RPW, I used to write a lot about girl game and femininity in this sub. I’ve taken a hiatus from writing - mostly to continue on with my life - but to also grow as a lady, to grow as a woman. What does it mean to be a mature woman in the modern age, where youth seems to be a security blanket that haunts us as we get older? How can we be both mature, responsible, and fun? We talk about being that hot, bubbly, fun girl, but is she also wife material? How can we safely and productively combine the adult qualities with the energetic innocence that keeps us excited about life?
GTFU. Not GTFO, not STFU. GTFU. Grow The F*** Up.
 Discover your personality outside of your career. Our careers are not our personalities, they are simply either (depending on you) a money-making role, or a status-role that labels you as a contributing member of society. But regardless of your monetary assets or your job title, who are you? What makes you excited about life? If you didn’t have your job, what kind of books or activities would you partake in? That is your personality, and that is the part of you that our men like to know.
 Learn how to nurture others. Men seek a wife who can also be a counselor and lend a listening ear. Learn to sympathize, and don’t fuck it up by bringing the conversation back to yourself again. This is a true test of your consideration towards your man. Can you listen to him, sympathize with him, and when he needs it, advise him? The maternal nurturance of affection (physical and emotional affection) is the maturity that men crave in a partner. It is the “Agnes” quality (in David Copperfield), it is the blessed, emotional matriarchal quality that men so insanely desire in addition to the physical beauty of women. A man cannot fully dedicate himself to you unless you are able to show him sympathy and wisdom.
 Read and expand your vocabulary to develop your self-expression. A mature woman requires strong communication skills: she has eloquence, she is articulate, she possesses social grace. Practice writing, practice small-talk, practice the discussion of topics (especially ones that you are passionate about!) Don’t be one of those women who brings her rants and complaints everywhere. Practice talking about topics and ideas, rather than the petty negative elements of daily life.
 Find your sass! As women, we have something called our animus (or our masculine qualities, in which every single woman has, in order to become wholly functioning). Women can be adventurous, mischievous, spirited (because who wants to be boring?) - and this kind of fire can energize your partner and within your own life. Find that inner imp inside of you. That is the life-force in you: your wit, your character, your enthusiasm, your morale. Infuse your actions with your warmth and vigor. Your man will appreciate it. Don’t be a doormat; no, I’m sorry: REFUSE to be a doormat. Instead, be FUN.
 Abolish your negativity. We don’t need a thesis to know that men don’t like to be around negative women (actually, nobody likes to be around a downer, period!) This skill requires gradual and long-term growth, as being kind and optimistic is a practice of values that occurs over time. If you struggle with negative rumination, then meditate, get psychotherapy, practice self-care, journal, whatever it is you need to do to stop being obsessed with negativity...bottom line: eradicate that nastiness!
 Develop a quiet, inner strength. You are a full-fledged adult woman. Women can be beautiful and strong, soft and strong, feminine and strong, graceful and strong, loving and strong. To be feminine is not to be weak, it merely is an indicator of either your physical image or the methodology of how you approach things (Do you approach with empathy or rigidity? Do you approach with fun and flair or with harsh aggression? Do you approach with laughter or anger? Do you approach by sitting still or by hunting?)
Now get out there, ladies, and be the best, beautifully vivacious woman you can be.