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He told me to pick out rings!

March 18, 2019

Hello ladies!

Happy to be here with an update.

For reference: I'm 26F, he's 26M. Together 6 years.

I've posted in the past about:

  • His picky eating habits vs. my foodie cooking
  • His reluctance to move in with me

I'm happy to report the following:

  • He's moved in and is paying more than I requested (I asked for half, he's supplementing 65% - makes him feel more like a man by providing more! win win!)

  • We meal plan together (with Wednesday being "Wildcard Wednesday" where I get to make WHATEVER I WANT) and haven't had a single issue regarding any homemade meals. His palate has expanded INSANELY and he's starting to get excited about Wednesday more than grilled chicken/rice/broccoli Mondays. He no longer says/does anything that feels discouraging/insulting of my cooking and I'm not forcing him to eat things he doesn't like. So another win-win.

  • I also mentioned in an update thread (I think it was valentines day) that his own dad (his mom & dad are redpilled af and incredible role models) asked him "WHY THE HELL HAVEN'T YOU MARRIED HER YET?" and he decided to corner me on St.Pat's (they're Irish) to tell me all about the cute little baby socks he saw at the store and when I wanted to have kids. (aka - parents more than approve!)

  • This morning, after an amazing weekend - he told me I can start showing him the rings I like (I've been meekly asking for months) and that we should finally go get our nails done together (He works with his hands and I've been asking him to try a manicure with me (to improve his cuticles so they stop bleeding) and we have a giftcard (so he doesn't think it's a waste of money). I've only asked that he considers 3 things when asking me to marry him - my nails are done, my skin is clear and it's being filmed.

(Small but important - his "side passion" has become his full-time income, I put in a lot of hard work to help him with this with no payout for myself (be very wary, this is not for everyone) but it has paid off significantly, he's estatic about his company).

So, ring - check. Nails - check. Parents - check.

He's also been relentlessly telling me how "life-changing" and "absolutely amazing" and "the best year yet" this spring is going to be for us.

So, my dots have connected and IM GETTING ENGAGED!!!!!

I'll obv update once the ring is actually on my finger, but I just wanted to offer a small field report as to what RP values can do for many people. I was bluepill, a raging feminist when he met me. I learned I actually, truly, wanted nothing more than to be a wife and mother. I found out he loves that too, and wants to support me. I found new ways to communicate, to take care of myself, to let go. Being redpilled was the best thing that happened to me (s/o Jordan Peterson, a prof from my university) for initializing these changes and an even BIGGER s/o to myself for turning myself into the best version of myself.

I'd also like to mention I'm depression free, something I struggled with for over 7 years. (Also I'm sure a huge factor into this possible engagement).

I feel like myself, not even an average version of myself, but the best version. Now? He liked it so he's gonna put a ring on it.

I learned my hand, I played my cards and I won the jackpot.

Keep up the work ladies, it's worth it!

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Title He told me to pick out rings!
Author countrylemon
Upvotes 115
Comments 19
Date March 18, 2019 8:08 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–]Fuckitandthrowitaway15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Congratulations! This is so heartwarming to hear!

[–]countrylemon[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you! I thought so too. May give some newcomers some insight into what's possible!

[–]organicsunshine10 points11 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Please remember the optics aren't important as the relationship. Find a reasonably priced ring and find cost saving ways to hold a lovely wedding. You dont need a ton of stress starting out.

[–]countrylemon[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yep! I'm not about to break the bank he built. He gave me a price of $3,000 which is more than I was looking at anyways!

[–]lovelyllamas1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I second this. Look into moissanite!

[–]countrylemon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


He's actually Irish so it'll be an emerald to follow through with their culture! :)
(a compromise because I honestly really hate the Claddagh rings)

[–]iamfemme5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is such an amazing story.

Congrats! You should be proud!

[–]countrylemon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you!! I'm so extremely proud, of him, myself and us! Can't believe we're finally at this point!!

[–]aikyan7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

this is so sweet to hear, i loved this whole story from start to finish! what his dad said made my heart melt. congratulations and good luck! i wish you all the best 💓

[–]countrylemon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love his dad so freaking much, I love seeing how similar they are. Really tells me a lot about the man he's been raised to be!

[–]boom-boom-betty4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Congratulations to you both! 💜💜💜

[–]countrylemon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you so much!!

[–]CutiePabooty4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Wow that’s great! Congrats!

[–]countrylemon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you! ♥

[–]LemurianStarseed112 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Congratulations!! That’s amazing and so encouraging to hear!! :)

[–]-evanuris3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Jordan Perterson is somewhat controversial at times (you can’t 100% agree with someone on everything I suppose) but he was such a great role model in guiding me through my bluepill to redpill phase, good thing it happened while I was still really young.

Congrats OP!

[–]countrylemon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Agreed! If there wasn't so much drama at my school surrounding him I might have drifted on bluepilled forever. After that huge hassle where he was berated, I started watching his content and removing myself from certain social groups. I love it, I've got friends with different opinions on everything but they're all level headed people for the most part. He really showcased to me what a mature, rational person who takes time to think can do for themselves and society. Agreed, you can't agree with everything.

[–]rch25 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

What a wonderful update! So lovely to hear - I can't wait for the next update with the ring! Early congratulations to you both on the engagement, and especially huge congratulations to you for all your hard work and dedication to yourself and your relationship. How inspiring for the rest of us who are still a few years behind you!

[–]countrylemon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you so much! I look forward to sharing that update haha.

It's been a long and trying journey but it's nice to feel like myself and feel completely in control of my life. I'm so genuinely happy.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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