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Ignore the hate from other women

January 12, 2021
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It’s no secret many women today are very unhappy with themselves and their lives. If you are struggling with mean girl behavior ignore it. Women who are happy with themselves do not go around tearing down other women. If you are a young woman with high SMV you will get more hate than a neonazi. You will be criticized by strippers and not wives and mothers. I am a college girl in her early 20s who would be considered very attractive. I often get called a “traditional beauty”. I am rather conservative. I have a very low partner count. I get boys to take me on real dinner dates instead of hook up. I have had other girls treat me with repulsion in both high school and college. In high school I had a particularly nasty girl spread rumors about me. She extremely unattractive overweight. She was 18 with a body count over 30 and began dating a male virgin. You can picture this relationship. Hold your head high and avoid these losers. Stay at home moms get the most hate from single mothers whose baby is the product of a one night stand. Take care of your body your mind and your reputation and you will find a wonderful loving man. Don’t let women who ruined their own lives make you feel bad about your success. Don’t feel guilty for having a lovely husband and privileged children because you carry yourself like a lady while other women chose to have tinder one night stand every weekend until they were 30. Smile, wear pretty dresses, spoil your man with your cooking and it’ll all work out.

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Title Ignore the hate from other women
Author MTB13579
Upvotes 173
Comments 64
Date January 12, 2021 8:13 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]MamaAbroad55 points56 points  (18 children) | Copy Link

Totally agree. I am a very blessed stay at home Mom with 4 beautiful daughters, and one thing I want to warn them is to avoid toxic groups of girlfriends. Focus on one or two close friends, but don’t let yourself get caught up in a group full of jealous women that don’t really click with you anyway. My first semester in college I ended up in a live-in seminar situation with women who chose a Christian women’s course. Kind of hard to explain but I was in it because it was the only one left and I was late to choose mine. Anyway, I am a Christian, and I thought they would be the most kind and friendly women, but just one issue was that they put zero effort into their appearances and thought it was a virtue. They were extremely judgmental of women who put in effort to look nice. One time they thought it was a hilarious prank to hide my makeup. Another time I remember being so disgusted at lunch with them while they made fun of a girl who always had her hair done and looked great. They called her “prom girl.” I remember thinking, these women are just ugly inside AND out. There’s no way that girl is wasting her time judging them for living in hoodies with greasy hair. Then later on in life I had a group of girlfriends (teachers in a foreign country) that was sleeping around constantly and there was a lot of pressure to spill details on hookups and be seen as sexy and desirable. I had been with 2 guys my whole life and was raised sheltered and stayed a virgin into my 20s. Guys don’t realize how much women actually pressure other women about sex. It really can be like a locker room. If you don’t have any stories or experience, you look lame and “asexual.” I was the friend that would babysit at the end of the night and try to prevent them from going home with randoms. You will really get mocked for taking a stand against that lifestyle by the women who are stuck in it. I want to talk to my daughters about being friends with women you admire and want to be more like. If you are tempted to be jealous, befriend her and learn from her instead. You will always end up being more like your friends, so pick people you admire! And it’s such a myth that pretty girls who put effort into their appearance are the mean girls. Some of the sweetest women I’ve known are intimidatingly gorgeous, and some of the meanest were women who not only didn’t put any effort into themselves, but also thought it was somehow a Christian thing to do to take zero pride in how they present themselves. Most importantly, I’ve told my teenage daughter multiple times not to worry at all if she doesn’t have as much experience dating as her friends. I’m so thankful for how I was raised and that I never dated when I was young. I didn’t need that experience to teach me what kind of man to look for. And as my husband and I have said, no guy ever dated a girl and was thrilled to hear that she had tons of experience having boyfriends! Marriage is one of those things where minimal experience and minimal baggage beforehand is ideal! And there is NOTHING wrong with a woman wanting to get married and have babies. Men have coined the phrase “dual-mating strategy” for all the women who believe the lies that you should sleep around and live it up for years and then settle down. The truth is that youth and purity are prized and you have wasted yours. Then those women want a marriage and family after they have been emotionally, spiritually, and possibly physically damaged by the hook-up lifestyle. Most women would be much happier to never have a big old group of partying girlfriends but to have a husband and children instead. I think all the “gal pal” stuff is pushed in society for just that reason; it’s another way of breaking down the family and destroying healthy society. And honestly I never bonded with other women the way I do over being mothers. Jealousy and all those things can still be issues, but motherhood is like the great equalizer and no one can fake it. Good Mom friends are the best.

