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I found Women who was Match maker. She quit because she could not handle female clients.

Bortasz
August 16, 2020
97 upvotes
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Here is video that she make:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H6ONHDmDD8s
Title is: Why Women Have Totally Unrealistic Standards for Men, Dating, and Marriage

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Title I found Women who was Match maker. She quit because she could not handle female clients.
Author Bortasz
Upvotes 97
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Date August 16, 2020 1:17 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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[–]jakethegreatwhite55 points56 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The ultimate red pill woman, unfortunately for any woman she is talking about they wouldn't even give her the time of day to listen.

[–]hahaItWorked41 points42 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

this! I watched her do an interview with two guys on their podcast about this and she summed it up very well.

Primarily she is speaking of women who have accomplished a lot in their lives and are looking for a partner on a similar level. For example, if she worked hard to become a professional in her career, making over six figures, and has a bunch of degrees, then she would want a partner at the same level as her, not a man who will bring her value down. Which makes logical sense and I do not disagree with their POV.

The issue is when they create an extensive checklist a guy must be in order to date them and the list is so specific that no man can meet them.

Is the bar set to high? Is it to low? You don’t know because there is more to a person than a checklist of things they have done in their lives, like their character, their personality, and their hobbies.

Men on the other hand date differently and do not think like this. If they date someone it’s because they are attracted to them, everything else is second, making the dating pool smaller.

I believe we should be true to ourselves and find partners that are compatible with who we are as a person, not based on a set checklist of qualities you came up with. I believe women should set standards for the types of men they want/do not want to date and recognize what makes us all human are our flaws.

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[–]Lagstravaganza3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

re: Ellen Page- she has a receding hairline. Aside from that, I think it's just the character she plays now is usually sad instead of perky like the characters she's played in the past. Sad vs perky expressiveness makes a person seem older.

[–]quirkypinkllama1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

For me, mine is based on personality/lifestyle stuff. Like: nonsmoker, no drugs, not overly religious, etc.

[–]Noodlesoupe23 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

nah I’ve seen men with unrealistic standards before

[–]barooka31 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The problem is, women are following male dating strategies. Those are completely different and sometimes opposite of what they want

I started online dating after a couple years and now I’m seeing links to Venmo on a lot of women’s profiles. Oh boy

[–]avatarselena9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

she spits truth

[–]awdsuperman20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Clarity like this is beyond rare

[–]SteakNotCake5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I can see this happening a lot with my generation in the Christian church. Lots of single 30yo women want the cream of the crop when they themselves aren’t the best.

[–]WhisperTRP Founder21 points22 points  (28 children) | Copy Link

She's wrong about one very important thing.

Men don't become "ready" to settle down. There's not some magic time period that makes us suddenly interested in what you want.

We become interested in what you want when you make it worthwhile for us. By being interested in what we want. A man doesn't get into a relationship because he's "ready". He becomes ready because he found a woman who was worth a relationship with.

All the men who "weren't ready" for relationship with you, were at that exact moment ready for a relationship with someone else who was a better catch.

[–]Noodlesoupe210 points11 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

doubt this but ok. Some men just want to fuck around and get tired of the same pussy over and over

[–]WhatIsThisAccountFor3 Star8 points9 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Some? Yes you're right. Some men will simply never be loyal to one woman ever in their lives.

Most men who "aren't ready for marriage" are just seeing what exactly they can attract. If you are a model level woman and he isn't in a position where he can consistently get model level women, you have to be a terrible partner to lose that man. He will hold on to you with everything he has if you're hot enough and not a terrible person.

Pretty much all (non rich/famous) men are willing to settle down if they find a girl worth settling for. Men's standards progressively become more lenient (lower) for "settle down material" as they age and do not reach fame/wealth. A man who is ready for marriage is nothing more than a man whose standards have dipped low enough for him to consider a wider variety of women worth committing to long term.

[–]Noodlesoupe23 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I agree but the fact that a rp founder (aka someone who tells his followers to never get married and that there are no unicorns) is saying that all men will settle down for a good woman makes me laugh a bit

[–]Poet18692 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Or...since he's the founder, and its his ideology, perhaps you are misunderstanding the content?

Or perhaps ideology changes, and does not always reflect the pure thoughts of its foundation. That certainly happened with Objectivism, Communism, Platonic vs. Aristotelian philosophy.

