Hello everyone! I have a genuine question/discussion that I would love to bring forward; how can feminine women initiate sex in submissive ways without 'initiating sex'? By that I mean without the use of obvious tactics such as dirty talk, explicit touching/kissing, wearing lingerie/getting naked, or straight up asking for sex/sexual activities?
Edit: I just wanted to put this in here because I think some people are misunderstanding me a bit; I’m fine with initiating sex, I actually quite like it, but my BF is turned off by it so it usually leads to an affectionate joke but then nothing more.
My boyfriend (early 20s) is a very unique and masculine man, obvious and outright sexual advances turn him off. I assume it's because he's no longer in the dominant position, he wants to be the predator and I his prey, I prefer that too. However, I have a higher sex drive than him and desire to have sex with him more often, so how can I make myself more of an invitation for sex? Better yet, ravishment? What are subtle ways a woman can turn on her man?
Also, for context, I take pretty good care of myself and value my appearance. He tells me I'm attractive often, and I haven't really changed my appearance from when we first got together 2 years ago. I have an optimistic spirit and I take a fairly submissive role in our relationship, I support him in everything he does. I'm naturally very sexually open and explorative, more so than he is (he prefers a more modest, reserved sensibility), so I'm kind of struggling with this. As per TRP theory, women are the gatekeepers of sex and can obtain an 'ask and you shall receive' kind of treatment in this regard, but that hasn't been the case in my relationship thus far, so I'm kind of at a loss for what to do here.
Thank you so much for any wisdom, I would love some insight from women who are in happy LTRs or marriages. Apart from this dilemma, our relationship is very satisfying for both me and him and he's said to his friends and me that he intends on marrying me some day (which I would would be honored to do), so (with the addition of many other factors) I have full confidence in his commitment to me. We love each other very much and he tells/shows me every day,
TL:DR How can women initiate sex with their loves in subtle, feminine ways?
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