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How to be Lovely: A Guide to Attracting a Wonderful Man

July 22, 2021
128 upvotes

You will never find him. “Find a good man” This is feminist language. It sounds like you are desperate to buy something at the dollar store before it closes.

It’s not romantic.

A woman attracts a man. You never make the first move. Men want to hunt. Let him chase you!

You must tap into your feminine energy. Men love feminine women. Not rich, not sexually liberated, not out of control, not egotistical, not flashy. Feminine women.

Focus on that word.

Feminine women are exclusive, lovely, and exude a positive aura-like the fragrance of a flower. Men are willing to climb a mountain for that flower!

Side note: What about (this playboy)?

A man who doesn’t want a lady is immature. He is irresponsible, cowardly, and wants a Mommy to take care of him. Do you want to waste your prime years on him? If he improves he will toss you into next week! I’ve been eyed by playboys and I never entertain them. Move along, honey!

HOW TO BE LOVELY OR THE GUIDE TO BECOMING A LADY

I’ve read the book how to be Lovely on Audrey Hepburn and I wanted to add my observations. The world is in need of ladies. Be one!

The song “She’s a lady” should playing in your head right now. 😉

Dress well. Wear dresses. Wear skirts. Wear low heels and sandals. Make it classy!  American women dress alike, and this isn’t a good thing. Overalls, shirt shorts, daisy dukes. This is “college girl” energy. 👎  You will attract the losers!  

Go Easy on the Makeup

Every Hollywood starlet had a look. But that was the same look with no variation. Marilyn Monroe’s beauty routine was just that. It should say healthy, fertile, blushing young 👑 not goth drag queen. 😦

Men love natural beauty, it shows you are healthy and confident in who you are. Keep it simple.

Heavy makeup = “college girl” look. It makes you look superficial.

And in debt from MAC purchases. ✋

Smile!   Compliment everyone and have a cheerful attitude. Learn from Pollyanna.  Be playful! Find the good things instead of complaining. Angry women are a big turnoff. It’s a masculine emotion.  You’re probably not aware that you’re angry. But men are!   No one wants to be around a whiny feminist.   Except losers. 🛑 

Eat healthy, eat less often

It’s better to eat several big meals throughout the day then snack constantly and nibble on something. Your metabolism will be running smoothly and you will stay slim.

Ask questions.   Be interested! This is an amazing asset to your personality. Men say women are self centered because girls don’t ask beyond cars, bags, money.   Men are goal oriented. Ask about his job, then listen. Then say “thank you for sharing that”. Be courteous to him!   If you love endlessly talking about yourself, rethink who you want to be in a relationship with.   Is it a man or a cat? 😹 

Be Modest

This is controversial. You can be modest with your clothes but being modest with yourself is key. 🔑

Keep your opinions to a minimum. Don’t openly talk about your achievements. Let men and bitchy career women around you sport the big ego. I actually get asked about my career by men because I never talk about it.

You’re a CEO? Nobody cares.

Have no expectations  Stay with me on this one. I know everyone is looking for a HVM these days but you don’t need one to be happy. You need a good man to love you. HVM don’t have time to send you flowers or ask about your day. They can’t kiss your hand m’lady because they work their 🍑 off.   Good men are everywhere, please start valuing the good in your life.   You can always go big but it will cost you, decide what you are willing to sacrifice for more value. Men do this in the career world all the time.   Are you willing to sacrifice to become high value?  

Be pleasant

This is a big one. If a man is disgusting when he is unkempt and smelly, women are that times 1000 when they are loud and obnoxious. American women have LOUD voices! And they swear. 🙉

Sorry ladies, but it’s true!

Adore Children  This is a hard one. Men love children, men want their own children. A lot of women don’t understand the difference. You can love children all you want but be careful who you have them with.   They may be a loser. 

Know yourself

What emotion dominates your psyche most days? Why? Write down your biggest weakness. Be willing to share that with others and don’t feel bad to feel weak.

It’s part of being a woman.

Respect him  This is the hardest part but we can all respect each other a little more. Men want respect most of all from their lady. Respect everyone regardless of their “worth” and let people earn it.   Don’t be a 🐶  

“Be tolerant of others, and strict with yourself” Marcus Aurelius

Be quiet 🤫   If all else fails try to make as little noise as possible. Eat quietly, walk smoothly. Turn it down a notch.   Quiet is peaceful. 😊  

Don’t react 🔥

Women are notorious for living in their emotions. Women love to put people in their place. Women like to squeal and screech and sob.

It feels good, but what about your reputation? 👼

Have feminine hobbies  You don’t need to sew, cook or crochet. (you should know how to cook)   But you must appreciate beauty and delicacy in all its forms. Go to museums, listen to classical music concerts, arrange flowers, read old books.   Be classy!  

Be forgiving 🙏

Don’t retaliate when you are wronged, don’t hold anything against anyone. Don’t gossip even if you want to. Relationships will die without forgiveness!

Don’t think you don’t need forgiveness. ❤️

Be simple 🤑  Don’t have oodles of makeup and jewelry. Dump those piles of clothes. Streamline your life and you’ll be happy and much easier to live with. Prioritize.   Stop shopping and start living!  

Be faithful

Whether it’s a religion or not, women should guide their spirit into something nurturing. Believe in something greater than yourself and you will be the hope when others needs it most.

Love your heritage  Yes I am Russian. Yes people think silly things. I don’t care because I prove them wrong every time. I am proud of my ancestry. I know enough about it. I love my family and men adore that.  

