Had an interesting conversation with a student's mother today. She was saying how difficult it is for women to have careers because we have to balance childrearing and domestic duties along with a career, and men are simply allowed to concentrate on their careers only. BTW, she comes from a patriarchal culture and her husband has his own company.
In response I said, well, I wouldn't want to do my boyfriend's job though, it's difficult and a lot of work (my boyfriend is trying to build a company), and this is me saying it out of respect for him.
However, she responded "he chose his job. He chose to have a crazy life when he could have chosen something easier. Don't feel bad for him for his choice." (She also says this because her husband is similar)
So it got me thinking. Which choices would you respect your boyfriend for? Which would you turn your back on and say "it's his own choice, he chose a hardship"?
Is the mother being disrespectful by saying this? Should she be more grateful her husband has a risky arduous job that allows her to work part-time and be a mother? (mind you, she's not a career woman anyway, she used to be a flight attendant, dabbled in fashion design and cake decorating)
And it also got me thinking, why do men make "hard choices" (jobs that require long hours, cutthroat jobs, high pressure performance jobs), is it simply testosterone or proving their worth?
Would you respect a man for choosing the "easy way out" (for instance he works a job for meager pay but isn't really contributing to the world in any way on a medium-large scale)?
Do men take on difficult and arduous jobs just to impress women? Just to prove their abilities?
I say this because I know many men who admit to wishing they could live an easy life, where everything is provided for and they could be like the little boy who had no worries, but adulthood forces them to need to become someone worthy.