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Husband thanked me for being a good wife, but changed it to 'partner' instead

April 15, 2020

Husband and I are both essential employees, but have paired down 'in office' time. This week I don't have to go in, but he does.

For our dinners, we trade weeks. He does all the dinners for one week, the next week I do all the dinners.

This is his week for dinner, but because he is traveling to the office and I am working from home I have been doing it instead. It's just makes sense to me.

Tonight, he thanked me and said "You're such a good wife." But then got flustered and said "Partner. I didn't mean that to be derogatory or anything."

Wife is not a derogatory word! He had to drive an hour today, and I didn't, why would I not help? It's part of my job AS A WIFE.

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Title Husband thanked me for being a good wife, but changed it to 'partner' instead
Author blahpunchlineblah
Upvotes 129
Comments 28
Date April 15, 2020 11:54 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/RedPillWomen/husband-thanked-me-for-being-a-good-wife-but.653359
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[–]HB32345 Stars96 points97 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like you have a good man who is doing his best to honor and elevate you - even if he stumbles on the wording sometimes! I hope you told him you're so happy you're his wife. 😊

[–]blahpunchlineblah[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Definitely! He really is amazing. He wanted to tell me he was thankful in a way I would like. I can't fault him for that. I am very proud to be his wife!

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[–]HB32345 Stars0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link


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[–]HB32345 Stars0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh- I didn't know what to make of the fact that it was upside down!

[–]melitele356 points57 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Weird world we live in now...

My husband mentions me at his work from time to time, saying for example: β€œmy wife made a lunch for me today” - he gets called out by his peers who tell him it is wrong to call me his wife and that he should say my name instead because I am more than just his wife... smh...

Since when being called a wife or a good wife was anything derogatory...

[–]WholioJones12 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I just dont understand what people get out of that? Are they gonna be satisfied if he decided he wont call you his wife anymore? its a term of endearment, workplace environments are usually full of insecure people anyway lol

[–]melitele31 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

He does use my name now just because he got tired of hearing complains about it from people. I honestly don’t understand the problem and I like being called his wife. I find it sweet.

[–]i_cri_evry_tim7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Should I call my son and daughter by their names instead? They definitely are more than just my son/daughter.

Should I start calling my parents by their name because they are more than just my parents?

This is just another of those tidbits of idiocy brought on by modern feminism.

[–]creepingforresearch4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow, I have no idea how I would’ve responded to that lol

[–]Own_Outsideasd50 points51 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

The de-gendering of relationship terms is strange, and serves no apparent functional purpose. My boyfriend is a man; why would I call him something less specific than that? Unless you are in the camp that thinks gender anywhere is harmful, which is thupid.

[–]_reluctant_redditor_11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Very thupid!

[–]clairerose315 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

the absolute state of inter gender dynamics..whew! im a lurker here, but tell me if ive got this wrong... he thinks it’s misogynistic to call you his wife?

[–]blahpunchlineblah[S] 13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

He was concerned that I would be upset. Like it was reducing me somehow. I'm thankful he was thinking of my feelings, but I did tell him I'm happy to be his wife :)

[–]clairerose311 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

poor dude :( he’s lucky to have you. i didn’t even know people got offended at the term wife. lmao clown world.

[–]thesillymachine12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Both work, really. Hubby is my partner and we are a team, in it together, working together towards common goals, and supporting each other. I usually call him my husband or by his first name. However, I have mentioned in conversation with him how we're a team, in this together, ect.

If you prefer him addressing one over the other, than communicate that with him.

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[–]jininxica2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He sounds very sweet and like he really is just trying to think about how it might affect you, but I'd make sure he knows that you have no problem with the term wife.

Honestly society is making it so such terms are being seen as sexist when they aren't at all. You are husband and wife, marriage has the phrases husband and wife. It's just like no one should be offended by being called a husband.

Lesbians can say this is my wife, gay men can say this is my husband, and anyone can say partner. Its all about personal preference and theres no need to be offended by any of it.

[–]RenegadeWarlock2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Next time this happens, simply smile and say "I take pride in being your wife."

[–]WholioJones6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lol thats weird. i would just tell him that he shouldnt feel the need to toe around the bush over a pretty pointless topic.

[–]Andrea_Arlolski3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Tell him that sometimes society is full of shit, and some women like being the wife.

[–]i_cri_evry_tim0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Any (married) woman not enjoying being a wife should most definitely get a divorce.

[–]ASTRA-LUX2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

LTR yet we address each other as husband and wife. The term partner is more gender-less I suppose. Since we're male and female then 'Husband and Wife' makes sense, naturally.

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[–]Own_Outsideasd4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Wife, is wife, is wife, by definition of being married. Modern connotations of this are pointlessly dumb.

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[–]Own_Outsideasd0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

yea pet names are great.

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