Be beautiful ✨

The best is for last. As a lady your spirit will glow. You are not only healthy and lovely but you are nurturing! Grow your inner garden first and you will bloom to the outside world! 🌸

You will attract the right guy when you give him the right you. ❤️   ♥️♥️♥️ Thank you for reading this. Ladies, I hope this is a helpful guide.   I’m dating HVM right now from OLD and have been on the market for a year. I’m a virgin and currently celibate so sex isn’t something I’ve offered.   I’m quiet and withdrawn and I never like talking about myself. (I do talk though!) I only date men who are interested in me. I go out on dates once a week.   Men start kissing my hand on the way home. Every. single. time. 😉   I don’t have an amazing career or a privileged background. I live at home. I cut my own nails and hair. I don’t own a designer handbag or cool friends. I don’t have my own car. I don’t grind 🥱   Men still pursue me. 💋   You gotta decide if you want to be happy!   Stop listening to other women who can’t find love. 🦆 them! Let them cry.   Listen to happy people. Listen to your Dad. Hug your dad! 🤗   Men’s top priority is not your physical assets when it comes to love. 💕   Leave that “hot girl” stuff where it belongs! 🔥 🗑  Edit: I'm amazed this didn't get removed. Thank you ladies for your feedback! This list is as much for me as it is for you, I am working on myself every day. Your kindness is appreciated! 

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Title How to be Lovely: A Guide to Attracting a Wonderful Man
Author PrincessaRusalka
Upvotes 128
Comments 136
Date July 22, 2021 3:30 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]purple_pansy88 26 points27 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I think this thread is a little bit ridiculous. I can't put it any other way. I'll take my downvotes.

You are talking about cultivating a false persona, not just about improving oneself based upon who you already are and attracting your compatible male counterpart and fostering a fulfilling marriage or relationship.

This is why I think a lot of people in red pill spheres are socially impaired. PUAs do the same thing. They assume the things that the women that they personally desire want in a man and then they create a whole fake persona to attempt to win dates with these women. Most of the time this fails. My husband is an ex PUA and I have discussed this with him in depth.

If you are not naturally a 'pollyanna' then you probably don't want to be with a man who likes pollyanna types.

"Anger is a masculine emotion"

Do you want a husband who can't control his anger? Are you saying it's perfectly justifiable for a man to have an explosive temper?

I don't agree that anger is a 'masculine emotion'. It's true that women and men on average tend to express their anger in different ways, but it's an emotion that both men and women feel at about the same rate.

I think that all mature adults should do their best to manage their anger and their emotions in a healthy way. That unfortunately doesn't always happen because we are only human but I don't think men get more of a pass than women for being angry.

I think that both toxic femininity and toxic masculinity do in fact exist. Toxic femininity for example is things like malicious gossip, trying to interfere in people's business and faking concern so we can insert ourselves into other people's affairs. Toxic femininity is being so emotional and afraid that we can't see concepts like justice, fairness and liberty and we are unable to look at the bigger picture and see things objectively.

Toxic masculinity is behavior like punching holes in walls, domestic violence, rape, pimping, pornography use ect.

I'm not saying that these behaviors are exclusive to either men and women, but they follow a general pattern.

I think being a 'red pill woman' is about recognizing these toxic behaviors that are more common in women and trying to improve ourselves. I also believe that it's about authenticity and not denying our true selves at the same time.

[–]RiseAndPanic 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is the most sensible comment here, I couldn’t have said any of this better. The traits listed above from OP honestly just sound like a fake, robotic Stepford wife caricature that doesn’t take into account any variation in how people naturally are. Not to mention the points surrounding not having an opinion and not retaliating when wronged is just straight up horrible and borderline dangerous advice.

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think we agree on a lot more than you believe.

Anger is not exactly conducive to relationships. Do you want to date an angry person? Do you want to be with someone who retaliates when you make a mistake? Do you want to love someone who constantly tells you how to improve? This is what men have to put up with. They work, they toil and then they are expected to be perfect to women!

I don't want to control what you believe, but this is what works for me. Personal growth means sacrificing parts of your old self for a better version. You will change anyway.

[–]Classic_Touch 23 points24 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I wear no makeup and men seem to really like it. Just going to throw that out for the ladies.

[–]DeLovehlyCoconute 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Definitely this!

[–]Sea_Bookkeeper_1533 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Same, I just do my brows, liner and mascara.

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Same here sweetheart! I have to take care of my skin.

[–]katx_x 11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Sorry, new to the sub. What is OLD?

[–]SuperSupremeKai 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

OnLine Dating.

[–][deleted] 48 points49 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

I'm new to this forum so apologies if I've misunderstood but some of this advice seems extreme: 'don't retaliate when you are wronged,' 'keep your opinions to yourself,' 'stay as quiet as possible' are the ones that particularly stand out to me.

Being respectful towards a partner and adopting certain roles within a relationships if that's what both parties want does not mean that a woman has to minimise herself completely. While I'm sure this advice was given in good faith if I saw a relationship where a woman was not expressing any opinions, not pointing out or defending herself when she felt she'd been wronged that would be a huge red flag.

Any relationship dynamic, red-pill or otherwise, relies on mutual consent and understanding, which means allowing both people the space to express when they feel something isn't working for them.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with expressing opinions about anything which differ from your partner's in a respectful way and you should always take some action if you feel you've been seriously wronged - letting people walk all over you does not make you more feminine. This doesn't mean being petty, vengeful or initiating over-the-top arguments, but it's really not safe to let anyone, especially a partner who you may financially rely on and live with, think that you'll never push back when wronged.

edited for clarity

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is only dating advice, not relationship rehab. If he's wrong for you, then it's a take it or leave it scenario.

You don't want him to be your only source of emotional support. Read that twice. Boyfriends are not girlfriends. Women will bulldoze a guy with their opinion and it's unbearably stressful. Men don't talk nearly as much as women do. He's not your bff who constantly tells you that you are hot, he can only pretend to do that. He wants to be the man, not the butler.

