I've got a couple friend, friends with both the husband and the wife. As some of you know, I live abroad. This couple friend studied abroad in England in their mid -20's (they're 34 now) and moved to our current country a year ago. The wife found the job first and the husband followed.
Just saw the husband earlier this evening at a group dinner (the wife actually lost her job and is trying to find a job in England).
Apparently the wife had been cheating on him since last September. So I had basically been spending time with this couple for sure year, not knowing that she had been having an affair this whole time.
He tried for one year to fix the problems. They included things like lack of sex, lack of romance, him having a lower salary. Typical female hypergamous instinct. I started to remember some of the things that he did for her...he would always let her choose where to eat, let her call the shots. Let her "explore life" while he worked six days a week and met with her after he finished work. He was basically a beta bitch. He would bring things to her like she requested, thinking that was what she wanted when she said lack of romance. He even threw a surprise birthday party for her. Typical movie romance but no tingles.
Also minute details like he wasn't able to take his driver's license test for a while, so it was basically her driving the car and her company renting the car. Housing was provided by her company and not his.
Because I was friends with the husband as well, just hearing his side of the story broke my heart. I used to skim TRP and read stories like this all the time but coming from a man I actually knew, who I was friends with...I really felt for him. He had oneitis for this girl. He even secretly recorded her kissing the new man in their car and read emails/texts from her to him.
This girl isn't even very attractive - slightly overweight and less than average face. I would say a 5.5. And she's 34. Still feeling entitlement at that level.
Whose fault was it? Should she have given him credit for trying? He obviously didn't realize what he was doing wrong (caring too much and not improving himself). Was she in the wrong for cheating or was it his fault for not setting the standards?
Anyways, I just needed to post this somewhere, I haven't made a post in a while. But this situation was so shocking to me because 1) I spent time with both of them when she was cheating, and I had no idea, and 2) the husband was a friend of mine.