I just find its better to take people at their word instead of trying to find ulterior motives.

[–]Noodlesoupe28 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Don’t ask a fish how to be caught, which is why female perspectives aren’t welcome at TRP. Looking at the core RP subreddit it still seems to discourage monogamy so I highly doubt it has changed much. I also don’t agree with his word no matter who it is coming from since I know many men of dubious morals who wouldn’t settle down even with a perfect 10 stepford wife without cheating. This is why we tout vetting at RPW so we don’t end up as a plate even though we are otherwise “perfect”

[–]WhisperTRP Founder1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is why we tout vetting at RPW

Who's "we"?

[–]WhisperTRP Founder1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Or...since he's the founder, and its his ideology

It's not an ideology at all.

Ideologies tell people what they "should" do, because it's "morally right". I don't give a shit what's morally right. I tell people how to get what they want. Which changes depending on who they are.

[–]Poet18690 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fair enough.

[–]WhisperTRP Founder10 points11 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

If all you have to offer is pussy, then that's highly likely. We are indeed, strongly hardwired with an obsessive interest in vaginas, but bear in mind that there a great many of them to choose from, and that they are far less distinct than the women that surround them.

[–]Noodlesoupe23 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Isn’t one of the redpill philosophies to never get married? Also, don’t believe that all men are angels and will settle down if they find the “right” woman. Some plain don’t want to settle down and I think that it’s misleading to say that all men are like that. This is potentially dangerous advice bc some poor young woman could be reading this thinking she can transform a Peter Pan syndrome plate spinner just through being the perfect woman.

[–]WhisperTRP Founder5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Isn’t one of the redpill philosophies to never get married?

Redpill isn't a philosophy, it's tactical advice.

I teach men to never sign those papers, because it's not in their best interest. I teach you how to get men to ignore me. Why? Because I'm a jerk, that's why.

Also, don’t believe that all men are angels and will settle down if they find the “right” woman.

No men are angels. Be grateful for that, unless you enjoy harp music and no sex.

You get the behaviour you incentivize.

This is potentially dangerous advice bc some poor young woman could be reading this thinking she can transform a Peter Pan syndrome plate spinner just through being the perfect woman.

Blaming men for not getting what you want is a non-starter, because it's not actionable advice.

I don't advise men on how to "vet" women for "sex-readiness". I tell them how to become sexually attractive to women.

Similarly, I don't tell women how to "identify relationship-ready men". Because that's not how men work.

[–]Dovauk20200 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

As they say, "you can't turn a hoe into a housewife", and for ladies, "you can't turn a male hoe into a husband."

[–]LateralThinker134 Stars0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Isn’t one of the redpill philosophies to never get married?

No. It's sound advice in this day and age, but it's not a red pill philosophy. Red pill literally is about truth - biological and sociological - and the tools to use it to relationship advantage. That's it. It exists because current culture lies heavily and assumes it can overcome biology with socialization; hint, it can't.

Also, don’t believe that all men are angels and will settle down if they find the “right” woman.

Most men want to pair off. The catch is that many see that it's not worth it, or don't like the cost. One major point of RPW is making yourself a woman who inspires him to settle down with you.

Some plain don’t want to settle down and I think that it’s misleading to say that all men are like that. This is potentially dangerous advice bc some poor young woman could be reading this thinking she can transform a Peter Pan syndrome plate spinner just through being the perfect woman.

True. Agree. But Peter Pans aren't that hard to spot. Most men WANT to give of themselves to make a woman happy; a Peter Pan wants is ultimately selfish, concerned first with his own pleasure, and will act differently.

[–]yungsweetro2 Stars[🍰] 2 points3 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

I agree with you, but do you think there’s a difference when the commitment/settling down is specifically marriage? I can see men of all ages committing to a woman who’s a catch, but not many early twenties men (outside of religious/abstinent circles) would be interested in marriage in a 1-3 year time frame.

I also believe that there are two camps of men: those who are open to marriage and those who are opposed to it. Both are valid and reasonable desires but men who don’t want marriage will likely never propose, even if he finds the perfect woman for him. Older men will have figured out which camp they are in.

While I am open to dating men who are older for this reason, many women in their early twenties that want marriage as their end goal end up wasting their good years by only dating men their own age because those men may not know which camp they fall under. They have not even considered marriage as a possibility and even if they are dating the perfect woman, they may realize marriage is not for them down the line. When he does figure this out in his late twenties and onward, his LTR is forced to choose between leaving him and starting over at a less desirable position or settling for never being married, with neither outcome going her way.