This is part of that respect piece, you lose him once you start telling him how you want things to be. This is going to be some tough love advice:

Men don't want to be told how you feel all the time. Men want to be accepted for who they are, not who they could be. It's a red flag for them. If you launch in to a 'don't do this don't do that' every day and he can't criticize your stupid purchases or tell you how attractive you really are it's unequal and 💩. Take it or leave it.

Build a Beta is closed.👋

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You've made a lot of points here so I'll try to address them all:

Of course your partner shouldn't be your only source of emotional support, that would be just as unhealthy as getting no emotional support from them at all. I never suggested that you should only tell your feelings to your partner - it's essential to have a support network of family and friends as well, especially in the event that you break up with a boyfriend. In fact, being cut off from an external support network is a trademark of many abusive relationships.

Emotional support does not mean being constantly told "that you are hot" - to suggest that the only emotional support a woman requires is reassurance about her appearance is incredibly insulting and just plain incorrect. Similarly, giving emotional support does not require a man to be a '"butler" and is not demeaning or emasculating. Surely offering support to a woman is a more masculine feature anyway?

A woman offers a boyfriend emotional support when he needs it, and he should offer her the same level of support. It doesn't have to be expressed in exactly the same way if that's not something he's comfortable with, but so long as she feels she's adequately supported by her partner that's fine, and vice versa. We're not living in the 1800s anymore, both men and women are aware that looking after mental health is important, and having an open space to discuss feelings and problems is a critical part of that - and who better to do that than the person you are probably closest to?

On your so-called "tough love": telling a man how you feel or expressing an opinion has absolutely no bearing on whether you accept them or not. A woman has plenty of feelings which don't revolve around improving her partner, or indeed her partner at all.

But if someone does feel that there's something in their relationship that needs to change, or her partner does something she's not entirely comfortable with then she should be telling him. Part of a successful relationship is that both people grow - it's perfectly possible to respect and accept your partner for who they are and also understand that there will always be things that do require discussion. It's hard to listen to criticism for anyone, and it's often hard to have these vulnerable honest discussions about your emotions with anyone let alone someone you admire. And it doesn't always work perfectly - every couple has arguments. But genuinely trying to be there for each other is the most important thing in any relationship, romantic or otherwise.

If he wants to "criticise [my] stupid purchases" then that's fine - it's my money (or our shared money) and he can say what he wants about my shopping provided he doesn't prevent me from spending it. For me, appearance-based criticism is completely unnecessary and just plain rude, and that's crossing the line regardless of whether a boyfriend or girlfriend says it (or indeed any other person).

To wrap up a very long reply, any system of emotional support within a relationship that's unequal is not really a support system at all, and that's not what I've ever suggested should take place. But that works both ways - a woman should never be expected to listen to her husband's work frustrations or provide him with emotional support without him doing the same for her. If a man doesn't want to try to provide emotional support or listen to what his girlfriend has to say then he's not ready for a romantic relationship, or indeed relationships of any kind.

[–]Classic_Touch -3 points-2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I agree that some people take these words to strong. Women should have a voice and opinions. I am in politics so I am very vocal about my views and opinions. Men seem to love it. However, I believe where this comes from is when we allow it to control our lives. It is all we talk about and don't allow other views and opinions in. Never listening to what others have to say. I was selling something to this lady the other day and she never allowed me to get a word in. Even assumed my political beliefs and so on. Going on to attack me for something I never even stated how I felt on the topic. She turned out to be a lefist (go figure). However, I believe this is what it is talking about. I would never want to be around this women. I feel horrible for her husband.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I think one issue I have is the implication in a lot of posts/comments here that the only reason a woman should express opinions/have strongly-held beliefs around other people is because men find it attractive. That view is, in my opinion, abhorrent - politics, religion and indeed anything else you might have an opinion on are hugely important subjects which shape so much of society and each individual's life, and everyone should think about them and form opinions on them.

For me, reasoned debate which appreciates both sides of an argument is the best way forward when discussing politics, but it's important to remember (my own political beliefs aside) that the reason why some "leftists" - to use your words - might be particularly vocal about their political views is simply because so many people who disagree with them dismiss them as incoherent opinionated "leftists" without taking the time to seriously consider what they have to say.

Indeed, people who hold more left-leaning beliefs are no more passionate than people on any other part of the political spectrum and a large part of why they are dismissed as so is because many of their arguments expose the appalling views of some of their opponents - I'm thinking of racism, misogyny, homophobia etc. here - and because it is completely necessary to be passionate to defend the rights of oppressed groups in society.

[–]Classic_Touch 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I completely agree that the only reason a women should hold opinions or beliefs shouldn't be just to attract a male. But this sub is about relationships and finding a man. Which maybe why it is brought up in that way. Also I have no issue with others expressing their opinions or beliefs that are different from mine. Again I am in politics and deal with it all the time. Even within the party I work in. It is the not allowing the other person to speak or even considering the other persons views that bother me. Which I find in many lefist women. Left as in democrats not left in as say paleoconservatives. I can not tell you how often I just walk away from them because of their behaviors. So much I even worry about my safety at times and their own from themselves. There is a difference between passion and crazy. You can view your opinions without being aggressive and trashy. A recent study came out stating that 90% of women on the left have a mental disorder and I believe it. Just from my personal experiences with them. I would also like to add (maybe to much for this sub) but a lot of what they are pushing for womens freedoms are only making things worse for us. I thought we were trying to get away from being overly sexualized. Yet we are more abused and sexualized then ever these days. Which could also be leading to more mental health issues.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree with a lot of what you've said - it's always important to respect other people - but I don't think it's necessarily required to respect their views, or for people to respect yours.

