I feel like I do not emit that “feminine energy” that men are attracted to. Will I have trouble finding a partner?

I'm an INTJ and very feminine. I love all the ladylike things and play with them: makeup, hats, dresses. I just do them for me, for the pure joy of it. I think my taking joy in my femininity is more the appeal for the males I meet then necessarily the actual makeup etc. Lol, I think that a feminine woman can still look alluring and feminine in things like combat boots and cargo pants if said items just underline the physical gender differences. For example, picture Marilyn Monroe in cargo pants etc and you'll see what I mean. If your cargo pants and combat boots actually erase your female form, however, they're probably not your best choice.

One thing is really suggest is exercising regularly in a way that makes you most aware of your body and how it moves. I do Pilates, yoga, calisthenics, ballet and weights. The point is to do exercises that sculpt your body as much to the perfect feminine form as possible. Your weight or other criteria are somewhat irrelevant; you are just trying to create feminine curves such as a small waist in proportion to your bust and hips. I find I need to exercise like this (I have my own private routines at home) so that I feel more "animal" and more alive, more in control of my own body. This personal power makes me feel much more female, and the resulting strength and fluidity of my body makes me feel much more feminine and confident. This makes me naturally flirtatious and playful, with both men and women--in a non-sexual way. (Good flirting is not sexual comeons, but rather a delight in being a human.)

The delight in being human seems to attract good people to me even when I don't talk. I think--aren't we most attracted to people who are comfortable in their own skin?

Btw: I, too, have many typically masculine interests. I study WWII and the Vietnam war and other war history, I read the Stoics along with Christian theory, I like car engines and bikes and fixing them, I am fascinated with fixing stuff, I read novels about complex ideas that men I know read but most women I know find boring (WEB Griffin/ith?, for example, all about the military and war: would recommend!), and other typically male things. However, it the same time, I crochet beautiful doilies, I knit things, I can mend, I play with sewing, and I have the reputation as an excellent cook. I like to make any place beautiful, especially with the work of my own hands. I relish making a place look loved. I think all of these things as "play", yet I think they all add up to being quite feminine.

And of course the more you love yourself and take pure joy in what you do, the more masculine you are if you are male--and the more feminine you are as a woman. INTJ's tend to have deep interests all over the place, and take pleasure at learning to be very good at them. INTJ women are also rare. I find this kind of thing is powerfully attractive to successful men--we can be endlessly fascinating to a man. I also find no problem in being a man's equal, yet submitting to him without losing my autonomy. After all, the strongest, healthiest man chooses also to be privately vulnerable with the woman he loves. Submitting is a gift we give to a man: it's not, in any way, being a doormat. It's allowing a man to become his best and truest self, another way of listening. Submission is the ability to know where you end and he begins, and to allow yourself to trust into him: our most valuable gift, I think.

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