I’ve read your past posts and the one about “the talk” being socially awkward and off-putting resonated with me a lot. With that in mind, how do marriage-minded women find men with the same goal without bringing it up like an uncalibrated weirdo?

Thanks for your contributions! I enjoy hearing your take on these topics and have learned a lot from your writing.

[–]WhisperTRP Founder0 points1 point  (11 children) | Copy Link

I'm looking at things from a very different angle here. We're talking about female goals, but I'm trying to promote an idea of how to achieve them by understanding the male mindset. Specifically, you're asking about how to get "a" commitment, or "the" commitment, when I'm talking about how to get commitment.

So what's the difference between "a commitment" and "commitment", apart from the indefinite article? The first is some visible milestone that a woman can easily quantify, and presumably brag about to hear friends. The second is the actual male state of mind that makes these things happen.

This can be hard to understand for those who don't inhabit a male mind on a daily basis, but there are certain types of decisions we don't make all at once. Oh, sure, we have no trouble deciding what we want off the sandwich menu, and once we reach a certain tax bracket, we might stop by the Porsche dealership to admire and find ourselves driving off in something bright crimson and frisky. But other types of decisions, not so much. Specifically (and tattoo this inside your eyelids if it's the only way you'll remember), mentally stable men do not impulse-buy women. We don't sit down one day with a blank piece of paper, write "pros" and "cons" at the top of it, and emerge with a decision to start picking out curtains and baby names.

Instead, we try to get laid, and then, when that mission is accomplished, we try to find a graceful way to reach the door, because her personality is something obnoxious that we had to put up with in order to scratch a nagging biological itch. Then one day we have sex with a woman whose personality is a plus instead of a minus, and give or take a few false starts here and there, we start choosing to spend next weekend with her instead getting back on tinder, and some years later you're buying a house and she's having her IUD taken out in anticipation of having sex on regimented schedule in the hopes of creating an expensive parasite whose sole function is to turn sugar into noise.

My point here isn't to tell you that you need to navigate this gauntlet (although you might), it's to point out that, for men, commitment is a state of mind, and regardless of just what circus tricks you would like him to perform in order to stabilize your self-esteem needs, you're going to have inspire that state of mind.

If, in modern society, with marriage meaning what it currently means, some man is willing to marry you within a year of meeting you, then I highly recommend walking swiftly and purposefully in the other direction.

[–]yungsweetro2 Stars[🍰] 1 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

The first is some visible milestone that a woman can easily quantify, and presumably brag about to hear friends. The second is the actual male state of mind that makes these things happen.

That’s true! I never thought about it that way. To me, the most important aspect of the commitment is that it seems the most ironclad option in the long term. Sure, everyone’s entitled to a divorce, but it’s much more difficult to divorce your once perky, now-menopausal wife for young tail than it is to simply leave your long-time girlfriend when her beauty fades. Ultimately though, the goal isn’t to make it harder for a future husband/partner to leave you, but to make life so good for the both of you that the thought never even crosses his mind, biological imperatives be damned. I guess how to do the latter is what I’m trying to learn from you and the ladies in happy relationships and marriages here!

Specifically (and tattoo this inside your eyelids if it’s the only way you’ll remember), mentally stable men do not impulse-buy women. We don’t sit down one day with a black piece of paper, write “pros” and “cons” at the top of it, and emerge with a decision to start picking out curtains and baby names.

I may as well get this inked! I’m the anxious type and even if things are going perfectly and both of us are happy, the sudden reminder that the clock is ticking makes me second-guess what my LTR’s intentions are. It doesn’t help that even more red-pill, no sugar-coated BS movies like The Wolf of Wall Street make it seem like even high value men are quick to commit if the woman is perfect or at the very least breathtakingly beautiful. But then again, Jordan Belfort was no mentally stable man no matter how much wealth, status, and charisma he had, so your statement is nothing but true!

and some years later you’re buying a house and she’s having her IUD taken out in anticipation of having sex on regimented schedule in the hopes of creating an expensive parasite whose sole function is to turn sugar into noise.

