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I asked him what he wanted

April 3, 2020

I was talking with my boyfriend today, and I asked him what he wanted from me as a girlfriend and later as a wife. He said:

Hope, support, and love

Hope- even in his hard times when everyone is looking down on him, I’m there to give him hope

Support- I help our family in any way I can

Love- without love, the other two don’t count

Just through I’d share, it’s nice to hear from the person you love what they need from you

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Title I asked him what he wanted
Author bowlcutboy1994
Upvotes 114
Comments 28
Date April 3, 2020 10:15 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
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[–]logger889034 points35 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Hope is something that is overlooked so often but it is so important in life. No hope - no future together.

[–]LouiseConnor7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

agreed! Could also go hand in hand with vision.

[–]dontbeanasshole77727 points28 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Add respect to the list

[–]BeholdTheHair36 points37 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Generally speaking, from the male perspective, love and respect are functionally identical, at least with regards to romantic relationships. A woman can tell me she loves me 'til she's blue in the face, but if I don't feel she respects me those proclamations are going to mean essentially nothing.

[–]i_cri_evry_tim12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Truer words have never been spoken.

I will go as far as saying that when jealousy rears its ugly head, a man’s certainty in his wife’s utmost respect for him will assuage any feelings of lack of trust much more effectively than any certainty of love.

Edit: as a consequence of this love-respect correlation, women should know better than to trust the words of a man who purportedly loves them but fails to respect them.

[–]bitchbaby15 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

interesting! just as i thought. thanks for sharing!

[–]Embarrassed-Draft0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly. How some think both people in a relationship don't need to be respected and trusted in order to fully feel loved is beyond me. It's always concerning how much of a revelation it seems to be for some, as it's something we all need. Good on you for spreading that awareness

[–]DunboyCastleInTheSky13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Going to ask my boyfriend about this later tonight. 💖

[–]bitchbaby12 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

same !

[–]We_Are_Legion-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I mean, why haven't people already

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I like this idea!

[–]bowlcutboy1994[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I always think it’s useful to get some kind of... feedback almost?

[–]Embarrassed-Draft1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes it's good to know you have similar values and hopes from a relationship. It's productive for platonic relationships, too

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah it’s important to be on the same page

[–]Nostas011 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A quality boyfriend, i must say!

[–]loneliness-inc1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Serious question. How does he define love and how do you define love?

[–]bowlcutboy1994[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I just asked and he said ‘you and food’ haha

But earlier when I asked the initial question, he said that he just wants to feel my love, and I’ll use the five love languages to explain. Mine is touch and his is acts of service/ gifts, so to show love I do both touch to show him I’m enjoying his love and I’ll also do acts of service/ gifts to show him that I love him in his way. It’s really just being here for each other and showing that you understand them

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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