To perfectly honest the rest of your comment does come across as quite prejudiced - I don't want to undermine any feeling you might have of being unsafe but I think it is incredibly patronising to suggest that you worry about their safety "from themselves" - for what reason?

I also think it's very insensitive to use words associated with mental illness ("crazy") to describe women who disagree with your views and express their own views differently to you. I'd also apply this to the "90% of women on the left have a mental disorder" statistic - I find this incredibly hard to believe (unless it's in relation to the idea that mental health issues are more accepted on the left than the right, which would be plausible) so would be really interested to see the study if you have a link to it?

As a final point, I think it is incredibly disingenuous and downright harmful to suggest that women are "abused" more because they hold certain political opinions, or because of the influence of feminism in general.

Women have been abused by men (most often their husbands and male family members) for centuries and victim-blaming feminists who happen to be abused (whether or not your claim that rates of abuse have increased because of feminism is actually true, which I doubt) isn't going to help solve that.

[–]magnafire 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

There’s is absolutely NOTHING wrong with women making the first move

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nothing wrong with a dominatrix

[–]rosesonthefloor 19 points20 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Do you still live in Russia? I love hearing advice from different parts of the world, so thank you for sharing this! There’s a lot of lovely advice in here.

I disagree about the “don’t react/don’t retaliate when wronged” piece though - while I understand what you were trying to say (don’t blow up, don’t hold grudges, don’t retaliate by hurting them back) that could be construed as “let things happen and don’t do anything about it” and I just don’t think that’s the mark of a lady.

A lady has boundaries and sticks to them, and lets people know when they’ve crossed them. She doesn’t give endless second chances and forgive everything (like in cases of cheating, abuse, consistent boundary-stomping, etc.) The only people who genuinely want doormats are narcissists and abusers.

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm in the US, hence my writing this guide!

Retaliation is a tricky thing. You don't want to control people. I just can't bear to stand in a relationship if I have to improve him. I don't date below me and I'm not about to waste my time on proving a point to somebody. It's stupid.

I tell him my wants, expectations and needs, he opens up to me about his. It's a negotiation between us, not silent expectations no one can ever meet.

Not everyone is perfect for everybody.

[–]spaghettiparrot 18 points19 points  (41 children) | Copy Link

"Nobody cares if you're a CEO," lol. I used to really enjoy this sub but I swear the ideology lends itself more to codependent-narcissist relationships everyday. I'm genuinely concerned for young woman who may rationalize their abuse with the stifling advice described here.

I'm an upwardly mobile 23-year-old woman, and I'm involved in my city's dating scene. Men are routinely impressed with my career (and debt-free lifestyle) ESPECIALLY given that I balance it with feminine mentality and habits. Wealthy men in particular are relieved to know that I can, theoretically, take care of myself more than adequately, and the discipline that my career demonstrates only sets me further apart from the "overall-wearing college girls." They get a huge ego rush out of knowing that they might be able to win over an attractive, capable, intelligent woman as their First Mate....the more well-rounded you are, the more impressive he is for pulling you.

Ladies, RPW is meant to offer you tips and tricks that will enunciate the feminine beauty you already have. It isn't a ruthless, unforgiving mold that you have to try to cram your unique spirit into.

You can be yourself and allow your accolades to shine while also being an attractive, ladylike potential partner. For heaven's sake.

[–]PNWHimbo 9 points10 points  (14 children) | Copy Link

I strongly agree with this. None of my (male) friends (mostly also male) are looking for a partner with nothing going on. Demonstrating that you are a capable and competent person is important to most potential partners. I have a successful career, so do most of my my friends, but that doesn't mean that as a family it's good to always be completely reliant on one partner for income. What if I got sick, etc.? What if there was a huge economic downturn and my company folded? Etc. etc.

What men DON'T want is a woman who will prioritize their career over their family life, or hold "career woman/girlboss" as their goal.

One final note on this topic: Unless you are planning on immediately marrying a successful guy when you graduate college (which, good luck to all of you, inshallah you will), you will have a period of being single and dependent on your own income. If you want to meet HVMs, you generally are going to want to be in places where people who make a fair bit of money hang out, and those places usually cost money.

[–]spaghettiparrot 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think that's what people forget. In the real world, men have their own unique interests that span beyond a tight ass and cooking skills, although those certainly score points in their own right. The man I'm currently seeing (an individual of his own academic and career successes) is damn near starry-eyed when he sees a commercial that I've written on television, because his career is also intensely creative. It's yet another facet of life we can share and, dare I say it, he admires my talents as I demonstrate them through my work.

My job doesn't define me or my relationship, but when I kick of my heels and snappy blazer to curl up on his lap, he tells me it's like cuddling a tiger; there's something alluring about softness coming from a fierce personality...it means that he's won submission that no one else, and no other aspect of my life, has. I can't be tamed by just anyone- my obeisance is a prize.

[–]PNWHimbo 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You sum it up nicely. I think people overstate the desire of men for a "demure" woman. Yes, I want a woman who is comforting to be around, but if I'm choosing someone to spend more hours with than any other person, I want to choose someone with interests, hobbies, etc. Having some degree of financial freedom is also nice, but it is so important to be able to just wile away the hours chatting about your interests. A lot of women on this sub seem to think that men just want to hang out and talk about their interests with their friends - and while I certainly want to do that, I also want to hang out and talk about my interests with my wife. My ideal marriage is something like Herbert Hoover and his wife.

[–]meerita 6 points7 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

If that would be accurate, then all the educated and professional women would be the most demanded which, happens to be not true. Men choose by these: femininity, beauty, and fertility. That's why there are so few homeless women, and so much homeless men, because men will provide as default and they don't care if the woman has or not assets, etc. If they're there, great, if they don't or aren't that great, same.