Sigh if it wasn’t for some weird innate need in me to create a happy and stable home for an expensive, noisy parasite or two, I would be so much less pressed to find the commitment and would be perfectly satisfied with commitment with no frills and add-ons. TRP and RPW have highlighted the negative effects of single motherhood on children, which is something I want to avoid at all costs. Childfree couples seem to live in a bliss that I definitely respect and envy!

for men, commitment is a state of mind, and regardless of just what circus tricks you would like him to perform in order to stabilize your self-esteem needs, you’re going to have to inspire that state of mind.

And that’s why I love RPW! I had no idea how to inspire commitment when I first entered the dating market, and I was left feeling confused, frustrated, and insecure that something was intrinsically wrong with me. After taking in everything that’s here, I learned everything from how to attract men (it had much less to do with getting accomplished and dressing confident and so much more to do with just starting conversations and smiling) to why it’s important to be warm and receptive to the man you’ve chosen as your captain and training myself to be a soft place to land. I’m no expert by any means, but I’m so happy to continue learning here. My current LTR is definitely enjoying a side of me that pre-RPW me would never have been capable of.

If, in modern society, with marriage meaning what it currently means, and some man is willing to marry you within a year of meeting you, then I highly recommend walking swiftly and purposefully in the other direction.

I’ll remember that and try not to get discouraged when the latest thread of “How long should I wait for commitment?” pops up around here and a vocal few insist in the comments that if a man hasn’t seriously progressed the relationship and suggested marriage in a year and a half, he’s wasting your time. I like RPW the most when it’s less about ultimatums and more about concrete strategies and field reports anyways :P

Thanks so much for such a thoughtful response! It’s made me understand so much more about why men choose to give commitment and helped me recalibrate my own strategies to achieve it just by typing out this essay of a reply. Much appreciated :)

[–]WhisperTRP Founder1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

Ultimately though, the goal isn’t to make it harder for a future husband/partner to leave you, but to make life so good for the both of you that the thought never even crosses his mind, biological imperatives be damned.

+1

/u/luckylittlestar

[–]yungsweetro2 Stars[🍰] 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy Link

Whoa didn’t expect this! Thank you so much!!

[–]WhisperTRP Founder3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

No need to thank me, those are earned.

You have grasped the essential idea of what RPW is doing, here. You win not by defeating men, but constructing "mutual win" scenarios so that men will work with you, not against you.

As a personal example, "FunSize", when introduced as my "girlfriend", to my social circle, was confused by the level of cattiness and snark directed towards her by the women. She didn't understand that I had slept with each and every one of them, and they had pretty much all wanted "girlfriend" status, and tried to get me to give it to them. And failed.

What they didn't understand is that she had played the game a different way. Instead of trying to push buttons to get me to do something she wanted, she simply made having her around fun and pleasurable. So each day or week, I made the decision to spend time with her instead of hitting up Tinder or whatever. Because it was the better option. That adds up a relationship pretty fast.

To all these other women, I was the "player" who was "not ready to settle down". They mentally assigned responsibility for starting a relationship to me, and if I didn't move the ball forwards, they blamed me while mentally excusing themselves. They had somehow held ME responsible for making sure THEY got what they wanted.

If you want to have some idea what that experience feels like for a man, imagine meeting a man who expected YOU to seduce HIM, then got resentful when you didn't.

In saying what you said, you showed awareness of a fact that even most women who read RPW struggle against: that THEY are responsible for making men WANT a relationship. They don't like the burden of responsibility.

But the wonderful thing about responsibility is that it comes packaged with power. If something is someone else's job, you have to wait for them to do it. If something is your job, you can step up and make something happen.

[–]yungsweetro2 Stars[🍰] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You win not by defeating men, but constructing "mutual win" scenarios so that men will work with you, not against you.

Beautifully put! What’s the point of scoring against someone on your own team?

What they didn't understand is that she had played the game a different way. Instead of trying to push buttons to get me to do something she wanted, she simply made having her around fun and pleasurable. So each day or week, I made the decision to spend time with her instead of hitting up Tinder or whatever. Because it was the better option. That adds up a relationship pretty fast.

FunSize sounds like a smart lady! Sometimes it’s mind-boggling how such a simple strategy reaps very strong results. When the man you’re interested in is the object of many other women’s desires, it always felt like your girl game would have to be out of this world, like something equivalent to Angelina Jolie’s mysterious steal-yo-man powers and beauty. It’s very nice to know that’s not the case and that you can get a coveted man by simply being fun and sweet.

