I have been thinking about this for a while. It's more philosophical than RPW, you could say.
It's always said that as women, we should know what we want in life and in a marriage before we enter any relationship with potential. Such things could be living in a specific city, living with a certain income, marrying a man with a certain job, having the job that you want, having a certain number of kids, etc.
But do you think that you (personally) could be happy if you didn't have your ideal situation? What things could you let go? If you and your partner lived in your ideal city but didn't make as much money as you liked, could you be happy? If your partner wasn't able to provide a big house and only a medium house, would you be happy? If your partner wanted to live in a rural area, but you liked the bustling city, could you still be happy?
Can you be happy in any situation?
I specifically ask this because I find its a very American mindset to dissatisfied with superficial things like income, location, materialism. A lot of my non-American friends will get by on a modest income but they enjoy life at any stage. I also came from a family culture that emphasized gratitude. My parents live an easy quiet life and they enjoy it together.
Depression in Americans is also a lot higher than other countries.
Even when I talked to non Americans about picking their partners, a lot of them don't have a huge list of what they want. I'm starting to think this is part of the ungratefulness that can manifest living in America. I also noticed some of my very very rich friends who have "everything they want" are the ones who complain the most and are dissatisfied with life. Example is the investment banker friend who chased money and has money coming out of her ears but she's so unhappy all the time.