Give him the opportunity to ghost you

Ladies: Many of us are dating and trying to find Mr. Right and unfortunately with the way dating is these days it can be a painful experience with too many mind games. There is less of an incentive for men to pair up and settle down. Here is a little tidbit that even I forget to tell myself sometimes:

Give him the opportunity to ghost you. That's right. Let him ghost you. Whether you've been dating for a few weeks or you're in between dates and you're unsure about how he feels, give him the chance to disappear. What does that mean? In other words, don't contact him. Don't text him or call him or like his posts. Don't watch his snap stories. Just step back.

A man who is actually interested in you, intrigued by you, and realizes that he craves your company will realize they haven't heard from you and reach out. Men fall in love differently than women. You need to give him the opportunity to miss you.

If he misses you and wants to see you again, he'll reach out and arrange a date. If he doesn't, it won't even cross his mind to text you. And honestly, that's a good thing. Let him fade away. Don't we want a man who will actively and intentionally pursue us? Why do you want to date someone who doesn't miss you?

In the meantime, create busyness for yourself as a distraction so you aren't waiting around for his text. Call a friend, go for a walk, bake cookies, watch a documentary on Netflix even so you can learn about a new subject to converse about at your next social gathering or date.

I promise you that if he is actually interested in you he will let you know and it will be clear and direct. He will realize he hasn't heard from you and seek you out. And when he does, it will be intentional and your boundaries, whatever they are, will be respected.

EDIT: I say this with the assumption that the woman has actively shown her interest in a man with actions and words and he stops reciprocating or disappears without notice.