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I don't want to be a housewife

April 20, 2019

I wish to be a woman to my man. A queen to my king. I wish we can both stay at home, make a farm, work for our food together in our fields, raise our children in both female and male energy, climb every hill together, search wonders of the world and home.

I don't want to be at home all the time, waiting for him to come home. Him doing some work that is only bringing us money but no joy or time together. Him seeing kids a few minutes per day. Kids getting sad and filled with only female energy. I wish for him to be next to me and bring his field of male energy to make our home stable.

The modern society destroyed us. It wants to kill the loving family, making single moms mean, vengeful and with deep grudges and men chasing 18 year old girls, which are only good until they want to settle down and turn 20.

I have a dream and I work hard to reach it. And one day I will wake up next to him, kiss him and go get some coffee. Then we will open the doors of our home and enter in our workplace... the Nature itself. And then I will know. We found harmony.

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Title I don't want to be a housewife
Author JackoDaPotato
Upvotes 96
Comments 45
Date April 20, 2019 4:49 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–]espressolover1837 points38 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You could live on a farm, or cultivate something to sell. Make cheese, make wine, cultivate livestock or some other fruit/vegetable/etc. You'd have to find a man who wants to do that too. Or make things like furniture, etc.

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Already found the perfect one. My husband :) these are our plans and some similar ones. I hope in 10 years we will get there.

[–]stevierose78920 points21 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

It sounds like you want a homestead. This may be very possible if you and your husband are young and in good shape and willing to work hard. I encourage you to seriously start researching now to find out if this is really the life you want. There are a lot of good sites out there for starting a homestead and living off the grid. I learned how to harvest rain water from sites on Pinterest. Start looking for land as soon as you can. It took my husband and me seven years of searching until we found what we wanted just for a getaway cabin.

> search wonders of the world and home.

This might be a problem. A homestead demands daily attention. Vacations away from it will only happen if you can hire someone to do the work while you are gone. I think one of the biggest misconceptions about living off the land is that just anyone can do it. It takes a dedication that most people don't have. You and your husband may have what it takes. Hold on to your dream, but be practical about the work it will take to achieve it. Best of luck

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Thanks for a great input. I wrote in one comment that we already did most stuff, so we are already on the farm and working on it as much as possible but we still need to work full time for the money. We are young (25 both). I think that still counts as young.

Oh yeah, about seeing the world. Happy that my parents are not too old (under 50) and are more than willing to keep the farm while we are away. Very lucky in this area. It happens just for a week or two per year. But if they wouldn't help, it would be imposible.

[–]stevierose7893 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yes I just saw that comment. Yes 25 counts for young. So glad to hear you have family to help give you a needed break. It really sounds like you have this figured out. I am sure it is is hard at times, but I believe your sacrifice will pay off in the long run.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

We are doing all this for ourselfs and our future kids and every sacrifice is worth it. Thanks for very beautiful words. Happy that some people actually understand my dreams and are giving me nice advices to improve. Most friends just make fun of us because we want a family and live naturally.

[–]ZegiknieEndorsed Contributor2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah I wish my husband worked from home, too. He does sometimes, but always would be better. And retirement even betterer.

You won't do everything together. You will still find you are each more suited to different tasks, and split them as is most efficient.

You will enjoy The Good Life (BBC series) much more than Outlander.

[–]titamc9 points10 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

I guess that's possible in some places. It's just a matter of analyzing where you live and the possibilities to live that way. I would never try that because I would be condemning my kids to live a life of poverty but then again I wouldn't be able to stay at home either. We both work full time (40 hours/week) and pick up as many side jobs and extra hours as we can, so my country is not really the best example

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

I don't think my children will be raised in poverty, just because they won't get a new Iphone each year. They will have a warm home, quality food and parents that will be there for them. That's my dream anyway...

[–]titamc3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

No, I mean struggling to eat or have clothes at all. But as I said, that's in my country. My sister in law was raised in a farmer's family and there were times when she and her family would go for days without eating until they could hunt wild pigeons with rocks. It's probably not the same there, that's why I said it's a matter of analyzing of it works

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

We live in a developed country, where farmers live better that city folks. You just need to make enough to sell for profit, because we live in capitalist state and money is everything. Kind of sad.

