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How a cleaning app made my husband feel more loved and less anxious.

November 23, 2019

I guess this is a field report. I just wanted to share.

My husband and I have been together for 5.5 years, married for 2.5.

We recently moved to a new city because he got a new job. I was able to leave my former career and start freelancing in a new field.

With freelancing comes a lot of downtime, because I'm not yet too established. But at this point, we aren't sure if I should be. It's all because of a cleaning app called Tody (not affiliated, just a huge fan). I just set up how frequently a chore should be done, and it gives me a personalized to-do list every day. Just do the chores it tells you to. If you don't finish, they'll still be there tomorrow with an angry red "x days overdue" sign. Nothing like "Clean the toilets" with "4 days overdue" to make you feel gross but also motivated!!

After using this app for some time, I also started getting interested in homemaking -- something I was never quite able to do properly working 70 hours a week in my old career.

I started watching Mrs. Midwest and The Daily Connoisseur. I really started trying at being a homemaker.

And my husband's reaction was flooring. He walks home after work and raves about how clean our home is. My MIL is coming over this evening to stay for Thanksgiving; he kissed me this morning and said,

"You've been doing such a good job with chores, there's nothing for me to clean before my mom gets here. I love you."

In the past, he would be running around the house, completely anxious, cleaning up after *me* to prepare for his mom's arrival while I caught up on work so that I could socialize with her later. That's so backwards looking at it now.

Instead, today, he is in a state of calm. We are both able to relax on the sofa with a cup of coffee and enjoy our Saturday morning. (We're both playing some video games. You can live an idyllic, feminine lifestyle and still be yourself!)

Be the steward of your home, and he will be the steward of your life together.

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Title How a cleaning app made my husband feel more loved and less anxious.
Author isharetoomuch
Upvotes 190
Comments 17
Date November 23, 2019 3:51 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

This is really helpful thanks! I’ve been keeping a handwritten journal al but this is much more practical

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[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I’m going to try it. I’ve been using the same thing

[–]lilacgirl_9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

This is awesome!! I keep a cleaning calendar I created and taped behind a cabinet with the cleaning supplies. Each day has small tasks to do. For example, Monday’s I deep clean the kitchen. Tuesday’s are laundry and floor cleaning day, etc. At first I had to look at it each day but now it’s become a habit. Doing these little things helps free up the weekend so there aren’t any chores to do and we can spend our time relaxing and/or hosting friends instead. I will check out this cleaning app. Thanks for sharing!

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[–]lilacgirl_5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

So true, agreed! When you simplify things, it makes daunting tasks much more relaxing and doable. Like everything in life really (or at least most things).

[–]Jessicahorse1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I see your handle and want to recommend Pacifica brand French Lilac Perfume. It is fairly inexpensive and quite lovely.

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[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This app sounds awesome. I'll be adding this to my phone for sure :) [I am a bad housekeeper. It's pretty despicable honestly].

[–]organicsunshine7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This app is great thank you! I am going to put it on kiddos phone to manager her chores too

[–]Yvarle4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I just downloaded the app it looks fantastic. I'm excited for this aid in keeping a tidy home. Thanks for this!

[–]jfiscal2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That pretty cool. I'm gonna look into this toadie thing

[–]covfefeismydrug2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I downloaded the app. So good!!

[–]Pola_Lita1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


I might be the messiest person on the planet. I love this idea. :)

[–]damegolda1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Omg need this SOOOOOOOO badly. Thank you and Gd bless

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[–]Biedlonka_1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

OMG thank you for this app, it's absolutely awesome! I can already see how will it improve my daily cleaning routine. 😍

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