[–]amadexodus22 points23 points  (17 children) | Copy Link

Guys don’t realize how much women actually pressure other women about sex. It really can be like a locker room. If you don’t have any stories or experience, you look lame and “asexual.”

I experienced this as well all throughout college and early grad school. My experience is a little different in that this was coming from female/nonbinary friends of mine in the LGBT community (I'm bisexual). Anytime I went through a period where I wasn't as promiscuous as them, I was treated with a lot of contempt. They constantly gave me crap for still being interested in men, for not being gay "enough," and for turning down sexual advances from women. They even tried to orchestrate hookups between me and new people behind my back. One night I caved to the pressure, resulting in a particularly degrading encounter, and I went into nun mode pretty soon after that.

Nowadays, I want to spend my life with the right man and be the best wife possible, and that's a big reason why I cleaned up my act. Women are still sexy and beautiful, but there's no depth or romantic attachments present in my attractions. It is for this reason (among a couple others) that I am not publicly bisexual.

I believe that hookup culture is a problem everywhere, but it's particularly prevalent and toxic within the LGBT community. If you're not promiscuous and care about relationships, you're treated as though something's wrong with you, like you aren't "proud" of who you are and you have internalized homophobia. And considering that men and women view sex differently, I can't imagine the spiritual and emotional crisis this must be causing amongst gay and bisexual men.

[–]Killertofuuuuuuuuuu16 points17 points  (16 children) | Copy Link

Virginity is actually still really ideal. Women are jealous when you are a virgin, and get defensive and make fun of you.

Even if you've lost your virginity and choose not to have casual sex, there is obviously NOTHING wrong with that, but you will get a lot of hate.

[–]IcarusKiki2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I’ve never been hated for my virginity or not having casual sex. My friends may have teased me a bit for being innocent but I don’t think they envied me. Plus most people aren’t open about being a virgin

[–]-Acta-Non-Verba-5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Good. You have good friends. Not everyone does.

[–]IcarusKiki1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No point in having friends if they aren’t good ones

[–]Killertofuuuuuuuuuu0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

You aren't going to get it from everyone. That's doesn't stop it from being ideal. What's the benefit of sex with multiple partners you can't stay in a relationship with?

[–]IcarusKiki1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree that it’s ideal

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[–]Killertofuuuuuuuuuu1 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

Um, I don't want to be insensitive, because rape is horrific, but I do have an answer to this question.

Virginity IS still ideal. Is rape ideal? Obviously not.

But that's beside the point. While in some cultures your hymen is seen as the important aspect, I'm not talking about that.

Why would women be proud of having sex with people they ended up not staying in a committed relationship with? If you are super happy with casual sex, whatever, why even comment. There are plenty of spaces for that.

The reason women are jealous or defensive is because no one is actually proud of their sex with exes. "But I got good practice so now I'm good at it. I have no regrets. Hurrrrr"

Why would you want to have sex with men you aren't going to marry? Why would a man be stoked about you being happy about it?

You are now just part of the list of names of notches on a bedpost for X amount of guys.

You might not understand why it's desirable to be with a woman who chooses to be chaste and is saving themselves for Mr. Right. Many women haven't actually explored their feelings on the subject. But if you don't understand why many, many young women treat virgins poorly, maybe you should reflect.

So to be clear, rape is not the same category. Rape isn't reflective of the woman's choice to have sex. A woman will also be treated differently by her peers if she previously had sex and now chooses to live a different lifestyle.

