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He said he is going to marry me

Nymph_river
January 30, 2023
143 upvotes
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The other night while I was sleeping my boyfriend pulled me close to cuddle me and started whispering things in my ear. The movement woke me up a little so I heard him as he was saying such, such sweet things. He told me that he loves me so much, and he ended it with “I am going to marry you.”

I have never felt more motivated to work harder towards my goals and self betterment. I want to be an impressive woman/amazing wife and his words gave me such a boost.

I found RPW today and I love how all of the tips are related to exactly how I want to work on myself. My bf and I are still young and both of us are pursuing higher education so we still have a while to go, but that just gives me more time to become the best version of myself.

I’m excited to be a part of RPW and I’m super excited for the future.

(BTW, I hope I chose the correct flair).

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Title He said he is going to marry me
Author Nymph_river
Upvotes 143
Comments 33
Date January 30, 2023 5:41 AM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
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[–]AngelicWitch101 28 points29 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

How beautiful. That must have felt so safe and comforting and also deeply empowering that someone loves you like that. I wish I had something like that.

[–]CountTheBeesEndorsed Contributor 31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is so lovely! When a man does things like that when he thinks you can't hear him it means he is totally genuine. You two are going to be great together. Congratulations!

[–]BudgetInteraction811 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He’s manifesting it into her subconscious. Lol. Adorable.

[–]AutoModerator[M] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Title: He said he is going to marry me

Full text: The other night while I was sleeping my boyfriend pulled me close to cuddle me and started whispering things in my ear. The movement woke me up a little so I heard him as he was saying such, such sweet things. He told me that he loves me so much, and he ended it with “I am going to marry you.”

I have never felt more motivated to work harder towards my goals and self betterment. I want to be an impressive woman/amazing wife and his words gave me such a boost.

I found RPW today and I love how all of the tips are related to exactly how I want to work on myself. My bf and I are still young and both of us are pursuing higher education so we still have a while to go, but that just gives me more time to become the best version of myself.

I’m excited to be a part of RPW and I’m super excited for the future.

(BTW, I hope I chose the correct flair).

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[–]misspatheticpatty1 points [recovered] (13 children) | Copy Link

Words mean nothing. Actions do.

[–]LivelyLycheeModerator[M] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is uncalled for. OP is celebrating a victory. There is no need to sow seeds of doubt for no reason. Removed.

[–]AbhorrentlyKawaii 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

That's not true. If you communicate to your man that you trust in the things he says, and you give him the benefit of the doubt that he intends to follow through on what he says, you set yourself up for the best possible future you can have with your partner. If you allow yourself to be consumed by doubts, he won't feel like there is trust between you two, and that can hurt your relationship.

[–]misspatheticpatty1 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

There are millions of women who have left relationships over that I will marry you one day line. That day never coming. I never been stock in what any man says its what he does

[–]KleinRe107 1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

This coming from an ex escort, it's quite laughable. Your bitterness is reeking all over the place

[–]Hartley7 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A former prostitute giving relationship advice? Ewwwww

[–]floravanderrohe 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Eww toxic

[–]Twilight_Rose99 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s posts like this that make my day, this is so special❤️

[–]Automatic-Praline568 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That is a beautiful moment. Congratulations.

[–]Darksnickerss 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is beautiful. I love this.

[–]TheBunk_TB 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

At least you are taking him seriously. It means something that you take this seriously.

I said this to my gf and she let "us" wither.

(After she dropped out of GED classes, she left me for her ex-fiancée, who ended up in jail for domestic violence).

I wish you both the best and I encourage you to learn as much as you can.

[–]Pansy9000 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Well, did you "tell her you wanted to marry her", or did you actually propose?

[–]TheBunk_TB 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I started by discussing on what I wanted "post-Navy". (I was enlisted at the time).

I told her that I wanted to get married and head back to college, (not far from where I was from).

I was stationed where she was staying with family.

She was struggling, but she seemed optimistic about working toward something in the future. But she seemed lukewarm about my ideas and she didn't offer anything else outside of blank looks and uncomfortable laughter.

(I had mentioned getting work at nearby industries and JUCO, also).

I wanted to propose but I felt that she was too uncomfortable around my people, experiences. (Family member's wedding, church folks, being around healthy enough family situations). She didn't seem to be bought in at all.

She ended up heading back to her family, where she enrolled in GED classes, started saving money. We had spoke about working toward a future when she pulled the plug.

I honestly didn't want to propose until I felt like she was taking the idea of marriage seriously or that she understood what that meant.

(She didn't have good family histories and most mentions of her father weren't good. The next nearest decent male in her family was an ex-Satanist uncle, whom she butted heads with).

I was naive to a point, but I dodged a bullet in the long run.

[–]Pansy9000 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, you definitely dodged a bullet. Girls with bad family histories are basically untouchables. I am one, and I have to do a LOT of work to meet the standard of decency set by women of superior upbringings. Good for you to move on.

[–]Nymph_river[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thank you! Throughout the relationship we have learned a lot about each other and ourselves. It has really helped us grow stronger as a couple.

I’m sorry to hear about your gf. Sometimes when someone is used to an abusive situation, a healthy relationship can feel uncomfortable to them, so they go back to the abuse. It’s a sad phenomenon. I hope you find someone who loves you more than their comfort zone. I get terrible, terrible relationship anxiety, so if I had loved my comfort zone more than my bf, we would have broken up a while ago for sure. Find someone who is willing to better themselves for you just as much as you are willing to better yourself for them. Wishing you the best :)

[–]TheBunk_TB 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

healthy relationship can feel uncomfortable to them

Yeah, I learned the hard way.

I have done better since then. I ignored red flags, but I learned from that experience.

I also wish your end the best.

[–]Pansy9000 1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Congratulations! How do you know you can trust him? When I relay stuff like this, people tell me to keep vetting and not take it at face value. I'm often told that only engagement counts as a real promise, so maybe be careful.

[–]Nymph_river[S] 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I trust him because he has never shown that I cannot. We have discussed marriage and having a family many times before, so it is not a new topic to us. However, hearing him say those words to me when he thought I was asleep really solidified that he loves me as much as I love him and that we both are serious when we discuss a future with each other.

We are both young, and don’t plan on taking steps towards marriage until our schooling is over (which will be a few years from now) so of course anything can happen, but getting that verbal commitment meant a lot :)

[–]Pansy9000 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm in the exact situation you described :)

[–]TheBunk_TB 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

trust him because he has never shown that I cannot. We have discussed marriage and having a family many times before,

For most people that arent psychopaths or manipulators, this is usually steps in that direction. It usually worked to either scare away someone or further communication.

[–]HumanSockPuppetTRP Founder 6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

We don't know anything about OP's relationship. All we know is the context in which she chose to share this: she experienced something that excited her, and she was eager to share it with this community as a way of starting her interactions with us.

We should take it in the spirit in which it was shared and welcome her.

[–]Pansy9000 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

It's just curious how some women get that treatment and others don't, that's all.

[–]HumanSockPuppetTRP Founder 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This community is built around helping women understand how to be the former. Forget the dating advice you hear from the world at large and pay attention to the flaired ladies in this community. They will help you.

[–]Pansy9000 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

*including within this community. By "this treatment" I mean being believed and respected by other women when your man verbally commits without proposing. I've been intensely shit on in this and other communities in the past for accepting a verbal committment, so I figured there was something to be said about it here.

The advice I've gotten here is to never get your hopes up with his lofty talks of marriage, and to never believe him until he proposes

[–]lexisayshihi 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is absolutely beautiful

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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