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How different it feels to dress feminine

March 20, 2021

I got a bunch of dresses/skirts and yesterday I wore a cute midi dress for the first time in ages and it felt so good. Like I could physically feel more feminine throughout the day and it's like a daily reminder to stay graceful and modest.

Also, I've never felt more feminine than when wearing a more modest dress compared to miniskirts/mini dresses, it's like a more lady like type of femininity and I love it.

I might be pushing it but I feel like it's also kind of a duty or at least an important contribution to restore the divine feminine in society and that can be through dressing nice. It seems so trivial but it's like we're doing something meaningful for this world where women are becoming more masculine and men more feminine.

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Title How different it feels to dress feminine
Author enoraj
Upvotes 154
Comments 35
Date March 20, 2021 8:08 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]KombuchaEnema4 Stars 65 points66 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I used to have the mentality of “I don’t feel very feminine or beautiful today, so I’m not going to dress up.” I had it in my head that in order to dress feminine, you have to feel feminine first.

Then I realized that dressing feminine is what made me feel feminine. So now putting on a dress is one of the easiest ways for me to pull myself out of a funk.

It’s sort of the same as when you think “oh I feel too lazy to do the dishes,” but in reality it’s more like “I feel lazy because I haven’t done the dishes.”

[–]q-the-light 32 points33 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I'm so happy for you! I've been exclusively wearing skirts and dresses for about four or five years now, and it's an incredibly powerful thing. Femininity has been replaced by feminism, and the world has lost the importance of what it means to be a lady. The only way we can reverse that is through living fully as the women we are.

I've been introducing a good friend of mine to more traditional, feminine schools of thought and she recently made the transition to skirts. The other day, we were having a walk and she was telling how she put on some jeans and immediately felt uncomfortable - 'simultaneously constricted and exposed', as she put it. I couldn't help but agree!

God bless you in your journey with your femininity! It's a very exciting path to take, and one that will vastly improve your life.

[–]enoraj[S] 9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Thank you so much!!! It is so exciting! What sucks is I live in canada so it's hard to be feminine under -20°C lol.

[–]q-the-light 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Bless you!! All I can say is to utilise natural fibres!!! I'm in Britain, so much less chilly but still far from warm. Try layering woollen stockings, linen bloomers and/or underskirts, and heavy wool overskirts. That's my winterwear and it's toasty!

[–]enoraj[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good idea thank you sm!!

[–]goblinkate 11 points12 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

I've always been a tomboy and never owned a "girl's purse" in my entire life until a few years back when I began dealing with my problems and began feeling comfortable in doing girly things and dressing up more feminine. I got myself my first set of pearls last month (river pearls, uneven and really beautiful) and I'm really excited about dressing feminine and elegant these days.

I can still change a car tire and replace a battery in my motorbike if no-one is going to do that for me, but (/and?) I can do that with my long nails too. The only time they get in my way is during golf when I'm wearing my glove.

You're right that in today's world it's important to keep this elegant type of femininity alive. Women shouldn't strive for masculinity, balance is just as important as equality of opportunity.

[–]enoraj[S] 3 points4 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Amazing!! I've been flirting with the idea of getting pearls ahah. And yes exactly, we are capable and strong but in my opinion it's even showing more strength and less ego to let others help.

[–]goblinkate 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Get pearls! I hesitated for a long time because I thought I wouldn't wear them as often as I'd like but the first week I bought them I wore them every day just around the house because they are so amazing.

[–]enoraj[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Ahahah I don't know I feel like it would be too elegant but you know what maybe, I like the thinner ones so that could work for me. Thats it you convinced me lol.

[–]goblinkate 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I wore mine with a milk tea-coloured sweater at home so far, but I'm planning on wearing them with collar shirts and dresses in summer. I thought of buying some good fakes cheep off china first to try the outfits at home and then order real ones, but then I stumbled upon river set with a reasonable price and thought, you know, what the hell. Couldn't be happier.

[–]enoraj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ahah so cool now Im excited

[–]teampocketrockettt 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Can I ask your opinion on a situation where you know how to do it e.g. using an example from above, changing a tyre, if you know how to do it is it less feminine to do it yourself/do you think it’s more feminine to let someone else do it because it’s showing less ego?