[–]Waitwhatwhich0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy Link

I do not like the idea of virginity because it implies that raped women are less worthy.
Of course, if your ideal implies that rape does NOT break your virginity, that a raped woman is still a virgin, then your ideal is correct.

If the virginity is lost when a woman chooses to have sex, and not when sexual violence is imposed on her, then the ideal can be good. The problem is, in certain cultures, that purity culture is used to blame rape victims. And do I hate that.

[–]Killertofuuuuuuuuuu0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy Link

Who the fuck cares about those cultures.

Most women choose to lose their virginity. Should we not like the idea of sex because sometimes it's forced upon us?

Its ideal because it shows the woman is waiting for the right guy, so you are actually special to her.

[–]Waitwhatwhich0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

Who the fuck cares about those cultures.

People who live in them, many of them also Americans. Especially raped kids who are told it is their fault and made to feel less because they are not virgins anymore. I do care about them.

[–]Killertofuuuuuuuuuu0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

I didn't say I don't care about people who are raped, but nice try

[–]Waitwhatwhich0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

I didn't say that you didn't, so cut out with reading what's not written and feeling butthurt that I said I do care. These kids feel terrible, not only for the rape, but because they think they are "damaged goods", and they think that because they've been force-fed the idea that hymens determine their value.

[–]krr1432 points33 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You can also be happy with yourself and ignore the haters without bashing others. Two wrongs don’t make a right 😊

[–]femmewoman7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, thank you for saying this i wish this was the overall accepted attitude and not the perspective OP provided it seemed very judgmental. If everyone is "hating" on you maybe just maybe there is something else going on...

[–]IcarusKiki10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I totally agree with this sentiment of ignoring the crabs in a bucket mentality of other women. However as a side note learning to get along with other women and having female friends is just as important as having a good relationship with a man. Humans are social creatures and having a good network of friends is important for mental health as well as a safety net when family can’t be there. As someone who once had a “not like the other girls” mentality it only made me bitter and lonely. Don't be a pushover or a sheep, but don’t look down on other women just because they are different either.

[–]blueberrypanda132 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great post! This is so true. Women who are unhappy with themselves look to tear other women down who remind them of what they are not. If you are a beautiful high-quality woman, they look at you and in comparison feel bad about themselves, so they mentally try and find reasons that they are better than you. Deep inside they know the truth.

Women who know they are valuable want to lift others up because they do not need to give themselves a false sense of superiority. Instead, they want everyone to be happy like them 😃

I’ve had similar situations. Women less attractive than me, unable to keep a high-quality partner like me, who are mean and petty instead of sweet and kind have actively tried to mean girl me.

I try and take it as a compliment because honestly, it must be really hard for them to see you have something they don’t and probably never will.

Toxic women = wish them well, ignore them when possible and avoid them like the plague.

[–]anonymousredd1t0r14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Men do exactly the same thing. Ever see men hate on whatever boy wonder seems to be universally crushed on by young women? They'll use justifications like "he looks like a wimp/[email protected]/pussy and I hate his music" or "women only go for assholes". My grandad still held a grudge against Elvis Presley even into old age. It's often a case of jealousy, pure and simple.

People will try and bring those down who make them feel inferior or who have things that they want and this can be in terms of anything. It's easier for the ego to find perceived faults in someone than it is to admit that someone has something you want but you don't feel you have enough of.

It can also be something as simple as a clash of personalities or values, or maybe something you do does genuinely irritate someone and create conflict. Don't always assume that people are jealous of you because you are or perceive yourself to be successful somehow. There is certainly a possibility that they are or that it's only a part of it but it's not always the case. It sounds like you have actually let it go to your head a little and you feel superior to other women who have made different choices to you. Perhaps people sense that you are negatively judging them and perceive yourself to be a better or more deserving person. This alone will make people feel threatened even without any jealousy.

[–]PrincessFKNPeach6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It sounds like you have actually let it go to your head a little and you feel superior to other women who have made different choices to you. Perhaps people sense that you are negatively judging them and perceive yourself to be a better or more deserving person. This alone will make people feel threatened even without any jealousy.

