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I first came here as a plate. Now I'm back as a wife.

stripe_throwaway
August 23, 2022
113 upvotes
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I came by a few years ago realizing I was a plate to an rp man. I was in love with him and wanted more.

I also felt I was damaged goods. I was fresh out of a divorce and full of random trauma to work through. I was just trying to figure out dating, nevermind finding a husband!

I received so much advice. I learned so many things. I read so many books, I've grown much more.

Some of you knew his nature so well it was eerie. Someone would say he's probably thinking this or that and almost the very next day he'd bring up what was troubling me.

Eventually he decided he wanted me to be his girlfriend.

So many times I was convinced I'd screw it up, but hell, we made it through 2020 together and were stronger through it.

Last year he decided I'll be his wife and the mother of his kids.

I put my rings on this morning to go to my OBGYN appointment for family planning and thought about this place. I don't think I'd be sitting here, married with someone who makes my toes curl with just a text message if I hadn't stumbled through like a rambling idiot that one day. My original account is long gone. I was spending too much time here instead of working on myself, and a delete was the cleanest solution.

I wanted to drop a thank you to anyone still here from those days. You changed my life. ❤️

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Title I first came here as a plate. Now I'm back as a wife.
Author stripe_throwaway
Upvotes 113
Comments 24
Date August 23, 2022 7:43 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/RedPillWomen/i-first-came-here-as-a-plate-now-im-back-as-a-wife.1208998
https://theredarchive.com/post/1208998
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/wvy1l4/i_first_came_here_as_a_plate_now_im_back_as_a_wife/
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[–]SunshineSundressEndorsed Contributor 26 points27 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I never interacted with you back when you were still active here because I was a silent lurker. But your writing has been IMMENSELY helpful to me when I started my RP journey and I’ve linked to your post about Honey and the Forbidden Fruit countless times to help the women here because I know just how effective it is.

I’m so glad to hear about how your life has progressed. Thank you for being a testament to the power of RPW (and good girl game ofc) and for contributing such helpful theories and discussions for us. I’ve always admired your writing but I never got the chance to talk to you so I’m glad I can finally say thank you for all of your past insights!

[–]luvhley25 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You can link them for me? I couldn’t find it in a search !

[–]SunshineSundressEndorsed Contributor 17 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is the one about Honey and the Forbidden Fruit! I can’t find the rest of her posts ATM but I’ll keep linking them for you if I find them!

[–]luvhley25 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you!

[–][deleted]  (1 child) | Copy Link

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[–]SunshineSundressEndorsed Contributor 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s incredible advice! I also remember your post from back in the day where you listed a handful of the things you implemented from RPW that took you from plate to girlfriend, at that time. I remember using that specifically in my own budding relationship at the time, and fast forward to today and we’ve been happily committed together for years! Just overall great stuff, so I’m super glad to see you back and to see your awesome life updates 💓

[–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

🎉🎉 so happy to see you and hear that everything is so good.

And pre-congratulations on your impending pregnancy,🤪

[–][deleted]  (2 children) | Copy Link

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[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I AM! I would like to say that I took a break like you did, because one needs to get off the internet from time to time. In reality I had just written so much in comments and posts about both me and the husband that I thought it might be in my best interest to make myself less doxxable. I started up this one to help out last year when they did a back to basics string of posts.

I'm so so glad that everything is going well for you. You know Whisper was kicked off of Reddit. Permanently I believe.

I actually wrote Plate to Wife for you. I remember because you had put up a post where it wasn't at all clear (to me) that your man was just spinning you and eeeeeeveryone was doing the 'dump him, value yourself' and it just bugged me.

But yeah, things are going well over here. Two kids and my brain is absolutely fried most days but it's not a bad life by any stretch :-) who needs a brain!!

[–]Jenneapolis2 Stars 8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

So inquiring minds want to know - if you had only one recommendation you could make to others for success, what would it be?

[–]Independent-Hall4929 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

What were the specific things you did to get commitment?

[–]stripe_throwaway1 points [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link

I found my field report!

[–]LivelyLycheeModerator 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

If you don’t mind because I know it’s a deleted post, would you be okay with this being part of our upcoming “Back to Basics” September series where we repost excellent examples and and RPW fundamentals? I’ve been eying this post because of how good it is but I wanted to check in with you first.

[–]stripe_throwaway1 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm cool with it. I think I might have something to add, such as the conversations and actions in the year leading up to his proposal which ironically mirror the running themes in that post, but my time is limited at the moment.

[–]LivelyLycheeModerator[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

No worries at all! Take all the time you need, we have all September haha! Definitely looking forward to your updates!

