You will never find him. “Find a good man” This is feminist language. It sounds like you are desperate to buy something at the dollar store before it closes.
It’s not romantic.
A woman attracts a man. You never make the first move. Men want to hunt. Let him chase you!
You must tap into your feminine energy. Men love feminine women. Not rich, not sexually liberated, not out of control, not egotistical, not flashy. Feminine women.
Focus on that word.
Feminine women are exclusive, lovely, and exude a positive aura-like the fragrance of a flower. Men are willing to climb a mountain for that flower!
Side note: What about (this playboy)?
A man who doesn’t want a lady is immature. He is irresponsible, cowardly, and wants a Mommy to take care of him. Do you want to waste your prime years on him? If he improves he will toss you into next week! I’ve been eyed by playboys and I never entertain them. Move along, honey!
HOW TO BE LOVELY OR THE GUIDE TO BECOMING A LADY
I’ve read the book how to be Lovely on Audrey Hepburn and I wanted to add my observations. The world is in need of ladies. Be one!
The song “She’s a lady” should playing in your head right now. 😉
Dress well. Wear dresses. Wear skirts. Wear low heels and sandals. Make it classy! American women dress alike, and this isn’t a good thing. Overalls, shirt shorts, daisy dukes. This is “college girl” energy. 👎 You will attract the losers!
Go Easy on the Makeup
Every Hollywood starlet had a look. But that was the same look with no variation. Marilyn Monroe’s beauty routine was just that. It should say healthy, fertile, blushing young 👑 not goth drag queen. 😦
Men love natural beauty, it shows you are healthy and confident in who you are. Keep it simple.
Heavy makeup = “college girl” look. It makes you look superficial.
And in debt from MAC purchases. ✋
Smile! Compliment everyone and have a cheerful attitude. Learn from Pollyanna. Be playful! Find the good things instead of complaining. Angry women are a big turnoff. It’s a masculine emotion. You’re probably not aware that you’re angry. But men are! No one wants to be around a whiny feminist. Except losers. 🛑
Eat healthy, eat less often
It’s better to eat several big meals throughout the day then snack constantly and nibble on something. Your metabolism will be running smoothly and you will stay slim.
Ask questions. Be interested! This is an amazing asset to your personality. Men say women are self centered because girls don’t ask beyond cars, bags, money. Men are goal oriented. Ask about his job, then listen. Then say “thank you for sharing that”. Be courteous to him! If you love endlessly talking about yourself, rethink who you want to be in a relationship with. Is it a man or a cat? 😹
This is controversial. You can be modest with your clothes but being modest with yourself is key. 🔑
Keep your opinions to a minimum. Don’t openly talk about your achievements. Let men and bitchy career women around you sport the big ego. I actually get asked about my career by men because I never talk about it.
You’re a CEO? Nobody cares.
Have no expectations Stay with me on this one. I know everyone is looking for a HVM these days but you don’t need one to be happy. You need a good man to love you. HVM don’t have time to send you flowers or ask about your day. They can’t kiss your hand m’lady because they work their 🍑 off. Good men are everywhere, please start valuing the good in your life. You can always go big but it will cost you, decide what you are willing to sacrifice for more value. Men do this in the career world all the time. Are you willing to sacrifice to become high value?
This is a big one. If a man is disgusting when he is unkempt and smelly, women are that times 1000 when they are loud and obnoxious. American women have LOUD voices! And they swear. 🙉
Sorry ladies, but it’s true!
Adore Children This is a hard one. Men love children, men want their own children. A lot of women don’t understand the difference. You can love children all you want but be careful who you have them with. They may be a loser.
What emotion dominates your psyche most days? Why? Write down your biggest weakness. Be willing to share that with others and don’t feel bad to feel weak.
It’s part of being a woman.
Respect him This is the hardest part but we can all respect each other a little more. Men want respect most of all from their lady. Respect everyone regardless of their “worth” and let people earn it. Don’t be a 🐶
“Be tolerant of others, and strict with yourself” Marcus Aurelius
Be quiet 🤫 If all else fails try to make as little noise as possible. Eat quietly, walk smoothly. Turn it down a notch. Quiet is peaceful. 😊
Don’t react 🔥
Women are notorious for living in their emotions. Women love to put people in their place. Women like to squeal and screech and sob.
It feels good, but what about your reputation? 👼
Have feminine hobbies You don’t need to sew, cook or crochet. (you should know how to cook) But you must appreciate beauty and delicacy in all its forms. Go to museums, listen to classical music concerts, arrange flowers, read old books. Be classy!
Be forgiving 🙏
Don’t retaliate when you are wronged, don’t hold anything against anyone. Don’t gossip even if you want to. Relationships will die without forgiveness!
Don’t think you don’t need forgiveness. ❤️
Be simple 🤑 Don’t have oodles of makeup and jewelry. Dump those piles of clothes. Streamline your life and you’ll be happy and much easier to live with. Prioritize. Stop shopping and start living!
Whether it’s a religion or not, women should guide their spirit into something nurturing. Believe in something greater than yourself and you will be the hope when others needs it most.
Love your heritage Yes I am Russian. Yes people think silly things. I don’t care because I prove them wrong every time. I am proud of my ancestry. I know enough about it. I love my family and men adore that.
Be beautiful ✨
The best is for last. As a lady your spirit will glow. You are not only healthy and lovely but you are nurturing! Grow your inner garden first and you will bloom to the outside world! 🌸
You will attract the right guy when you give him the right you. ❤️ ♥️♥️♥️ Thank you for reading this. Ladies, I hope this is a helpful guide. I’m dating HVM right now from OLD and have been on the market for a year. I’m a virgin and currently celibate so sex isn’t something I’ve offered. I’m quiet and withdrawn and I never like talking about myself. (I do talk though!) I only date men who are interested in me. I go out on dates once a week. Men start kissing my hand on the way home. Every. single. time. 😉 I don’t have an amazing career or a privileged background. I live at home. I cut my own nails and hair. I don’t own a designer handbag or cool friends. I don’t have my own car. I don’t grind 🥱 Men still pursue me. 💋 You gotta decide if you want to be happy! Stop listening to other women who can’t find love. 🦆 them! Let them cry. Listen to happy people. Listen to your Dad. Hug your dad! 🤗 Men’s top priority is not your physical assets when it comes to love. 💕 Leave that “hot girl” stuff where it belongs! 🔥 🗑 Edit: I'm amazed this didn't get removed. Thank you ladies for your feedback! This list is as much for me as it is for you, I am working on myself every day. Your kindness is appreciated!