize the family any time soon. We’ll always be a minority.

[–]TheTwincessMakerEndorsed Contributor 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I disagree. Homeschooling rates are increasing. Women are leaving the workforce at a higher rate. Covid-19 has really caused a lot of people to rethink the status quo.

[–]RainGodz 5 points6 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

There's going to be a real reckoning soon according to Kevin Samuels. The number of homeless women is rising and his theory is that they're career women who didn't create families

[–]ghostgirl36 13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I resent this theory. I was homeless as a teenager and every homeless person I ever met had the same issue: drugs.

Most of them were mothers and had families. A lot of them were stay at home moms too. Redpill is a poor explanation for addiction and mental health issues.

[–]RainGodz 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Do the drugs come before being homeless or after? I can see a lot of people losing their homes and turning to drugs to cope

Edit: I'm not arguing just genuinely curious to see what your opinion is

[–]ghostgirl36 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's always before. It's really hard to lose everything unless you're a hardcore addict.

[–]Sea_Bookkeeper_15331 Star 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hey girl, I totally, 100000% feel you. I don't have much to add because it's fucking depressing but feel free to DM me.

[–]3xcusm3 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hey, it's never too late. Always trust your gut. Look at it from the bright side - you are now mature, experienced and are financially stable to start a family - something that a lot of young couples are struggling with right now. You deserve love and it will come to you!

[–]highvibrationsmile 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I mean, you could totally go for a makeover and be the beautiful woman you've always wanted to be. Some aesthetic clinics, lasers, fitness, dieting etc since you can afford it and BAM your life changes.

On top of that, you've got a successful career ongoing.

What's not to like? I'd say go for it!

[–]nobodysbusiness33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Haha Thanks.

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[–]WonderfullyCommon 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

i think she means that women generally have their best chances to finding a high quality man as a younger woman due to youth, beauty, fertility, etc.

[–]ProfessionalLoose868 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Emm you are very young. You have 5 or even 10 years to do all that.

[–]nobodysbusiness33[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]donaldcargill 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

People are called losers today for wanting to be homemakers and have tons of children but most kids are raised by the state so who are the real losers?

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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