[–]PNWHimbo 4 points5 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

You are mistaking correlation for causation.

For one, for HVM as defined by this sub, educated and professional women are certainly the most demanded. I'm not here to toot my own horn, but I would be unlikely to date somebody who didn't have a bachelor's degree, for instance.

For another, even if some of them weren't, the reason why would be that they are not willing to prioritize family life over their career. But it is entirely possible to have a career, and then reduce that as part of your life when you become a wife and mother. As I said earlier, unless you get married very young, then you are likely to have a period of some years where you are working and dependent upon solely your own income to survive and thrive.

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[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

High value needs to be high value to the person in the relationship. You don't define what someone else views as high value.

[–]meerita -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s determined by the market. Correct. But if you want to believe a homeless is hvm and love him “unconditionally” good for you. But for the overwhelming majority he will not be hvm.

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[–]h00n23 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

would you mind dating a successful pop star? or top sales person even if they're not very educated?

[–]PNWHimbo 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That would probably be fine, obviously it's a case by case basis situation. But they are the exception, rather than the rule.

[–]h00n23 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't know most educated and professional woman in my family have a high quality husband or boyfriend

[–]meerita 6 points7 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

I'm an upwardly mobile 23-year-old woman, and I'm involved in my city's dating scene. Men are routinely impressed with my career (and debt-free lifestyle) ESPECIALLY given that I balance it with feminine mentality and habits.

A truly high-value male will not care about all your assets, career, etc. That's a very masculine trait (provision). If they're there, great, but it will not become the main reason they've to choose you: looks, fertility, and caregiver traits.

Men don't want women to become the man of the relationship unless that man is beta type: he will be admiring your masculine traits. Remember, masculine women attract feminine males and vice versa: feminine women will attract masculine men. You always attract the opposite pole. That's why a huge misunderstanding in the society, which advertise attracting equals like a "warrior woman will marry a warrior man" is possible or desirable, that is not accurate: masculine men will not like to deal with another man-type person, they already do it in the field. They will not be happy to deal with another person who looks like his coworker, instead they will love to deal with a feminine woman.

[–]spaghettiparrot 4 points5 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

We're discussing the value and potential of a woman who has a career and is submissive in her personal life.

[–]meerita 2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

The only part that matters is the submissive not the career. Believing both are or the career part is just entering in delusion

[–]spaghettiparrot 7 points8 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Unfortunately, the tastes of real-world men tend to be a little more complicated. They're humans, after all.

Are you "older and married," per the sidebar? The sort of one dimensional feedback that comes from MGTOW men who call women "post-wall sperm vessels" and spend their free time berating their tinder profiles is inherently damaging to this community. The young women in this sub aren't interested in this type of man and should be alerted to their presence so they can take their advice with a pound of salt.

[–]meerita -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Not at all. The men you’re describing are beta males. Again, the selection studies are clear: young, beauty and fertile over career, strong and independent. Of course you can turn an alpha male on some kind of beta male over the time but that’s another topic.

[–]spaghettiparrot 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Way to dodge the question.

[–]meerita -1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I am not married. I’m 43. I’m constantly dating 19-26. What else do you need to know? I’m giving honest advice to these women who won’t get to the 30s forever single or with someone that will not feel right.

[–]spaghettiparrot 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Per the sidebar, you should be on TRP. We don't want advice from PUAs.

[–]meerita -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am red pilled, therefore my statements. I am not a PUA. Read my initial comment against PUAs.

[–]h00n23 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't want to date old guys so you are not in my dating range .so you are giving me bad advice I don't even want to attract a old guy.

[–]h00n23 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

How do you define high value? Looks money or height? most men I know who have these things definitely care.

[–]si91si91 -1 points0 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

But how many female CEOs are willing to be "first mates" in accordance with RPW thinking? It is a rare woman indeed who has the qualities required to be a "captain" professionally but willingly refrains from doing so privately. You say that wealthy men are "routinely impressed with my career" yet give the game away immediately thereafter, revealing that what they are actually impressed by is that your career demonstrates "discipline" and that you can "take care of myself." So what they are actually impressed by is not your career per se, but those qualities that enabled your career that help you fit into their lives. So yes, the OP is correct in that "nobody cares if you're a CEO" - what men care about is that you're not a gold digger and that you have self discipline, neither of which require extensive professional credentials, and loudly proclaiming them.

[–]spaghettiparrot 10 points11 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

"It is a rare woman indeed."

I feel you've already halfway arrived at my point; we're aspiring to be rare women, here.

The OP stated, rather snidely, that a woman's career accolades are worthless from a man's point-of-view. I do agree that while the pomp and circumstance of a job title might mean less to her potential partner, a woman who can support herself by a long shot has more SMV than a woman with a filler "I'm just holding out until my husband can support me" career. This type of attitude stands out in harsh relief against a male culture that is already resistant to splitting half their assets with a woman via the legal binding of marriage.

[–]si91si91 -1 points0 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

The problem with your logic is that no matter what type of career the woman in question has, the man who marries her is still risking his assets marrying her if he makes more, especially if she becomes a stay-at-home mom eventually, as RPW thinking encourages. Therefore, there is no functional difference between "a woman who can support herself by a long shot" and "a woman with a filler career" from a man's perspective when evaluating an RPW, because the risk he runs is the same.

Indeed, you're not really demonstrating why a man should care about a woman's career. He wants a debt free woman? A career woman is more likely to have debt, not less. Your situation is the exception, not the rule. He wants "an attractive, capable, intelligent woman" as First Mate? No need for a particularly advanced career to be any of those things - if anything, advanced careers encourage women to cultivate masculine characteristics and compete with men. As I said, a CEO generally doesn't want to be first mate - that's why they are CEOs and not mere board members. How many CEOs do you know who have time to both run a fortune 500 company (or the equivalent) and still make it home in time to cook, clean, and look after children? Margaret Thatcher is the only one that comes to mind.