[–]titamc2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nice. Here's kinds different because most vegetables and fruits are imported cause it's cheaper

[–]prototype1B2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

In what country do farmers live better than city folks? As someone who's grown up on a farm all my life... That is not my experience lol.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Small Europen country. It's a new thing really. Life became easier in the countryside. Cities became so expensive, you barely make it through the month with two salaries. You literally have few euros per month left for food. Of course its different if you have a very high paycheck. The thing is that percentage of people earning a lot is getting smaller and smaller each year. Plus the expenses are getting higher and higher (rent, bills, food, etc.)

I grew up on a big farm, that belonged to my gradparents and was always well taken cared of in every aspect. Many of my friends and schoolmates that grew in city/town had harder upbringing. So I guess it really depends on the country you live in and the family you were born in.

[–]prototype1B1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ah okay. Well I'm happy for you then. This would not be the case here in the US (as far as farmers living better, but I will agree it's cheaper to live in country than city... But that's almost everywhere here). The only farmers who do well are ones who run large scale commercial crop oporations or factory farms with hundreds of animals on one farm. Small farms are becoming a thing of the past here, you will have a hard time making a living. Industrial operations do it faster, cheaper and more efficiently (at the expense of animal welfare). No you won't live in poverty but anyone expecting to live good as a farmer as dreaming lol. There's a common phrase that's said by farmers here, it goes: "You want to know how to be a millionaire farmer? Start with a billion first!". No one gets into farming because you live well. It's hard work, but rewarding (even if the reward is smaller some years than others). Anyway I'm glad to hear it's not the case in your location. I hope things work out for your family.

[–]RedditUsernameNo90 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hopefully you live in a country with a taxpayer-funded healthcare system. Your dream sounds lovely and honestly I would want the same thing but I live in the US where we’re dependent on our employers for access to crappy healthcare.

[–]KERUkeruu2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Permaculture, and working at the home, find a community with like minded people. Often you can swap/trade things you make and grow for what you need.

I’ve seen this done on 1 acre blocks too. Don’t need a huge place, just somewhere fertile. We are looking at Tasmania. How about you??

Probably best to get your husband in to a part time / consultancy position. Just incase . I wish for this simple life too and making a living from your home, garden seems amazing.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Our plan, once we get kids, is that I will stay at home and continue my educational of managing an estate and he will have a full time job, to support us until we can earn enough from the farm. We hope by the time we reach 30, this will be possible.

Very nice plan you got there and I hope it works out for you and your husband. We are located in Central Europe, close to the Alps. We are both in love with mountains.

[–]KERUkeruu2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This gives me goosebumps thinking about it. I’m so thankful to hear the desires of others, often in my circle it is only ‘jobs, money, purchases’. I long for the time where our work at home and for the community takes place more frequently than the shallow discussion of career progression...

Thank you for sharing this. Waking up with you husband and future children at home, experiencing the seasonal changes, and slow life style.. it’s going to be beautiful. Good luck too you xx

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm also happy that people have similar thoughts and wishes. I joined this subreddit thinking this is a place for alternative, natural lifestyle, but I have to say that I'm dissapointed by a lot of folks having completly different "red pill" aspects. It's not wrong, just not red pill. Thinking that you have to be a hot wife for a rich husband is disgusting, smells of misogyny and the religious input is damn strong. And I'm not a feminits or an atheist saying this. I despise systems that claim to be traditional, but in fact are just shallow and pathetic. Really though that red pill meant a man and a woman having natural roles and working together for the future, being strong and proud, like I wrote in the post, a king and a queen. But what I find here is mostly an owner/boss and his maid/nanny/sex doll. Oh well, gonna leave this subreddit anyway.

[–]KittenLoves_Endorsed Contributor2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I saw an comment of yours mentioning you've begun this farm life and have some livestock. I am in a somewhat similar position, actually. What animals do you have? Are you working towards autonomy (full or partial)?

In any case this is well written and I agree wholeheartedly with all of it.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

We have cattle, but planning to expand. Maybe sheep, goats, chickens, even horses. We also have a dog and three cats. Our plan is to really be selfsufficiant (did i spell right?), to make 99% of our food, clothes, etc. To remove ourself from the system of worker/consumer.

