I really hate gynocentrism!

aftertheafter-party · 2018-09-19T02:41:36+00:00

It's been like this forever, I'm married almost 16 years now. With one breath women recognize that mine and my kids lives are possible due to his work, and with the other are shocked I push him out the door to do stuff with friends. The way they see it, he travels internationally for work, which is obviously (/s) a work funded vacation. Why would he need to go do stuff unrelated to work with people not from work? These are the same people who can't live without book clubs and "girls night" on the regular.

BewareTheOldMan · 2018-09-19T03:28:50+00:00

Haters gonna hate. Keep your husband, yourself, and your family happy.

Simply brush that dirt off your shoulder....

aftertheafter-party · 2018-09-19T05:15:43+00:00

I felt so sad seeing a thread in another group that I enjoy... asking all the women to share why they hxte men & how men are very bad. This sounds like propaganda, & I wouldn't have believed it if I hadn't seen it sprout up before my eyes... The complaints are semi-legitimate (men not bathing [?!?], being disrespectful, etc.) but they ignore the HUGE number of very good men that are out there doing their very best to support their partners & their families.

CalvinRichland · 2018-09-19T03:14:07+00:00

Social poisoning

Wolfssenger · 2018-09-19T06:15:13+00:00

Society has more often than not been gynocentric simply because women are the limiting(and thereby far more valuable) reagent in continuing the species. It has become intolerably so with the unnecessary "empowerment"(I air quote this as women have always held the power of sexual selection over men, which pervades all aspects of life) and diminishment of men.

That being said, I'm right there with you in terms of sentiment towards it. I've long had my fill of dealing with(god forbid attempting to court) women who think you should kiss the ground they walk on because they happen to sport a second X chromosome.

loneliness-inc · 2018-09-20T02:41:30+00:00

Then they wonder why they’re in unhappy marriages and I’m the one getting XOXO from my husband.

Never forget this part, it's of extreme importance.

newbrict · 2018-09-19T05:06:52+00:00

What are the differences in environment to create these two different mindsets

iamdaddy254 · 2018-09-19T17:16:53+00:00

Totally opposite from my situation. My wife is the total opposite of you...literally! Keep doing what you do and f**k the haters, especially the family and friend types. You are obviously making your husband happy which in turn keeps you happy!

aussiedollface2 · 2018-09-20T04:58:16+00:00

I so agree OP! I encourage my hubby to play golf and other pursuits, because he works so hard and I think his relax and unwind time is important. I always try to schedule my own things to do when I know he’s busy, so we can spend as much time together as possible when he’s free. I had to explain to an incredulous friend recently that I work off his schedule because otherwise we just would never see each other, and also that I can’t do “girls only” things all the time because when hubby isn’t at work I like to prioritise him and have quality time. She definitely judged me. Our weekends are for our quality time, so if anyone invites me anywhere then hubby is coming too!

Also my brother unfortunately married a lady who literally won’t let him do anything, and it’s almost a competition! Like he does something and straight away she’s like “well you had a boys night so I need a girls night!!!!!!”. This seems to be such a common attitude!

Also, I only work one day a week and my husband is our breadwinner and provides a lovely lifestyle for us. We have just started talking about trying to conceive and people are resoundingly like “he won’t be able to work those hours when you have a baby!” and “he needs to take paternity leave!” etc etc. I’m like, actually his work will require him to continue as is, and we will just have to learn how to manage. We are still equal in our marriage, we just contribute to it differently.

xo

[deleted] · 2018-09-20T15:05:13+00:00

Most people only know what they have been taught . Most people develop an emotional attachment to their beliefs and they attach the sense of being right about something to their own ego. There isn't really anything you can do to influence others whose minds are not open.

I would be careful about sharing the details of your personal life with other women in a place where their morals and lifestyles are fundamentally different to yours. Quite often if they don't like something about you and the way that you live they could go out of their way to cause trouble and create drama and conflict. Much of the time they refuse to acknowledge that this is what they are doing.

Either you are going to have to change the community you live in, or learn to blend in by not oversharing and not being too obvious about the fact that you and your family are different.

SKRedPill · 2018-09-22T17:15:43+00:00

Ah the usual relationship sabotage thing. Do you have any idea how widespread jealousy and bitterness is? The shocker is when you realize that sometimes the people closest to you are the worst.

missguidedme · 2018-09-20T23:24:02+00:00

Tell those women to read this blog I really enjoy, she classifies women into “Woman Zero”, “Woman Minus” and a “Woman Plus”. From your words it would seem to me that you’re a woman + . Her advices have helped me a lot in my relationship.

https://instagram.com/milalevchuk_eng?utm_source=ig_profile_share&igshid=2tlrekh9ergu

masterofthebarkarts · 2018-09-21T19:00:13+00:00

My fiancé regularly "thanks" me for "letting" him pursue his nerdy weird hobbies.

No, love, you are an adult man and no one "lets" you do these things. And you don't need my permission.

But he's been trained to think that you're lucky if you have a partner like that!

jackal0p3m3nt · 2018-09-21T06:29:58+00:00

It makes me very sad that it's a "necessity" for me, the stay-at-home spouse, to have time to myself outside the house, but when my husband the breadwinner wants to go out, everyone thinks he's selfish. Even my husband's own mother has told him off for having the audacity to go out with his friends for a few hours while I'm home alone with the baby. Like... is that not what I do everyday anyway? And doesn't he deserve time to decompress from his very stressful job?

liquidswan · 2018-09-19T17:11:49+00:00

I play hockey, and it is one of my sole personal hobbies outside of work and family. I find my wife somewhat supportive, but once in a while she gets mad about it. I usually play once per week (sometimes twice), and if it inconveniences her in any way it seems to get a negative reaction. I never complain when she goes out with her friends (usually once every two weeks). What would you recommend to me to communicate to her in order to convince her that me getting a little bit of exercise and personal time is a really positive thing? I really appreciate everything I’ve read in this thread so far, thanks a bunch everyone!

Title	I really hate gynocentrism!
Author	black-and-white-keys
Upvotes	155
Comments	25
Date	September 19, 2018 2:29 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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