Career woman are also more likely to be older and uninterested in children, also negative. You say "the more well-rounded you are, the more impressive he is for pulling you" - says who? Since when are other men impressed by a man who bags a "well rounded" woman and why would they be impressed by this? What's impressive about it? Other men are impressed by a man with a pretty, feminine wife, and career women are generally not interested in being pretty, feminine, or wives, as that tends to interfere with careers.

Current male culture is indeed anti-marriage, and that is in no small part because of the way family court distributes assets and custody in the event of a divorce, as well as the cultural normalization of endless female self-indulgence (complaints about "slut shaming," "fat shaming," etc), and the masculinization of women - none of which a woman's career is any protection from. If anything, a career woman is more likely to exemplify all of these negative characteristics.

[–]RiseAndPanic 1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

You’re making a lot of sweeping generalizations here. I know tons of career-oriented women who can still be feminine, soft, and build a strong partnership and/or captain-first mate dynamic easily with their partners. These qualities aren’t mutually exclusive.

[–]si91si91 3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I make generalizations because - generally - they happen to be true. There's a reason why marriage is more likely for men with higher IQs, but less likely for women with higher IQs. That's also why a country's fertility rate declines as its women become educated, and why Western men increasingly seek mail order brides from outside the Western world, where the women are perceived to be more feminine. The data doesn't lie. On the whole, career-oriented women aren't interested in traditionally feminine roles, responsibilities, and characteristics, because to be a career-oriented woman is often to be in a male-dominated field, where masculine characteristics determine career success and advancement. Yes, there are exceptions like Thatcher, but they are exactly that - exceptional.

Even your own account leaves much to the imagination. You say you know "tons" of career-oriented women who can still be feminine, soft, and build a strong partnership and/or captain-first mate dynamic easily with their partners." Really? How many? And what careers are we talking about here? Are these "career oriented women" married to these "captains" or not? And if so, what career does the captain have? Does he make more than she does? Do they have kids? And if so, did these women switch to becoming SAHMs or not? And how do you know these women are in fact, "feminine" and "soft" in private, as opposed to bossing around some clueless bluepiller? It may well be the case that these "career oriented" women aren't nearly as feminine as they'd have you believe.

[–]Underground-anzac-99 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I have to ask here but how are we defining a ‘career’? Because the anti-career folk here... make it sound like a caricature, some kind of 1990s Melrose Place corporate shrike.

Careers exist outside of large exchange-listed companies.

A career is a reasonably paid calling, ideally with some progression.

A job just gets you money.

Being a librarian can be a career, if you are serious about it. Being a stockbroker can just be a job, if you’re good enough at it to make money while not giving a damn.

This sub goes in circles over whether women who want a good man should have ‘careers’ or not without ever properly defining what one is.

The idea that you need to be ‘masculine’ to get ahead is very outdated.

And to the poster who said ‘mere board member’ over CEO: you either deal with dreadful companies or you’re a fool given any decent corporation’s board should have serious executive experience given they are the ultimate decision makers.

Ps. If we want an example of ladylike with career I think Aung San Suu Kyi is a good place to start, despite my disagreement with her handling of the Rohingya issue.

[–]si91si91 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

And to the poster who said ‘mere board member’ over CEO: you either deal with dreadful companies or you’re a fool given any decent corporation’s board should have serious executive experience given they are the ultimate decision makers.

You're missing the point completely. I wasn't using "CEO" or "board member" literally (any more than references to "captains" and "first mates" is meant literally around here.)

Being a librarian can be a career, if you are serious about it. Being a stockbroker can just be a job, if you’re good enough at it to make money while not giving a damn.

Sure. But if that was the extent of female career ambition, there would be little left to discuss. Men, high value or otherwise, tend not to mind women with careers in female-dominated spheres, like teachers, nurses, librarians, etc because they are more likely to be traditionally feminine women with careers, as opposed to "career women."

When we speak of "career women" we're generally talking about women in male dominated professions (law, medicine, engineering, business, politics etc.) who seek to "break the glass ceiling" - etc. Insofar as "good men" (itself a vague term in need of definition) are repelled by "career women" it is because they associate this, rightly or wrongly, with hardcore feminism, masculinization, etc.

[–]Underground-anzac-99 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Captain is a concept but CEO and board member are literal things.

[–]h00n23 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

software engineer wife and husband is a mechanical engineer CPA work in big 4 husband do same Doctor and he is also a doctor Software engineer and software engineer I know more but I guess four examples are enough? usually husband earn little bit more but (difference is not huge both have very good income ). yes they have kids usually one or two no they didn't become SAHM. Software engineer are working from home and as for doctor one shee work during day and husband do it in night one who is in home take care of kids and CPA one don't have kid's yet) (usually small age gap like from same age to four year this is what I have noticed)

[–]h00n23 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Med school and pharmacy is majority female now and they have very good pay so not really

[–]h00n23 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Those CEO's can hire maids for doing it even house wife of CEO don't do it they actually do gossips with other House wife's

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Men sure know how to massage your ego Miss. B$ that's part of the game.

[–]spaghettiparrot 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I'll wager to say that I know this individual's honesty from BS a little more intimately than an internet stranger. I'm not sure it's necessary (or accurate) to imply that my boyfriend's admiration of my creative prowess is a lie.

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh it's that ego again...

[–]spaghettiparrot 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Alright, Princessa. By the way, it's horribly ironic that you chose Marilyn Monroe as the thumbnail. I can't think of a better example of misguided priorities.

[–]LisaBaudry 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I love what you wrote.

What is the book title you mention at the beginning?