[–]Disposable__Male1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Fair enough, I would probably feel cooped up too if I was waiting for my husband all day.

In order to realize your goal, your vision could be fleshed out: What sort of skills do you and your husband want to practice to add value to The Nature you step into each morning in order to bring it to market at a price which would allow you and your husband to work shorter hours and spend time with the kids?

And then you just have to do it consistently until you sufficiently master your craft. It's the weekend now, when do you want to get started?

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

We started planning and actively doing stuff about 2 years ago, planting crops, gardening, having a small lifestock etc. He is just finishing school from farming and I plan to enter college this year, so I can learn to manage our finances. We moved to the farm, both working full time jobs as well so we still earn some money and now slowly starting to expand our family. It hard but it worth it. He makes me feel like everything is possible and I support him through all dark times. I'm very grateful for a true partner.

[–]stevierose7894 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just saw this comment after I posted mine. Sounds like you are on the road to success.

[–]Maito_Guy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That sounds awesome, good for you.

[–]SilentG331 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You’d love Outlander if you haven’t read/seen it.

[–]Delta_0662 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No one ever said you have to stay at home, but when you come home you need to be able take off the ambitious go getter hat and leave work at work. Or it slowly consumes more and more of their time to a point they seem like a roommate.

To many women I meet seem to struggle with dropping that off at the door and just being a gf/wife/partner/SO.

That's where we start to clash a lot.

[–]organicsunshine 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Likely the most delusional post and replies I have read on here in a long time.

[–]yamfood-1 points0 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

You can't go back in time. The real benefits of the "traditional" family come from Christianity.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Christianity is a poison that destroyed Europe and made women meek and passive. A real woman stands next to her man, proud and strong of their combined power. Old natural beliefs are what will bring balance to human lifes. But hey, everybody has the right to believe in what the want. I believe in Nature.

[–]reddishrobin1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love your description of a real woman standing next to her man, proud and strong of their combined power.

[–]yamfood4 points5 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

In nature females get raped, they eat their own young, or their male mates. There's no morality in nature. Morality comes from the human spirit, made in the image of God. Your belief system is a regression back to ancient pagan beliefs about nature spirits and magic powers of "male and female."

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Wow so pathetic. No wonder the world came to such a sad, unnatural place, if people think like brainwashed zombies with unnatural religions that only value a man. Pathetic.

[–]yamfood0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

Well, the Christian faith certainly values women, who are made in the image of God just as men are.

Edit: How exactly did Christianity "destroy Europe," given that it was Christian monks who preserved literacy during the Dark Ages and their schools became the first universities?

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Women are not made in image of god because god in Christianty in a man and women are no men. The values you called out, are for women to be virgins, uneducated, only good to give birth to children and to take care of men. It puts man on the top and women on bottom. (Yes this occured in pagan times as well, when male dominance was forced brutally). Women who practiced natural ways were seen as witches, because they used healing herbs that were passed down from generation to generation (tradition) and men of those times only believed in prayer (this is not completly true, because in the country the new religion never took hold and people valued the old ways until 18,19 century). Its the monks who the took this power from the women and practiced first sort of medicine. But for women it was forbidden. The monks also only perserved texts that were in support on the new religion, and plenty of texts were changed or even destroyed. Its the Arabs that really perserved classic knowledge and it was returned in Europe in years 1400-1500 (some before, some later). And you said it yourself. When christianity started to spread in Europe it was called the Dark Age. If it were so great I would imagine them calling it the Glory Age. The first schools were just for selected few and of course men. I'm not making this up, I went to college and studied Europe's history and theology. Once you see things from other perspetives, your eyes open up.

[–]yamfood1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Wow, you went to college? The den of atheists, nihilists, and feminists has not educated you well. I went to university as well, but just as you were wise enough to keep reading and red pill yourself out of feminism, keep reading and you will red pill yourself out of the red pill.

Genesis 1:27 - "So God created man (i.e. the human race) in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them."

