How to make up for what I did

Anantha1996 · 2021-11-08T19:00:44+00:00

I think you should listen to your brother. Inaction is almost certainly going to be interpreted as callousness.

Praexology · 2021-11-09T06:38:17+00:00

I honestly don’t know why I followed through..peer pressure, my mistake.

Nail on the head. Most people are not comfortable risking social rejection and as such tempt the fates regarding their personal relationships.

I feel Bad now because he drove all the way (2 hours) to pick me up just for me to dismiss him. Didn’t even get paid good

Money shouldn't justify doing something that goes against your moral code. If you make a mistep, you conscious will tell you - and it will happen. The point is to make a reasonable attempt at rectification. If nobody has told you recently; you're not perfect. Holding yourself to that standard is going to cause you more anxiety than it's worth anyway.

I told him it won’t happen again.

Bold to promise so early, especially when you're not even sure why you compromised your values to begin with.

I feel like I messed up.

If you messed up, say you did instead of giving yourself the possibility of "feeling wrong". At least if you decide definitively you were wrong, there is a path forward.

but I’m so intimidated and don’t even know how to act because I’ve never been in this situation before. I don’t know if I should allow him to cool off and not initiate anything (happened Friday), but I don’t know if he’ll just perceive me giving space as me not caring.

Rarely do I recommend transparency, but I think letting him know that you don't know how to act, but want to do right by him is a genuine first step forward. No pretenses or manipulation.

I’m tempted to leave him alone because I really don’t know what to do.

This is a dumb thought to even humor. Nobody has ever gained from allowing fear to decide the trajectory of their lives.

SecretFeminine · 2021-11-08T18:47:40+00:00

I would think a man would understand this. You are not his wife and he does not pay your bills. Does he care so little for his own reputation that he wouldn't do what needs to be done at his work? I would apologize profusely, explain that it is rare, but as you work, sometimes you unexpectedly have to stay late. If it were a pattern, the problem would be you. But a one off? Yeah, he can be disappointed and sad but I think he has to understand.

vanillapopsicle · 2021-11-09T10:17:46+00:00

If you want long-term potential with him, make him a priority. Otherwise, you’ll be seen as many other girls who treat guys as expendable: not special, not unique, not long-term material.

pieorstrudel5 · 2021-11-23T13:34:54+00:00

Please go see a therapist. You are not in a healthy place to be dating and you are going to continue to have issues with the wrong kind of men until you fix your self esteem.

I've told you before. You are young. I know this a sub all about how to be the best women possible and tends to be about relationships, but it's first and foremost a self improvement sub. Women don't just exist solely to entertain men (I don't have that kind of energy haha). Really and truly, you need to read all the posts on this sub about vetting. It is clear you are awful at it.

You have time to enjoy your youth until you are a little more mature. The maturity jump from 21 to 24 is ginormous. Just as the maturity jump from 17 to 21 is also ginormous.Have fun with your friends! Get hobbies. learn a skill. Redecorate your bathroom. Go to a soul cycle class. Learn to make green smoothies. GO TO THERAPY.

But for the love.... Please stop dating until you have worked on yourself.

blink183hashtag · 2021-11-09T08:58:32+00:00

If he is a high value man, he would drop it.

If you are a high value woman, you would make it up to him.

In the same way that he would make it up to you (reversed roles).

Because you respect each other.

The red pill mentality is as simple as this, isn’t it?

absoluteidealismftw · 2021-11-09T12:03:34+00:00

You might politely ask him to punish you as he sees fit?

Puggalina · 2021-11-08T21:04:38+00:00

He sounds a little entitled if he expects you to walk off the job for him. I doubt he would walk off his job to go on a date and put his employment at risk. A job is important. He is allowed to be bummed about it but to lecture you with "don't mess with my time" is too much and quite rude. You didn't make a mistake - unexpected things happen, you have to roll with it / be flexible.

I wouldn't jump through hoops to "make it up to him." If he can't be understanding then you have bigger problems. What happens if your family member gets sick/injured in the middle of your date? Are you gonna be able to leave the table? What if you get a call from your "dream shoot?"

I would just continue as if nothing happened, you have already apologized (for an unexpected event). I would also make sure to not make dates on future shoots since you can't guarantee when you will be finished. I know you said this job was a last minute call in, that's fine. Doctors (and other jobs) gets calls at the time, I'm sure their dates don't tell them to ignore the call. Would you tell him to leave his job? If the answers is no, then why accept this behavior from him?

He should be impressed with the fact that you take your job seriously and are dedicated and loyal to it. This shows good character on you. If you are known to walk off shoots to go on a date (even once) - your future jobs will be at risk.

Title	How to make up for what I did
Author	anonavocado0
Upvotes	10
Comments	47
Date	November 8, 2021 6:44 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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