26 years old. I was in a relationship with someone for 3.5 years, and he was emotionally abusive to me, critiquing everything about me, from my feminine style of dress to the way I am sweet to cashiers to how I like to measure when baking. He didn’t like my volunteering or reading fiction books or exercising.
I am more educated and significantly better-looking than him, and he continued to critique and put me down, likely because of that. While he earns literally 3x what I do, he never paid for me and would constantly whine about any time he bought a drink or coffee with me, and got angry when I didn’t evenly split the groceries, even though I actually bought a lot of stuff for him.
I made myself constantly available for sex (he was only my second partner, but he was awful), cleaned his whole house all the time, everything a girl is supposed to do. Rather than be grateful, he constantly whines about me.
I was nervous about breaking up with him. I thought it would be harder to date as I enter my late 20s. I thought I should settle with the quarantine.
Well, I talked to a lovely older woman on this subreddit via FaceTime (leaving her name out as she asked me not to share), and she told me to recognize my value and his. She said I could be afford to be picky for a little while.
So I did. It was so scary, but now...
In the past two months, I’ve had many first dates with Ivy League-educated doctors my age, with guys who are incredibly good-looking, with guys who open the door and pay for me.
I am dating for marriage, so I am trying to be careful about who I enter my next relationship with. I haven’t had any trouble finding someone appreciates the sweet girl I am. Even if I don’t, it’s better than being with someone who abuses and does not take care of me, no matter how nice I am.
I’m really happy. And it’s all thanks to this subreddit and recognizing the value I have and what I can bring to someone who will be a good captain.
Idk if this is the kind of stuff I can post here, but thank you so much!!!!