[–]enoraj[S] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I just feel like if you're with a man for instance I would let the him change the tire because imo it makes him feel more masculine and therefore it makes me feel more feminine. I actually like that, to trust a man to help me, even though I don't necessarily need it, it makes me feel like a woman. Now if no man is around obviously I wont spend my day looking for one to help me ahah.

I don't think it's more feminine bc it's showing less ego my point was that it takes more confidence to actually show less ego and let someone help, instead of wanting to prove others you're capable, you just know that you're capable and don't need to prove it.

[–]teampocketrockettt 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Can I ask why doing something you’re capable of feels like you’re proving something or showing less ego? Like if I think about men or women, if they’re doing something for themselves that they know how to do (that I also know how to do) I don’t feel like they’re showing off or showing me up. It just seems like an odd correlation for me, and if my man didn’t let me do something that I already knew how to do I would feel patronized which is why I wouldn’t get my dude to change my tyre when I’m fully capable. My man doesn’t feel masculine for babying me or whatever I suppose? Taking care of me doesn’t equal doing things I can fully do myself

[–]enoraj[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Depends on the situation but it feels like ego when someone refuses the help of a man because she perceives it as patronizing when he's just doing is role/ expressing his instinct of protecting and serving women. We're not talking about the same situation though, I'm more talking about accepting the help of someone if they offer more than actually calling your husband to come change your tire when you're perfectly capable of doing it. It's not about power plays and who's more capable, if the man helps he's not babying me or patronizing me in my opinion, I have the idea of ego in mind bc it's the feminist mindset of refusing help bc "Im a strong and independent woman", of course you are but if you really do you shouldn't want to prove it by turning down someone's help. Of course you can do things yourself but it's nice to let yourself being taken care of if the man feels happy and masculine about it and you don't feel like it comes from a place of machismo. Also I'm not talking about goind around like a useless person requiring the help of a strong alpha man to do anything Im just talking about a preference for letting men do some things that express physical strength, masculinity and chivalry.

[–]teampocketrockettt 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah I suppose it’s just a difference of relationship. If I let or asked my man to do something that he knew I could do he’d take that as me taking advantage or forcing his instincts or manipulating, his joy and masculinity comes from solving problems or fixing things that I actually can’t do myself. I think he and I both see him doing something I could do myself as a weakness from both of us, me for being needy and him for not asserting boundaries.

[–]enoraj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ok I get that and I get why it could come off that way. So yes probably depends on the people in that way and it is a delicate balance to find in any case.

[–]Jualkyn 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Its only north america that seems to not have women dressing in a dress or skirt frequently. In Europe and Asia its very common. Everyone on north america just seems to wear jeans and a t-shirt I wonder why

Do you get stares or compliments while outside in a dress ?

[–]enoraj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I never thought about it that way, I'm french originally and I'm not sure there is a difference btwn north america and other developed countries. It's just that it's not the 1940s anymore and that more and more people dress casual but you're right a lot of people still dress feminine even here! I don't necessarily get stares and compliments but it's true that more people look at you just because dressing better stands out a little and definitely not bc they're shocked to see someone in a dress ahah.

[–]Own-Grapefruit7309 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Where’d you go shopping?!

[–]enoraj[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nakd! They have a lot of dresses and skirts, it's good quality and it's not too expensive.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I 100% agree! I notice I’m treated very differently when I’m dressed in a feminine and modest outfit by both men and women! I never feel uncomfortable around my friends’ husbands when the guys are with us. And older people smile at me more!

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[–]tulipiscute 9 points10 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I think you can appreciate someone’s femininity without talking poorly about women who choose to present themselves in their own preferred way

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[–]tulipiscute 9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

It’s fine to prefer femininity! Just to say “forgotten societal roles” implies women SHOULD be going one way or the other, but it’s nice that women who prefer femininity get to be more feminine, while women/men who don’t can act how they prefer too:)

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[–]tulipiscute 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

it’s all good!!! sorry if i sounded like i was attacking you :)

[–]UniformFox_trotOscar 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Creepy profile, dude. Self proclaimed “pussy critic”

[–]enoraj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you so much Jack!!

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[–]enoraj[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Lmao I cant tell if this is sarcasm

[–]slver6 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

it is not, I mean you were serious in what you said?

[–]enoraj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ahah ok yes I was but I was scared it was coming off the wrong way so good to know that you got what I meant!!

[–]Grevhimself 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It is good you feel that way, your feelings were independent of what was “soceital pressure”, which was the original argument by girlpower girls.

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