The God of the Bible is male, He has a male gender, but He is not a man (Num 23:19). He has a male gender, but not a male biological sex. There is no sexual differentiation in heaven, because there is no need for it. But when God made humans in His own image, creatures like the animals in His image, they had to have sexual differentiation, as we can see all of the most sophisticated animal life has. Sexual differentiation is the most elegant solution to the problem of reproduction so He did it that way. The man as God's image proceeds logically from God's male gender, but the woman's form does not. She proceeds logically from the man's form, thus she is made from his bone and from his flesh (Gen 2:21-22). There is no humanity without male and female, so the woman is every bit as much the image of God as man is.

Yes, it is unfortunate that women were not permitted in universities for most of human history, but there were many educated women as most people were educated privately then. Christianity gave us chivalry and Christendom gave us Western liberal democracy that allowed women to produce feminism and enter universities in large numbers. It's not clear that has been an improvement as they immediately started crying about feminism, murdered tens of millions of fetuses, implemented slut walks, etc.

Anyway, I don't worship God because He is male, I worship Him because He's God. Jesus Christ's law of love is obviously the only internally logical moral system. Nature worship and mother goddess worship is clearly not.

Edit: grammar

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Did you just quote the bible? Hail Mary. Like I said before, some people are just pathetic and afraid of Nature. Thats why you try to destroy it. But no worries, Nature will take back what its hers. Seems university didn't give you any gains... you are still a broken machine repeating and quoting one book. Don't be afraid. Break the curse of modern society. Go back to your roots. You will find home there.

[–]yamfood3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Actually I was an agnostic atheist when I graduated from university. It was when I started doing my own research that I learned the truth. Keep reading and God bless you.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I was also an atheist in university, and found my spirituality and truth in that time. Wish you all the best and allow Nature in your heart.

[–]IreneCarter92-5 points-4 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

This is a true struggle within us. We are no longer live in our parents generation. I remember that when my dad was the only earner in the house,he always used to be tired and didn't talk all that much,except for the weekends. I didn't like that. I knew that my dad loved my mom dearly but because of all the time he spent outside, he didn't communicate with her all the time. I wanted a man who had lots of money and free time. And I know that sounds incredibly selfish but hey, we weren't all perfect from the beginning. I wanted to make my own money, and like the typical SoCal girl i I was, I became one of those "Instagram Fitness Models". But hey, I eventually found my sanity back. Deleted my insta. Found the one in a million guy(i mean literally, he's a millionaire). And now I'm changing for the better.

[–]dangernoodle880 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Lol @ everyone downvoting you because you bagged a rich guy. When hot girl/rich guy is probably the most natural "red pill" thing out there. Some insecurity/jealousy manifesting in here hmmm?

To respond to your actual comment, the whole domestic housewife thing is more of a modern construct even though people portray it as "going back to the good old traditional days when marriage worked." Women being at home was a necessity before we had laundry machines and dishwashers. They had lots of labor to do everyday. During the 50s, housewives became really bored/stifled after modern technology took over, and not having much to do led to depression and anxiety. Now are society has taken it too far in the opposite direction, but that doesn't mean there isn't merit to women having fulfilling goals outside of nurturing a family. There's nothing healthy about a relationship where the man is working himself to death and spends no time with the family, while the woman is cooped up with the family all day. We all need a little bit of both to live a healthy balanced life.

[–]IreneCarter922 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

He might be rich. But I fell in love with a human being.

"There's nothing healthy about a relationship where the man is working himself to death and spends no time with the family, while the woman is cooped up with the family all day." I believe that too. I'm trying to learn different things from him. Like accounting and stuff. I try to relive as much pressure off his shoulders as possible. He does work from home... So I guess that's a bonus. I mean he doesn't work for any company.

[–]dangernoodle88 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

My boyfriend is also wealthy. The best part about it is not the money itself, but that he has the freedom to retire whenever, work on his passions, rest, etc. I'm not really about living a luxury lifestyle or anything. I'm much more grateful for his time and attention, which he's able to give me because he's well off and not a workaholic. And of course, I love him for him. It's truly the best scenario and I feel very lucky.

[–]IreneCarter922 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is very true. He really enjoys what he does. It's not always hakuna matata. But for the most part it is. He does so much for people in need. I really fell in love with him when he threw a party for an entire orphanage at Kaiser Grille,in LA. I was doing a photo shoot there. For the first time in my life I thought to myself, I would cook, clean and bear 10 kids for this guy.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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