They mentally assigned responsibility for starting a relationship to me, and if I didn't move the ball forwards, they blamed me while mentally excusing themselves. They had somehow held ME responsible for making sure THEY got what they wanted.

This goes back to the RPW staple: women are the gatekeepers of sex and men of relationships! I guess those women wanted to be the gatekeeper of both. That’s like expecting the bouncer of a club to be the one to pay for the desperate patrons who want to get in. Not so big on nightlife myself, but I always pictured men and women as the bouncers of their respective commodity :P

THEY are responsible for making men WANT a relationship.

But the wonderful thing about responsibility is that it comes packaged with power. If something is someone else's job, you have to wait for them to do it. If something is your job, you can step up and make something happen.

This is why I love RPW! Not only did it make me aware of my own power to do something about getting the goals I want, it also gave me many little techniques and examples to learn from. My LTR is similar to yours in that, after we got together, I learned that there are many women who wanted to be in my position, most of them wealthier, from elite families, and sexier than I am. I’m still surprised I bagged him for an LTR with my small RPW toolbag. If marriage is on my mind, now I know I just have to make his time with me so good he wouldn’t want it any other way.

[–]WhisperTRP Founder0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

FunSize sounds like a smart lady! Sometimes it’s mind-boggling how such a simple strategy reaps very strong results. When the man you’re interested in is the object of many other women’s desires, it always felt like your girl game would have to be out of this world, like something equivalent to Angelina Jolie’s mysterious steal-yo-man powers and beauty. It’s very nice to know that’s not the case and that you can get a coveted man by simply being fun and sweet.

Fun fact: I have, twice in my life, had the surreal experience of listening a Miss Universe contestant cry because I wouldn't leave FunSize for her.

The secret of holding onto a man is not "be Angelina Jolie", because she is probably a fucking nightmare to be in a relationship with. Imagine the sheer level of entitlement and self-regard. Imagine the temper. Imagine the screaming matches. Imagine what inner demons are motivating her to use African children as fashion accessories. Imagine there's a reason for all the divorces.

Sure, being attractive helps you catch a dick. But any girl can catch a dick. The hard part is getting to the end zone without fumbling it. And no matter how sexy you are, if you are not pleasant to be around, men will get sick of your bullshit.

If I could only get idea through the stubborn head of every woman who hangs out here and still just doesn't get it, it would be:

Women want to be treated good enough by someone awesome. But men just want to treated awesome by someone good enough.

So when you say:

I’m still surprised I bagged him for an LTR with my small RPW toolbag.

You are perhaps not realizing that, here and now, in this day and age, your small RPW toolbag contains awesome power. Because it has in it the few and very simple tools that almost no other women have.

There is nothing physically or mentally hard about these few simple principles. It's not difficult to be nice to someone. What women find difficult is being willing to do it. They have been taught that they are supposed to "stand up for themselves" and "be independent", and "know their worth".

They are afraid that if they act like decent human beings to their partners, they will be "taken advantage of". Even around here you can't heave a brick without hitting six retards who are busily chanting "don't give him the privileges of a husband if you're only a girlfriend".

They don't understand how men work.

According to Briffault's Law, women give in the hopes of receiving back. And thus they do not give if they see no future benefit in it.

But men aren't like that. They give because, and only because, they HAVE received. If you want the status of a wife, perform the role of one.

[–]yungsweetro2 Stars[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fun fact: I have, twice in my life, had the surreal experience of listening a Miss Universe contestant cry because I wouldn't leave FunSize for her.

That’s crazy! To regular girls who grew up watching that stuff, the Miss Universe ladies seemed like the epitome of high-caliber women on a level that was probably unattainable for most. The fact that FunSize was the most special keeper out of the women you’ve dated means that her qualities really shine through. I’m happy for both of you for finding such special people!

The secret of holding onto a man is not "be Angelina Jolie", because she is probably a fucking nightmare to be in a relationship with.

I never thought of her in that light, but you make many good points, especially about the savior complex she has with third-world orphans. She seems chaotic to put it politely, but I guess it’s that Hollywood marketing that makes young girls and women like me think she’s some otherworldly creature that every man would dream of wifing. That’s the blue-pilled message that our conversation is making me realize is just a facade.

The hard part is getting to the end zone without fumbling it. And no matter how sexy you are, if you are not pleasant to be around, men will get sick of your bullshit.