Exactly.

[–]Ionotropic_effect24 points25 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Is it really that hard though to ignore the haters? Just keep your head high and stick to your values. Maybe it’s just my friend group, but none of us really care who’s a SAHM, or who works part time, or who’s the prettiest, or who has the most children or the wealthiest husband. And we don’t have time for others who criticize us. I’m not conventionally beautiful by any means other than being thin and fit, and I don’t have a pretty face or perfect hair despite skincare, makeup, and hair treatments. Sometimes it’s just genetics rather than poor life choices (sedentary/gluttonous/drugs). Somehow I still managed to marry a really attractive, HV man. Remember it’s not ONLY your appearance that matters. It’s your positive, upbeat attitude! Change what you can, and accept what you can’t.

[–]Noressa3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I have to step in, but yes, it can be very hard to ignore haters, especially around the end of teenage years and into twenties. Peer pressure can be ridiculously high, and if you don't see a return on your values, with pressure to conform, it can be difficult to follow through.

That said, surround yourself with people you would like to be like becomes my golden rule here. It may be that you will have fewer people to be with, but they will be those you look up to and aspire to be like. It makes dealing with pressure from others easier to manage.

[–]Ionotropic_effect3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I just honestly never cared-in fact, I like to stand apart from the crowd. I didn’t WANT to fit in with all the feminists and I knew I may suffer in the short term (less friends, etc) but less is more, and not only when applying makeup!...do I want fake “friends”? Do I want to change my morals and values so I’m not lonely? I just KNEW the payoff in the end would be worth it.

Ladies, all I’m saying is the extra attention isn’t worth compromising for. I know I’m in the minority here, but I’m introverted and never liked attention anyway. It made me self conscious.

[–]bunnyinbeastmode4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I love this! :) well written 🥰🥰 thank you for sharing!

[–]Ionotropic_effect6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I’m glad my comment resonated with you! I guess I just really found a good group of like minded women to keep in my circle. Prior to that I...just didn’t care? Other women sleeping around? Eh, shrug. Nothing to do with me. Other women overweight? Meh, not my cup of tea, but they are just hurting themselves in the long run. I hear through the grapevine someone is running their mouth about me and spreading rumors? I don’t have the energy or time to dwell on that.

[–]bunnyinbeastmode1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That’s really nice! There’s nothing better than having a real supportive group :) And I agree! Better spend the energy we have thinking about more productive things 🙏🏼✨

[–]RiseAndPanic5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

So I don’t necessarily disagree with the content of this post, but the messaging and tone could have been better. You talk about not tearing other women down but then go on to hype up your own looks, criticize the other girls, and call them losers?

Again, I think there’s some merit to what you’re saying and sometimes it’s just the harsh reality of things, but just understand how this is coming off to some.

[–]bunnyinbeastmode36 points37 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Even though I can appreciate your sentiment, I think it’s quite ironic how you refer to another woman as “extremely unattractive and overweight” , and criticize her “body count”. You’re addressing other women being mean yet you’re doing the same thing (#redpill 🤷🏻‍♀️). Isn’t this whole post to bring awareness about “negativity”? I think people in general (not just women) who mistreat others are hurting inside, :( addressing them with mean words only worsens the situation and reveals your true, bitter emotions (IMO).

[–]MTB13579[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was explaining who I was being bullied by. Those are are just the facts of the situation. My advice to other women is don’t listen to criticism for doing the right thing from someone whose life is a train wreck.

[–]hepazepie11 points12 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Funnily this holds also true for men: just look at how incels talk about "alphas" and "chads"

[–]MTB13579[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Spot on. Read how incels think about women. Nature is smart there’s a reason these men couldn’t get a woman to save their lives. “Chads” hold open doors and take women out to dinner. I had a friend who started dating a man who was basically an incel and he abused her for 4 years before she got out.

[–]hepazepie2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well I think when ot comes to intergender relations it gets more complicated. I was just comparing the INTRAgender dynamics between people with different sexual success. Your 3rd sentence and the story about your friend is a bit of a contradiction though.

