1. What is the problem, what do you think is the root of the issue?

My captain said because he was just put in this supervisor role and didn’t have the experience they put him on step below outstanding therefore he will not qualify for the year end bonus.

This would be the first year he’s worked at this place that this has happened. I’m just a little/lot miffed.

He has been actively trying to find the next gs step up (he works for the government) but he won’t confront or appeal his lasted work review!

So on top of not getting interviews for the many applications he’s put in to other departments this one he’s in thinks he’s an average worker making me see him as not so great.

I’m trying to be supportive but I’m embarrassed for standing by him and supporting him to find out he’s somehow not preforming above and beyond.

This puts a lot of fear into me because it makes me feel he doesn’t have what it takes to climb the ladder. This review goes in his file.

I feel like he’s not being honest or he’s not telling me he’s not working as hard as he should?

  1. How have you contributed to the problem?

I’m having a hard time supporting and respecting him

I’ve also turned him down for sex because I’m just not feeling it because of this new development.

He planned a ten year anniversary get away and I honestly don’t want to go.

  1. What is your current relationship status and length of time?

Married 10 years next month together ten and a half years.

I’m looking for advice, tips, support on how to handle him.