I’ll start with a brief introduction to myself, as this is my first post on this page. I am a 22-year-old female, married to my high school sweetheart 24-year-old male. We’ve been together for 8 years. We have an incredibly happy marriage. He works long hours in a very well-paying labor job, and I stay at home. We made the decision for me to stay home together when I was 19 and working a job that I hated. I was being mistreated there, and I always came home exhausted and upset. I also have moderate anxiety issues. Since deciding to stay home, our marriage and life in general has never been better. We’re both happy. We do not have children yet, but we want biological children and we are also planning on fostering. (please do not give advice on regards to us starting a family, as this is not the issue at hand)
As of late, some things have me feeling incredibly hurt. Many people in my life have begun sharing their opinions about me and my decision to be a homemaker. Comments along these lines are what have me in my head the most: -“What do you even do all day, you don’t even have children.” -“It‘s not fair for your husband to have to bring in all of the monetary value.” -“You’re so lazy.”
I want to be clear about what my life with my husband looks like. He doesn’t have to lift a finger in this home. He works so hard, and I am so appreciative. I do everything in the home, the house is always spotless, and I actually really enjoy it. Because of people’s comments I’ve felt so guilty lately. I do have a decent amount of free time to spend with my mother, and to pursue my hobbies. My husband knows this, and encourages every bit of it. He’s the kindest man I’ve ever known. I just cannot seem to stop being so mean to myself, and I needed the support and advice of other women.