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you dear. It's here

[–]meerita 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

A woman attracts a man. You never make the first move. Men want to hunt. Let him chase you!

Partial truth. Your priority is to send him choosing signals adequately. You should never be "that open" with your intentions, but let your choosing signals be evident to him. If he is high value, he will know what is happening and he will lead. If he is low value, he will not understand or see your choosing signals properly: remember he wasn't trained to do this, and there will be not hunting at all, the result will be over.

Man doesn't really like to hunt. They want to choose between their options. Only PUAs type of men like to "hunt", and it will be only to satisfy their need to score. Men love read choosing signals and realize there's a true burning desire so they will start work on that in order to get it as soon as possible. High-value men will not follow women's game, they will just switch to the next woman who shows real interest and burning desire and leave the one who thought she needs to be hunted.

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

You want to be sweet and friendly but let the man approach you.

Who likes to kill wild game?

[–]meerita 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You want to send him choosing signals and let him do all the rest but without putting yourself as the price. You don't want to look like the price, believe me, HVM will not chase you and will not continue with a woman who puts herself on the pedestal. That only works with the men you dislike or will dislike in the short term.

[–]meerita 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Re-reading your comment I guess you don't understand what choosing signals are. Is not being friendly, because that is not enough, and this is why beta males always fall in love with friendly women who don't like them at all but remain friendly because it's polite.

You want to send him clear signs of desire. I will give you one hit: look at his lips constantly.

[–]WhisperTRP Founder 9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

A woman attracts a man. You never make the first move. Men want to hunt. Let him chase you!

What gives you this idea?

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Why do people like to catch things that are fast and hard to find?

[–]WhisperTRP Founder 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's not really an answer at all.

Let's think about this systematically, rather than metaphorically.

You say:

A woman attracts a man.

Do you imagine that this is exclusively the case? Do men not also attract women?

You never make the first move.

Why do you believe this is good advice? What specific negative consequence do you think there will be to a woman who makes the first move? What leads you to believe this negative consequence will happen?

Men want to hunt.

What leads you to believe that men enjoy hunting? And what leads you to believe that the process of engaging in a social interaction with a woman is in any way analogous to hunting in a way that men will enjoy?

Let him chase you!

Do you believe this will increase a man's attraction to a woman, and if so, why?

[–]beaute-brune 18 points19 points  (19 children) | Copy Link

I don’t understand the issue with making the first move and what the benefit of not doing so is.

[–]PlusLeon 30 points31 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

Men will go their entire lives without getting approached first, if a woman makes the first move that alone is putting them leaps and bounds ahead every other woman around in that man's eyes

[–]Intrepid_Place5390 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This. You showed interest first. You will get noticed and a serious look from them for sure.

[–]MirriMazDuur 6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I don't agree that women should make the first move because one single reason: women are more selective, which means a man could accept a woman he's not really into just because he made the first move. Do you want to be pursued or accepted?

[–]Intrepid_Place5390 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Not sure why this would happen. A man accepting a woman he's not really into because she came up and said hi to him or swiped right on dating. Like he's settling for her?

I saw lots of women I would have been interested in. But, do I know if they are single or interested or gay or whatever?

Life is short, if you see something you like, take a chance, say hi. See where that goes. You can even just give IOI's, most guys will "get it", if they don't or did and didn't respond in like, then you tried. Good for you.

As a male, I find it refreshing, my LTR did this and we are together still. Didn't really change anything in the way I have got to know her, vet her.

[–]MirriMazDuur 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I am lumping here all the men in the world; I'd say that men, generally speaking, would accept the advances of 80% of women who approach them (contrary to women who accecpt let's say 20%) because of various reasons that would make them undesirable in my book. First there are the f-boys and the liars who'd profit off of anyone in their vicinity, then there are the shy and immature ones who are so frightened with rejection that they can't just ask a woman out and why not, men who just settle, as you say. I'm not saying there aren't any exceptions, especially because life makes it so that a man might not know if a woman is available, so the ball passes to her, or opportunity makes it so by other means. Still, it's the men who lead, the men who propose and the men who court. Whenever you start with "but women can also-" you might find some problems along the way that you can't foresee

[–]Intrepid_Place5390 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Understand what you say, but Vetting still is required of course.

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] -2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

If you're not getting interested looks or complimented you aren't sending out the right energy. Sorry boys it's you too.

[–]PlusLeon 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think it's a pretty well documented social norm for approaching being a man thing and not a woman thing

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not what I mean. You want to feel desirable.

[–]Solarsystemm 11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I am a M, and I don’t think it should be this way imo, it’s better to give him hints you are interested, than go straight and hit him up.

[–]Classic_Touch 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree with this also. Just let him know you are interested. Men need to hunt.

[–]h00n23 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes if I saw a hot guy than should I let other women ask him out?

[–]Bucephalus_Rex 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It depends on what energy you have and what energy you want your partner to have. Making the first move means you took initiative and he didn’t. Is that how you want your relationship to be in general? If so that’s fine; if you want a partner who takes the initiative in his life and in your relationship, let him make the first move.

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly. Gold Star!

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Do you want the man to do the work?

[–]orangerose18 12 points13 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

Hmm... I have been approached by guys who want me to sugar mommy them (tongue in cheek) because of my career but I also want men to notice my career and care about it because it’s part of who I am. I’m not going to ignore a guy’s cooking skills just because he’s a guy.

Life is too short to find one who loves the ocean for only its calmness and not its fullness.

[–]HappilyMrs 10 points11 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

If he only loves the ocean for its calm, he wont be able to weather its storms in an emergency. Smooth seas never made a skilled sailor.

