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I Took Paid Time Off Today...

June 3, 2020

To come home and do the real job that I love.

The day at work was stressful, to the point of one of those silent panic attacks where you suddenly can’t focus on anything and completely shut down. I only knew of one thing that would make me feel better.

I stuck my head in my bosses office on my way out to lunch and told her I wouldn’t be back today and she told me to enjoy my time and to relax.

I came home and did the laundry. Washed and folded.

I washed the dishes.

I swept the floors and vacuumed.

I scrubbed the toilet and polished the mirror.

I made the bed.

I started dinner.

And now I’m going to freshen up for when he arrives. He will be so surprised.

All of this “work” and I feel so relaxed. I cannot wait until it is my time to be a homemaker full time and eventually a mother. To take care of my husbands needs. The career world has been good to me, but I have another calling now. <3

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Title I Took Paid Time Off Today...
Author girlwhoplayswithbugs
Upvotes 139
Comments 19
Date June 3, 2020 8:18 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit /r/RedPillWomen
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[–]healthyelegant18 points19 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I completely get what you mean! I’ve had this set date that I get to finally quit my job and stay at home and that date is when I become a mom. It took a long time for us to get pregnant, but I finally am and that date is officially set for this January, if this little bub sticks! I'm not afraid of the hard work of being a sahm, in fact I can't wait for it, because this mind numbing office job I have isn't hard enough. Good luck on your journey! I hope you get there one day!

[–]LivingTradition26 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Amazing, congratulations!! That’s so, so exciting.

I will also stop working about 6 months into pregnancy and can’t wait for that day. We just got married and started trying 2.5 weeks ago! Praying that God blesses us with a child soon.

[–]kittxxn4 Stars2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Praying for you :)

[–]LivingTradition20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just prayed for you! :)

[–]Lastmoonwolf22 points23 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I totally get this. As it stands now, I work full time (currently from home due to covid but will be going back soon) and do 100% of the household care. Which basically means our house is never perfect and when it is, it doesn’t last long 😂

He helps me with dishes or taking out the trash if I ask for it, but for the most part I’m always a day or two behind on laundry, meal prepping, cleaning, or washing dishes and usually will only catch up on stuff over the weekend. Then it’s back to falling behind on chores.

One of the biggest reasons I fall behind, other than working full time, is that when hubby is home, I spend time with him, because after a long day of working outside he just wants to come home and do something fun with me. That means chores get done in the morning after he leaves for work but before I start work, after I finish work but before he gets home, or if he’s gone out with a friend or has a friend over, or on the weekend. I always go to bed before him because I need my sleep lol

I pray for the day that we can afford to live solely on his income but honestly, with this economy, inflated mortgage payments, student loans and paying off car loans, I don’t think I will ever NOT be a working wife, even if we have children.

There is plenty that I would sacrifice to move to one income so that I could stay at home, but ultimately in order to make it work, he would need to sacrifice so much and it feels incredibly selfish of me to ask him to make it feasible just so I can be a housewife.

I’m already exhausted all the time from juggling work and home and husband, I couldn’t even imagine adding children to the mix. It just makes so much sense why many working mothers are constantly frustrated and stressed and tired...too much on their plate.

We probably won’t have children for years yet and I’m already nearing 28 years old, and I’m not sure what his plan is considering he wants me to homeschool any future children. I suppose I just have to trust that he’s taking everything into consideration.

Some women are blessed to have husbands that want their wives to stay home and wouldn’t have it any other way. They are a rare breed.

[–]girlwhoplayswithbugs[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ma’am I am right there with you. I will be 29 this year and my goal was to start having children at 30. My husband has struggled his entire life and the first few years of our relationship was tough on him with us moving and him having a hard time finding a new career. I made ends meet and supported him while he worked toward finding something that made him happy. He finally did and it came with a fat raise. We are working on our credit and saving money to buy a house next year and after that he told me I could stay home after that. (Thank god)

I love what I do, but I’ve pretty much come to a point where I’ve gone as far as I can go in a male dominated industry. I’m happiest taking care of him and thankful I’ll have that opportunity in the future. This sub has helped me a lot.

[–]-MIDDLE-MAN-4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

cool! it's like, trying to NOT do the things you're inspired to do is the hard work :)

I always have a hard time NOT making things for my girl / planning surprises etc ..

[–]36trombones7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

This is very sweet and I'm glad you had an afternoon to yourself. Sounds like it was well-deserved and you used it well.

Still, I have to stress that being a stay at home mother is nothing like what you experienced this afternoon. Yes, it's wonderful and fulfilling. No, it's not leisurely. If you are prone to stress now, you will still be prone to stress when you are juggling the competing needs of kids, home, husband, and self. I don't agree that being a SAHM is the hardest job in the world, as some people say. But it does come with a big set of challenges and calls for a lot of self discipline.

I'm saying that not just because of this post, but because I see a lot of posts here from young women who dream of being SAHMs and who don't seem to understand what goes into it.

[–]Throwaway2303063 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Preach! Caring for your home and family is far more important and enduring than what most people do in the workforce. But--once you add kids to the mix (especially young kids, or multiple kids)--it's not always relaxing or enjoyable or leisurely. It's often the opposite!

I say this as a woman who was born to be a middle aged mom and wife. 😁 I do think that various trad and RP spaces sugarcoat the effort that goes into successful sahm-ing. It's the most important work that many of us will do. But make no mistake--it is work!

[–]girlwhoplayswithbugs[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I never said i thought it would be leisurely or relaxing and I don’t know where you two got that from... I know it’s going to be hard work. That’s why I’m ready for the next journey 😕

[–]moes_tavern_wifi4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Probably when you put work in quotes and then said you felt relaxed.

[–]36trombones3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You described a lovely, leisurely afternoon, and then you said you couldn't wait to be a homemaker / mother.

I just wanted to point out that that's not what it's like being a SAHM. For most SAHMs, an afternoon like that -- getting the house to yourself, and having the whole afternoon to catch up on chores -- would be a bit of a treat. Just like it was for you :)

[–]RedWoman7771 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

So here for this. <3

[–]RareRedDietitian4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Sounds lovely. Am jealous! Enjoy it!!

[–]girlwhoplayswithbugs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you! I just had to “vent” (happily) about it here because people just don’t get it IRL.

[–]red-sfpplus0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

I made the bed

If you are not making the bed first thing in the morning, you are already messing up your day.

[–]girlwhoplayswithbugs[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

While I can understand your sentiment, I have duties in the morning that come first including getting coffee and breakfast made for my husband and having his lunch ready to go as well. We get ten or fifteen minutes to sit and enjoy each other’s company and once he’s out the door, I have to get myself out in about twenty minutes or so.

If he asked for the bed to be made, I would be happy to do it, but it’s just not something he desires over a hot meal and tome spent together. Once I’m a homemaker, it will definitely be the thing I do every morning, after seeing him off to work. :)

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[–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Removed. Absolutely zero excuse to insult her husband.

I do not believe RPW is an appropriate place for you to be commenting at this time. Please redirect your efforts back to the men's subs.

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