That’s an important lesson I’ve learned from RPW. No matter how long a woman’s beauty can make a man’s lust goggles last, eventually the people who enjoy LTRs will realize that just beauty alone isn’t enough for a happy relationship, no matter how powerful it initially is. Whether they break up or stay together, both people will be deeply unfulfilled.

Women want to be treated good enough by someone awesome. But men just want to treated awesome by someone good enough.

Guess I found something for my other eyelid!

You are perhaps not realizing that, here and now, in this day and age, your small RPW toolbag contains awesome power. Because it has in it the few and very simple tools that almost no other women have.

It just shocks me that so many women have decided not to do this! When I was blue-pilled, I literally thought exactly like this:

They have been taught that they are supposed to "stand up for themselves" and "be independent", and "know their worth".

I wrongly assumed that being nice and sweet was boring, and that I had to be not like other girls (I’m cringing just remembering 18 year old me as a 5’0 edgelord trying to be hard and sarcastic). I always thought I was one of the only ones this foolish, but the more I read RPW, the more I realize that many women unfortunately still have that same take that I did 4 years ago. How ironic that reality is the complete opposite: edgelords are abound but sweethearts are few and far between. I guess there’s a bright side to that though: once you accept or at least skeptically try RPW strategies and see if they work, it won’t take much time at all to change your dating life for the better. You’ll also realize that being a defensive angst queen is exhausting, and that it’s so much for fun to just be kind to the man you love and enjoy yourself.

They don't understand how men work.

According to Briffault's Law, women give in the hopes of receiving back. And thus they do not give if they see no future benefit in it.

But men aren't like that. They give because, and only because, they HAVE received. If you want the status of a wife, perform the role of one.

I’m out of eyelids but I definitely gotta write stuff this down somewhere! I think a lot of women, or at least my past self and some of my friends, operate from a place of fear. There’s so much lore out there about men who dump their perfect 10 year girlfriends and get engaged to the next beautiful girl he dates. While it’s usually told as a cautionary tale by feminists, it’s ironic that it takes away all the agency the woman in the story has. She’s sitting around and waiting a decade for a proposal, but stories like these often have no advice or mention for how exactly she can get what she wants or what she has done to keep him. Rather than focus on these “man bad woman hurt” stories, I’m happy that I listened to RPW instead. Instead of nagging at my LTR in the early days, I planned picnics and cooked for him to thank him for taking me out. I wear what I know he likes just to see the smile and excitement on his face. I listen to what he has to say with enthusiasm and a little playful feedback to keep things light. Most of all, I respect his decisions and let him steer the ship. By treating him as awesome as I can, somehow I’ve convinced him that I’m an awesome catch as well. I’ll try not to let all this RPW power get to my head muahahaha. All jokes aside, it really did change my life!

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Finished awarding your star! Keep up the good work.

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Thank you so much :)

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i love rebecca lynn pope!

[–]Lethal-Procedure1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was struck by the question about what she Compromised on regarding the husband she married. This is something I think she attempted to answer but could have answer more effectively.

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The real point is that the standards that many women have for an ideal match are unrealistic for the purposes of finding a quality husband.

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Realizing that your criteria are wrong for your desired objective and changing them is not compromising. It is realizing your methodology for achieving your goals is not effective and changing gears to pursue your goal more effectively.

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Viewing changing your criteria as compromise and settling for less means you still haven't realized that you simply want the wrong things. Things less compatible or well correlated with your ostensible goal.

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[–]LateralThinker134 Stars1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

the more compliant women become, the easier it is to make a match

The more a woman is compliant, the higher the chance her relationship will work out. Combative women tend to make for crap partners. It's a relationship not a competition. Not a fight. The LAST thing a man wants when he comes home is a fight. That's a good way to get him to STOP coming home.

[–]Bortasz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

the easier it is to make a match and to say she did her job and justify whatever she's charging.

She quit match making. She no longer is doing it.

[–]Noodlesoupe2-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

yeah if they have to go to matchmakers than it stands to reason that they probably have too high standards to meet someone irl. I don’t see how is relevant to RPW?

[–]LateralThinker134 Stars0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It just means that there's something about them where they're having trouble meeting relationship-minded men who they are attracted to. There can be many causes for this. RPW does something similar, does it not? It gives you the tools to meet and land a relationship-minded man. Used right, it can even show a man who wasn't looking for a relationship that you're a keeper.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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