[–]abacabbmk-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not really. Women actively treat people different to their face, or talk shit to others to create some negative consequences. That doesn't happen with men, they just internalize or vent.

[–]kintsugi___10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

“Women who are happy with themselves do not go around tearing down other women.”

And then you go on to bash women for making choices you do not agree with.

Pot. Kettle. Black.

[–]StripperWhore6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What's wrong with male virgins? sounds like a dude wrote this

[–]hypointellectual2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Moral of the story: don’t hang out with people who have low self esteem and negative energy.

I just dropped a friend last year who was once of my best friends. She’s so fun to talk to and hang out with. But she was just so sloppy and emotionally needy. She was so insecure that she would hate on other girls for being prettier than her, or yell at a mutual friend because she had her picture taken unknowingly in public. Even when I wanted to celebrate my wins, I had to consciously consider whether or not I should tell her bc I didn’t want to upset her. She would get mad at people who worked out and lost weight. Her body count is prob at 30 now. She would curse out guys who wouldn’t text her back. Just omg too much to handle. I can’t.

For me, if I see a girl who dresses well, works out, has good habits, I want to befriend her and know her tips and tricks. I want to learn good habits! Women who hate other women dig their own graves. And I’m not going six feet under with someone nasty.

Protect your energy ladies!

[–]aussiedollface20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Totally agree with all of this! It’s important to surround yourself with friends of similar positive energy.

[–]JadedByEntropy6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wives, mothers, and hos hate me lol 😆 just cuz someone is married or birthed a human doesn't make them less jealous of a hot single with standards.

[–]rosesonthefloor3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree, it’s unfortunate that many people will tear down others that have what they want, or have what is considered “better.”

I’m sorry that you experienced bullying - I did too, and it really sucks! Try not to carry that resentment with you.

Feminine women are compassionate and kind, not hateful.

[–]LexiFromWestchester1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women should be supporting each other not tearing each other down. Stupid petty jealousy. Ultimately you just need to hang out with women who share your values.

[–]Freja_Walther10 points11 points  (14 children) | Copy Link

wow you sound like a peach/s

[–]MamaAbroad12 points13 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

We need more women that speak hard truths to each other! For example, the girlfriend who can tell you, “you are acting selfish in your relationship; you were wrong in that argument, go apologize to your boyfriend and make it right” that is your TRUE friend. The one who tells you to screw him and go out drinking and partying with her... more than likely, she’s not.

[–]Freja_Walther22 points23 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I fully agree, we need to expect eachother to be higher standard, and respecting the males in our lives.

I just think it's ironic how she said "Woman who is not happy with themselves feel the need to put others down" Yet felt the need to call another person overweight and unattractive. Even if that's the case, that's not a very feminine way of expressing an opinion.

But I assume that maybe it has been a heated moment, now when the person was cruel to OP. I realise we can all get heated and mean.

[–]Environmental_Ad586715 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I second this. While I overall agree with holding a higher standard for ourselves and respecting the men in our lives I think the framing of the message was a little bit off and almost came off as being a bit ‘holier than thou’.

Though I understand the sentiment. I was bullied viciously in school for being ‘that’ girl but kept my head down because I was hell bent in getting my medical degree. I’m lucky that I was considered attractive being mixed race so I modelled part time and was afforded a lot of opportunities including sponsors for beauty pageants, modelling gigs etc. I never had issues with meeting men and am currently with a HVM whom I adore completely (I didn’t settle down early because I wanted time to really zone in on what I needed and wanted in a partner, no regrets because I knew that settling down + kids in my 20s, I wasn’t ready) but throughout the early years, it was difficult to have genuine female friendships as I wasn’t sure if they had my back. Now I’m 30 and I’ve met wonderful supportive women in my circle of friends.

Also, I find it a little bit funny about this whole fear being 30 haha. I know this sub advocates ‘the wall’, settling down early when you’re at your highest SMV but if you take care of yourself, you’ll still be as beautiful as you are in your 20s plus added wisdom to add to that sexy self of yours.

