Been dating for almost 10 months, of course at the beginning few months of courtship he made huge efforts to make me laugh and take me out to dinner. He also used to thank me for cooking dinner for him (especially on nights he works overtime and doesn't have any food at his place) but now he doesn't. I last posted that I've been too soft of a place to land and we went through a phase where I was silently resentful because I've been cooking more for him and he's been taking me out less. Since then I voiced that I missed him a lot and wish we could go out together more and he's complied, so I see he's making an effort.
However, now that he's been taking me out more, it feels more like a burden for him to take me out rather than actually wanting to take me out. For instance he will invite me along to go out to eat with his friends, and he is so outgoing and polite to them and I feel like when he's with me the comfort level is too high and he's not making an effort with me anymore. It feels like he's just taking me along as a trophy girlfriend instead of actually trying to talk to me.
I do understand this familiarity comes with any LTR but I feel a bit taken for granted and I really miss the times where he used to make more effort to be affectionate towards me. I've maintained my level of affection for him (physically and verbally) but I'm wondering if I should give him some space because when I feel pretty rejected when he doesn't reciprocate the affection. Especially when we are alone he seems more reserved and "strict" with me where I've seen him be goofy around his friends. It sort of feels like he doesn't want to have fun with me be rather he wants a woman around him to be good for him.
Am I being reasonable or just trying to hold onto a fairytale relationship? Am I wishing for a beta where perhaps I don't really want one? Should I give him more space and let him come to me? I just need some help putting this in perspective.
Note: He always pays and drives when we go out. I'm also a generally light and cute girl, I don't nag him at all ever, and I tell him I appreciate him. I'm pretty good at making sure I'm "offering" something in the relationship. I give more oral sex than we have regular sex and we are regular in the bedroom. He might be going on a business trip in December and said he would take me along if it happens.
Also edited to say I've had this problem in the past with another LTR, I've been way too nice and submissive that he took me for granted and stopped doing things for me.