Hello Ladies,

I took the pill a few weeks back and I'm ready to fully commit to making some changes to hopefully salvage my relationship.

I'd like to use this forum to field report and receive feedback from this great community. Let me know what I am doing wrong and how I can improve!

I am a 30 and my husband is 29. We have a 9 month old and a 2 year old. I also have an 8 year from my first marriage. Husband works for a construction company and I am a stay at home mom.

We have been together for 5 years and I have been a terrible wife. Depression, near constant shit/comfort tests, blaming. He says I am over opinionated and controlling even though I think I hold my tongue quite a bit and feel I'm easy going. He says I nag him too much but things do not get done around the house for months at a time. Instead, he sits on the couch to watch tv and does not interact with any of us. I know I am doing things wrong and I need to change.

He does not know I am reading RP material and I do not know how to introduce it to him or if that is even appropriate. He is already somewhat RP with his attitude towards women but is indecisive and will not take charge of the relationship with out great resentment. He is overweight, extremely quiet, but has a lot of potential to be a wonderful husband... I just have to become a better wife. I am reasonably fit and still receive attention from men but my husband seems uninterested in me.

So, I'll be doing all the housework with no complaints, no more insisting about certain things around the house to be done ( I'll do it myself if I can ), and I'll keep working on myself physically. I'm interested to see what changes may or may not take place.

I am planning on getting a copy of The Submissive Wife. Can there be improvements in a relationship if he is not also reading RP material? I do not want to be controlling anymore.