Women are competitive by nature but I think we do need to acknowledge our blessings and be grateful that we have them. Living life comparing what you have is quite.... damaging and not a lot people have the same privilege as you might’ve had. Being born beautiful isn’t something terribly special because it just meant you got lucky with genetics. Saying that the girl was extremely unattractive overweight with high n count dating a male virgin just came off as a bit... vindictive which kinda makes it seem that you’re also singing the same tune as them.

Overall, I agree with you. Just the framing of it. Empathy goes a long way.

[–]Ionotropic_effect1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think having empathy is actually a quite feminine quality. And I agree with you about the “wall”, like you’re suddenly a crypt keeper once you turn 30 lol.

[–]IcarusKiki0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bluntness is a masculine trait. Compassion is a feminine one. Of course if a friend is destroying her life I’ll talk to her about it but I’m not going to give her a lecture because she has a higher body count or weighs more because I’m not perfect either

[–]MTB13579[S] 15 points16 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

Spend a semester at a very liberal university and you’ll understand

[–]IcarusKiki5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ok but don’t hold that bitterness in your heart it will only make you unattractive and more of a target. Love thy enemy as Christ said.

[–]amadexodus11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I do understand as I have been in academia for almost 8 years, but I think a little kindness would go a long way. Don't grow bitter.

[–]ILoveCuteKitties9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don’t worry you’re not wrong...at all.

[–]Freja_Walther1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Don’t care much for university, but again you are right I really have never been in that environment. But I do live in Denmark so it’s like a university everywhere mentality wise.

[–]Killertofuuuuuuuuuu0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Lol

[–]Freja_Walther-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You have something to say? University is not as common in Denmark. Imagine going thousands in debt for a degree you statisticly have very little chance to even using.

[–]Killertofuuuuuuuuuu0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I was laughing at this

so it’s like a university everywhere mentality wise

I don't disagree with you on the cost. I don't have a degree and have a good job. The internet exists.

[–]Freja_Walther-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sorry lmao, I just seen women in here getting very puffy when I talk about the need for a degree for some reason. So I guess I was expecting a shitstorm.

[–]DeLovehlyCoconute1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Someone needed to say it! Glad it was you!

[–]aussiedollface21 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I survived girls school and lived on female dorms and what you’re saying is straight up facts. Women can be brutal to eachother, especially at that age. Just keep your head high and cherish the good connections you do have with people. xo

[–]lord-denning1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

The key realization you have had is that many other women, even older women who are supposed to look out for you, are instead motivated by jealousy and their own baggage. That is phase 1.

Share this message amongst your circle. Create and contribute to groups (like this one) where you can develop and expand on this knowledge. That is phase 2.

I disagree with the other comments regarding phase 3. Holding your head high worked even 10 years ago, but the rapid descent of our civilization means that you will become even more of a target than you are now.

In my opinion phase 3 now involves (i) “faking” damaging information about yourself to take the pressure off (such as pretending to have an eating disorder) and other mechanisms so that you do not arouse jealousy and (ii) achieving your end goal of connecting with an RP man that inspires your confidence, trust and loyalty. You can then form a little bubble against the madness that is coming.

[–]rosesonthefloor1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Pretending to have a mental illness like an eating disorder is a pretty disgusting thing to do.

[–]lord-denning0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree not all would be comfortable with this approach, and that it may be overkill if you are just dealing with petty jealousy.

The broader point I am trying to make is that there are people out there that are absolutely pathological, and “holding your head up high” is not a game plan if you are facing that level of viciousness.

There is nothing wrong with finding ways to dim your light in front of those that would smash it to bits. How you do it is up to you.

[–]sparklesandsmiles-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Need this. Thankyou!

[–]Steaccy-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

“Women who are happy with themselves do not go around tearing down other women.”

“extremely unattractive overweight.”

“avoid these losers”

Practice what you preach girl.

[–]MTB13579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

There’s a difference between actively trying to damage someone life and calling a spade a spade on the internet

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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