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Femininity makes people treat you better!

June 10, 2022

This may just be my experience but there have been times when people help me. Compliment me, for no reason!

Or I thought it was no reason , I realized when I am wearing skirts and dresses and heels that people are a lot nicer to me.

When I was taking the bus back to my dorm a girl was swearing a lot and turned to apologize to me for it. I thought this was crazy because that has never happened before haha

Or when people address me by “Ma’am” or “Miss”

Anyone else experience this?

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Title Femininity makes people treat you better!
Author LoveWitchXo
Upvotes 119
Comments 17
Date June 10, 2022 6:07 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
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[–]chancefruit 30 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hmm I don't know :) I think it's just general attractiveness that makes men & women more friendly.

Femininity in a woman does coincidentally make us more attractive overall, but I think if you're put-together in pants + flats (sandals or sneakers), you will still be treated nicer than someone who might be wearing skirt + heels but otherwise plain or even disheveled. Some women can really rock a t-shirt and jeans.

I am noticeably given a lot more attention and courteous exchanges when I've been "dressed up" with more makeup for an evening out. I might be wearing pants, but maybe paired with knee-high heeled boots. I become really self-conscious as this isn't my daily experience.

[–]amadexodus 27 points28 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I've experienced this too, but I think your overall vibe is part of it. If you're wearing a dress+heels and have your makeup done, but you come across as hard and pissed off, people won't be as inclined to treat you better.

I've also noticed that little kids tend to stare at me more, and if I coo at a baby while walking down the street, the parents will usually smile back or say thank you. Children especially are wired to respond to femininity.

[–]Rich_Train_179 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I thought the “vibe” thing would be a given?

[–]amadexodus 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I suppose -- I kind of thought OP was just referring to how she dressed.

[–]Underground-anzac-99 13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

People treated me far better after I lost weight. I went from a US size 6-8 (so not even that big) to a size 2-4 (so quite small) and suddenly everyone was my friend. It actually made me quite sad as I’d only lost the weight through illness.

[–]sunglasses90 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

For sure. Dress like a lady and most people will automatically treat you like that. Same thing with guys. If they’re attractive and in a suit the world falls at their feet.

[–]LadySandcastle 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've found that long hair, dresses and skirts gives people the impression you're old fashioned and that would explain the apologizing for cursing in my opinion.

You can still look feminine in a chic way, form fit jeans button down shirt ect and you'd probably get attention but not people assuming you were old fashioned as it's a more modern look.

[–]Throwawayneedhelp77 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes when my hair is done and I’m wearing bright colors I get treated better in public.

[–]Cosima_Fan_Tutte 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This seems to happen to some women, but I've never experienced it. Maybe it's because I live in the Midwest, and dressing up here means wearing your "nice" jeans. When I was really into skirts/heels, I often felt overdressed and out of place.

But! Being out with my young children does make people treat me very kindly! I've never experienced so much positive attention in my life until I had kids. People will smile, say nice things, let me go ahead of them in line, etc. It's like motherhood gave me a halo. 👼

[–]sailorcrystal 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

100% true. I switched jobs recently and work in a warehouse. Think hot, close toed shoes, etc. I spent a lot of the colder days in sweatpants and leggings. Lately, I’ve found that I can (safely) wear shorts and casual dresses. I’m working on having a more professional attire (this is a transitional job for me, and my last job had a set uniform) even though I don’t work with any customers and am usually working alone in the back sorting packages. The men at my job are SO much more friendly. Even the owner (it’s a smaller business) has gone from grunting at me to speaking words to me.

[–]aslanhatessmeagol 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think it is not really about what you wear but how you treat people. I bet you have a good personality and that's why you are likeable.

But in my culture, a lot of men like feminine women. In my experience,i only met 1 guy that like masculine type.

[–]aussiedollface2 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Absolutely. Men open doors for you etc and are very respectful.xo

[–]Future_Kaleidoscope31 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link

Just because you’re a woman doesn’t mean you have to dress the way men want you to . Do you

[–]LoveWitchXo[S] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I never said anything about me dressing the way a man wants me to

[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Troll has been banned.

[–]RedditBabe21 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've noticed men are nicer to me and more chivalrous.

[–]chevron_one 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Part of it is in Western culture, especially the US, no one bothers to look presentable or dress up anymore.

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