[–]TheBunk_TB 1 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

Learned from experience! (Did the Vacapes "pukin rally" and rode in behind a hurricane on a ship)

[–]HappilyMrs 1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

Sounds absolutely dreadful!

[–]TheBunk_TB 2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

The irony is that those small dreadful events brought people together in laughter.

Watching us walk in diagonal choppy movements and joking about it were the definite tradeoffs

[–]HappilyMrs 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

I had a Google of vacapes as I'd never heard of it, being British. I've learnt some geography today thanks to you.

Do you still do that work?

[–]TheBunk_TB 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

I have been out of it for quite a while. It is one of the most memorable jobs I have ever done.

[–]HappilyMrs 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Can I be nosey and ask what made you leave, or what you do now?

[–]TheBunk_TB 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I couldn't tell the man in the mirror lies. I couldn't see myself doing it for another 16 years. (I was being promoted quickly but was devoid of a future with real skills. No desire to be a paperwork leader that hides and collects a check).

I prefer not to say what I do directly but it isn't close to what I did then.

[–]HappilyMrs 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I appreciate you sharing. I hope you're happier in your current career :)

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You're going to have to sell your skills and not your career. Men want a partner, not a competitor, dear. All the best to you, keep swerving those duckboys!

[–]orangerose18 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I want my career though and I want men to see it just as much as my personality and other skills — I’m sorry that you model your life around attracting a mate but to me attracting a mate comes second to doing what makes me happy. And any man I want is going to see my accomplishments and be proud of me the same way I am proud of his own.

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I focus on being the best person I can possibly be. The details of my life are irrelevant. I'm not a robot, I am a person. I used to think the same way- My career, my goals, my happiness... me, me, me.

If you trot this out on a lovely man, he's not going to be interested in you. He can't compete with your career. Reality is harsh for career women. You may become disabled, what then? What if you have a child? Nothing is forever, and you may be pining for a man after your career is gone.

[–]orangerose18 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Then he’s not a lovely man. And I wouldn’t want him.

[–]Express_Possession88 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Post is on point

[–]Dagenius1 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is a very long list of things to do for your ladies and I feel for y’all. That being said, and I’ll happily accept downvotes, there are definitely some very good things on that list that will attract high quality guys.

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you. I feel sad this is so controversial.

[–]TheBunk_TB 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Polite warning to all:

Although not mentioned above; "Learned RBF" is something that is spread from unhealthy people that generally don't like men. It is something that I have seen but no one mentions.

[–]sunnyleaf9 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

What is RBF?

Edit: nevermind 😅 I thought it was specifically a red pill term but I got it now

[–]TheBunk_TB 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It isn't RBG, which was commonly Ruth Bader Ginsberg.

(Applause sign lights up.)

[–]whatstheplanpakistan 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I cannot give up my overalls

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don't have to. Just don't wear them on a date.

[–]Tanman55555 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

“Dont approach a man”

Thats just being lazy. Have fun being asked out 99% of the time by guys that just want to have sex with you.

Theres a lot to disagree on in this thread.

[–]h00n23 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I am not sure about (if they don't care about education and job)

also for many people raising kids on one income is not enough (if you want that kind of life style so many men expect you to work and have a good job

also many men appreciate intelligence (education or job is good indicator)

weren't you talking about that we should talk about their job? isn't it easy if you do it? talking about programming is easy if you know it

also meeting HVM is easy if you work where they work (for example meeting doctor or successful lawyer is easier if you are also a doctor or lawyer)

also status for example his parents and friends would look down on him if his wife is not educated or she is a waitress

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm not your Mom telling you not to have a job. I'm telling you not to brag about your job.

[–]h00n23 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

true but I just think that having a good job is beneficial if you actually want to meet high quality men (for example imagine being one of the few girl in a engineering college lol finding a boyfriend is super easy)

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is completely unrelated to my point.

[–]h00n23 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Source (many men in my family are rich)

[–]h00n23 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

if you want a high value men than try a male dominated industry and be feminine (it would be 90% male you really won't have any competition you can easily get a high value men )

[–]MBZdaddy 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

From a man, this is solid advice!!

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you sir! *salutes*

[–]amadexodus 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I listen to "She's a Lady" pretty often on my oldies playlist when I'm driving :) something about looking classy and hearing that song makes me feel lovely.

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"She always knows her place" is my favorite line ;)

[–]JustaTcup 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

While we don't agree about the cooking thing lol - this was absolutely beautiful and thorough and I'm so happy to see you share it. I hope you have a lot of children and bring them up with these ideals as they are direly needed in this world at this time. Thank you so much - You made my night. Sending so much love and positive thoughts in your direction.

[–]Express_Possession88 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

What about the cooking thing didnt you agree on? Since more than one thing was said

[–]JustaTcup 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I meant the you don't have to cook part - We of course do.

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you dear! So lovely to hear such kind words. I love children and want to raise them in a safe, loving home. I've always wanted them, someday I hope I will give them a good life from a loving family that is big and strong! Mother is the hardest job out there, no?

[–]VolleyBallCheers 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Really great post! I think it's spot on with advice!

[–]s3arching4rmwithin08 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Perfect!

[–]karenina-13 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Спасибо!

[–]PrincessaRusalka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

на здоровие ))

[–]ThemakingofChad 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’m a redpill man. Hope we are allowed to post here. This should be stickied. I definitely am saving it for when the next woman I know needs dating advice.

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[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Do not pet the unicorns

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[–]LuckyLittleStarModerator | Lil'Star[M] 8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

No one here is trying to attract you.

[–]CountTheBeesEndorsed Contributor 12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

If you are drawn to such girls your relationships will always fail because you are attracted to those that do not respect you. If they act "sarcastic" and "challenging" towards you it means they don't see you as a strong leader. You cannot make such a girl happy and she will punish you for it.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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