[–]WYenginerdWY1 points [recovered] (8 children) | Copy Link

Your post history offers no insight into this so I'll just be blunt - why the hell did you want a relationship with some random dude who was openly treating you like a plate? I'm trying to imagine any characteristic a man could have that would make me give him the time of day after treating me that way and am coming up blank. Frankly, knowing the mindset of TRPers, it kinda feels like he "won". Sex on demand during the trial period and then you pulling out all the stops like he was a prize at the county fair you wanted to take home.

[–]stripe_throwaway1 points [recovered] (6 children) | Copy Link

You're right. He won, and wow, you're right again. He actually was the prize I brought home from the state fair.

I guess he and I both win. :)

[–]WYenginerdWY1 points [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link

Okay? This sounds sarcastic as hell and like you're putting on a hell of a front about "winning" but whatevs. Also don't pm me anymore, what you wrote came off as...... unhinged...so I don't think it's productive.

[–]stripe_throwaway1 points [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link

This is unhinged?

Hey there... I just read the shit out of your post history on unditt. See, when I see someone with your post history I can only assume you're not responding to me in good faith.

Normally I don't do this, but on the off chance you were asking in good faith...

What I read in your post history drew a lot of parallels with my life. I went through a similar gauntlet with my ex-husband, except I had not one, but TWO therapists telling me the behavior he exhibited was troubling and the escalations of behavior were toxic to the point that they were advising me to leave after it came out he'd physically and sexually abused me. I'm sorry you went through what you posted about and I hope it gets better.

To be completely candid, that same ex-husband threw the TRP book at me towards the end of our marriage. Whoo boy. He didn't know I'd already drawn up the divorce papers and was just waiting to move the fuck out of the house.

I met my now husband not knowing what I wanted. I didn't know myself. I'd spent my entire adult life with my ex husband. To be honest when I noticed the TRP literature on his computer I couldn't believe it. I associated it with assholes and he's not an asshole in the slightest.

Best guy I ever met. Maybe he's not full fledged trp and just has the books on his computer. Maybe he took the parts he agreed with and dropped the misogyny crap. Who knows. What I do know is he's the best thing that ever happened to me, he doesn't watch an excessive amount of porn, he doesn't gaslight me and when he says something I know he means it. And hey, the sex is fucking awesome. :)

[–]WYenginerdWY -2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Hey there... I just read the shit out of your post history on unditt.

Yes.

It's also weird that you take exception to a woman who highlights violent porn and men who want to fuck children.

[–]stripe_throwaway1 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link

I took exception to your edited posts in dead bedrooms.

[–]WYenginerdWY -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm already aware that those are not what you were referring to by "my post history". And even if it was, it's still a) weird as shit to go off platform to read someone's erased posts and b) to take exception to someone else's personal life.

Hunting my post history down is made all the weirder by the fact that this entire conversation was initiated because you deleted yours. Hence my original question, which you've dodged entirely.

So again, if you're not going to answer it then just say that rather than being weird and pm'ing me.

Edit - If you're gonna make a long ass edit, you should probably mark it. And I'm sorry, but this is absolutely hilarious because I have no idea what audience you think you're lying for lol.

and I wanted to respect your privacy because I felt empathy

At any rate, I asked my question in good faith. You didn't feel like giving a real answer so I'm happy to conclude.

Edit2- yeah I did ask, something which leaves it open for the person to choose to respond or say "no thank you". What I did not do was go off platform and attempt to dig through her deleted posts. I gave her the option of whether she wanted to expose her deleted past which is a courtesy she did not extend to me. I get she's an "endorsed contributer" so you're gonna choose to not see the difference though.

OMG, a behind the scenes banning? Oh nos. Now how will I ever read sidebar with all its immense wisdom left for the poor womens, cultivated by a man who runs an off reddit platform replete with men using the n word and fantasizing about fucking 14 year olds. Lost. Lost forever. Darn, I was really hoping to land myself a plate spinning red piller like OP. Sigh. Now I'll never know.

[–]LivelyLycheeModerator[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Everyone’s post history is fair game here, especially when YOU were the one who went looking in OP’s post history first in your original comment. You are moving the goal posts and from a mod perspective, you absolutely not responding to u/stripe_throwaway in good faith. Please familiarize yourself with our sidebar before you come here to pick fights with members of the community.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Aren't you a delight. I can just imagine what your dating history looks like. Are you really so messed up that you think that the only winner here is the man? They are married ffs. Oh no don't have sex, it might get you a husband!!!

Go away and don't come back. We don't need your damaged takes.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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